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5 Troubling Facts About Male Rape Survivors
“1. It happens more often than you might think.” Cristen Conger is sharing new research that reveals how society fails men who are survivors of rape. Nobody deserves this – here’s what needs to change.
Read MoreMale Rape Is No Laughing Matter (Even Though We’re Taught to Think It Is)
Male rape survivors often face a specific kind of victim-blaming. One man shares his experience and why our culture’s idea of masculinity confirms that, to him, rape is sincerely hilarious.
Read MoreRegardless of The Perpetrator’s Identity, Rape Is Rape!
Rape is portrayed as something cis men do to cis women. This myth ignores the stories of too many survivors and protects their perpetrators who don’t identify as such. If we want to fight rape culture and advocate for all survivors, we have to stop gendering rape and upholding stereotypes. This infographic reminds us to support ALL survivors and hold ALL perpetrators accountable.
Read More5 Reasons We Need to Stop Making Jokes About Men Who Have Been Raped By Women
There was a terrible backlash after actor Shia LaBeouf told a reporter that a woman raped him. And unfortunately, the jokes made at his expense are not unusual. Here’s why the truth about male rape survivors is no laughing matter.
Read MoreThere’s a Rape Epidemic in America That No One Is Talking About: Debunking 4 Myths About Male Survivors
Due to patriarchy, our society does not want to acknowledge the frequency and impact of sexual violence directed at boys and men. Because of the misogynist socialization of masculinity, boys are taught to embrace and celebrate their abuse. This leads to years of silent trauma for too many men. Let’s debunk some of these harmful stereotypes and inaccurate myths.
Read MoreMen Holding Each Other Accountable for Rape Culture
In his spoken word poem “Action,” Guante reflects on how he should have held his friend accountable for the abusive way he spoke about and treated his girlfriend. He analyzes how the media teaches men to think of sex as violence and to victim blame. This poem asks men to speak up and reminds them that rape culture is dependent on their silence and complacency.
Read More7 Types of Serious Abuse We Don’t Take Seriously
Why are some forms of abuse seen as more acceptable to joke about than others? Here are seven examples that show what we miss when we take some forms of abuse less seriously.
Read More‘Should I Report My Rape?’ 5 Questions to Help You Decide
It’s not as easy as some people think to decide if you should report your rape – so we understand if you’re struggling with it. Asking yourself these questions can help.
Read More17 Lies We Need to Stop Teaching Boys About Sex
Men and boys are a big part of the equation in discussions about sex positivity, so let’s debunk these 17 myths boys often learn about sex.
Read More10 Pop Culture Characters Who Stayed Friends or Lovers with Their Rapists
The Simpsons, Gone with the Wind, Glee – some of our society’s most beloved movies and TV shows are trivializing rape in a dangerous way.
Read MoreAnti-Feminists: Stop Using Tragedies to Say Feminists ‘Don’t Care About Important Issues’
Wondering why feminists “don’t care” about men or anything other than first world problems? This author’s heard it all. So before you complain that this is why you hate feminism, we need to talk.
Read MoreThe Problem With How We’ve Defined Consent
Do society’s gender norms influence your idea of consent? Read this author’s breakdown and you’ll understand why our perspectives need to change – and how we can start to change them.
Read MoreWhy Girls Today Think Sexual Harassment Is Normal Stuff
A recent study finds that girls who’ve suffered sexual harassment often see it as “normal stuff” that “just happens” because it’s what “guys do.” Translation: they frame their own experiences of harassment based on cultural notions about what gender and sexuality are — or should be. Sad, then, isn’t it, that those cultural notions are often bullshit.
Read MoreStill Think Rape Jokes Are Harmless Fun?
Some people think its funny when boys joke about rape. They argue that people who speak out against those jokes, and the culture that encourages and allows them, are humorless. But those boys eventually turn into teenagers and men, some of whom DO commit actual sexual violence that predominately, but not exclusively, target women. This must stop now!
Read More4 Reasons Why Men Joke About Gay Rape
As a gay feminist, I’ve had to tell many the straight boy, “Those jokes make me feel uncomfortable. Please stop.” The percussive nature of gay rape jokes can certainly get a laugh, but they also speak to some of our societal attitudes regarding rape and queer sexuality. Here are some answers to the question, “Why do people think gay rape jokes are okay?”
Read MoreWhat Is White/Male Privilege?
You can’t spend more than a few minutes in a feminist space without hearing people talk about privilege. And if you’re new to feminism, the concept can be overwhelming. What exactly does “privilege” mean? What does it look like in today’s society? Check out this video from Marina Watanabe for an explanation of white privilege and male privilege!
Read MoreThe ‘Problem’ With Male Virginity
I’ve talked before about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men. Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it. One of the best places to start is to talk about sex. Specifically: male virginity and the shame in not having sex. Let’s talk about the problems with the way we think about male virginity and how to fix them.
Read More5 Ways That Being Against Sexism Doesn’t Mean You Hate Men
When women express discomfort with sexism, men in particular jump to the conclusion that they must be man haters to make such a fuss. This seems to be the primary deterrent preventing women from speaking out against sexism. But here’s the thing: Being against sexism is not the same thing as being against men. Let’s debunk five myths about this misconception.
Read More5 Reasons Why I Identify As a Rape Victim, Not a Rape Survivor
“You’re not a victim. You’re a survivor.” You may have said this to someone who was sexually assaulted – until recently, this author did, too. Here’s what changed her mind.
Read MorePondering Male Privilege Post-Transition
The reality of male privilege is well established. There is no question that being female carries a significant “life penalty” with it. There’s no denying that male privilege exists. However, sometimes it feels taboo to ask how far male privilege goes. Who better to ask about it, though, than trans men and women who have lived on both sides of the divide?
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