If you’re like I used to be, you’re probably thrilled that the summer is ending. Soon you’ll be able to wear a sweater without being sweaty. No more spending hours trying to figure out what to wear to a pool party.
But it’s not like your body image issues go away in the Fall.
You’re probably still finding yourself:
- Struggling to get dressed in the morning
- Worrying about your weight and thinking about how you should change it
- Thinking of ways to cover up your body and camouflage “problem areas”
- Wondering if the new folks you meet will judge you for your body
- Asking yourself when your mother will stop nagging you about losing (or gaining) weight
As feminists, we can often identify these questions as internalized patriarchal messages about what our bodies “should” look like in order to be socially acceptable (and, of course, worthy of a man, health, and happiness).
And while we can often intellectually acknowledge these messages as wrong and sexist, we too often feel ashamed about not having the “ideal” body type.
And then, on top of that, we might feel bad about being “bad” feminists because we have body image issues!
So let’s imagine, for a moment, what it might be like to actually feel good about your body:
- No matter your shape or size – fat, small, pear-shaped, chubby, apple-shaped, skinny
- No matter how conventionally “attractive” or “unattractive” you are
- Without going on an extreme diet or exercise regime
- Regardless of what other people say about your body
What else might you do, be, or have? How would you feel at that party, at work, on a date? How would you feel getting dressed in the morning?
What else could you do with all that time and energy that normally gets sucked into the body shame cycle?
The possibilities for your life are endless!
I know this because I made the shift myself and I’ve been helping others do it for the last five years as a body image coach. And I want to share with you what has proven to work with so many others.
This all-inclusive 60-day course will give you access to some of my most powerful techniques to heal from negative body images issues and begin your body love journey.
Plus, you’ll get support in applying these techniques to your life through group coaching calls, forum access, and an online community of feminists all seeking greater body acceptance.
Normally, a group coaching program like this would cost $300. But Everyday Feminism is committed to making this course more accessible through a reduced price, referral discounts, and even scholarships.
And to sweeten the deal, I’m throwing in an Early Bird Bonus. The first 20 people get a $15 discount off their next purchase from our Feminist Pride Shop!
Registration closes on Friday, September 13th and there are limited spaces available. So if you’re ready to enroll, don’t put it off!
I hope to see you in the course!
Golda Poretsky, HHC
Founder of Body Love Wellness
Fall Into Body Love Course Leader
and Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism
This online course will guide you through a self-discovery process to help you incorporate body-loving actions into your daily life.
As you begin to transform the way you feel about your body, you’ll:
- Feel more comfortable in your body – by yourself, with your partner, with new people
- Set boundaries with people who comment on your body – from family, friends, to strangers
- Feel more confident in every area of your life – from having more self-acceptance and energy to feeling more comfortable dating and meeting new people
- Feel more comfortable wearing clothes that may be outside of your comfort zone right now
- Have more fun, and be able to happily say “yes!” to invitations that sound fun.
I didn’t always feel great about my body. In fact, I felt quite the opposite for most of my life.
When I was 4 years old, a little boy told me I couldn’t ride the bike because I was fat. I came home upset to my mother whose response was to put me on a diet. I didn’t stop dieting until I was about 28 and have more diets than I can count, from Weight Watchers, Atkins, to diet pills and shakes.
I was taught – as women in our society are – that weight loss is the key to everything – from social acceptance, health, to attractiveness. If we got to some magical weight or looked a certain way, our big dreams will come true.
So I dieted tons and like most of us, I never got to this supposed dream weight, and even if I did, it was very temporary. So I just ended up spending so much time trying to get even thinner or stay where I was.
And for those of us whose body image issues aren’t centered around weight, there’s still a belief that if we could just look a certain way, everything else will work out.
This was my life for 24 years. And even though I had the outward appearance of success, like getting a full scholarship to college and attending a top 5 law school, I didn’t feel successful.
I didn’t feel confident. I didn’t feel empowered. And I certainly didn’t feel attractive.
Maybe I had moments of feeling attractive at my thinnest size, but even then I was also consumed with fear of gaining back the weight.
I was fortunate, however, to stumble upon some helpful guides even before I learned about body acceptance and health at every size – from changing negative recurring thoughts, studying the divine feminine, to learning about intuitive eating practices.
Over time, I got the support I needed to radically change the way I felt about my own body.
I wanted to bring that gift to others and so my body loving coaching practice blossomed from there.
And through this course, you’ll gain the tools necessary to feel better about your body and more empowered in your body.
You’ll learn proven techniques to incorporate into your daily life in these four 2-week long modules.
Module 1 – Uncovering Your Inner Critic
Get clarity on what’s keeping you stuck and learn proven strategies for clearing away the toxic voices that keep you in thinking patterns and habits that don’t serve you by:
- Distinguishing between your inner critic and your inner wisdom
- Releasing fears and stress around your weight, appearance, and health
- Identifying what your inner critic may be doing to sabotage your well-being and from feeling good about your body
- Making your environment less triggering for you
Module 2 – Body Love Re-Patterning
See yourself and your body through new eyes and address any resistance that may come up as you change your relationship with your body by:
- Knowing where it’s important for you to start when working toward more body- and self-love
- Enhancing your positive feelings about your body
- Working past resistance to feeling more comfortable with your body
- Seeing the beauty and attractiveness in you as you are now
Module 3 – Setting Loving, Solid Boundaries
Practice setting loving boundaries around your body as well as food and exercise choices to others by:
- Identifying how compromising on what you want negatively affects your body image
- Using a one-for-one-script that acknowledge the other person’s concern while asserting your boundaries
- Compromising less and expressing more of your needs and wants effectively
Module 4 – Continuing on the Ongoing Adventure
Body love is a lifelong journey, and it will take more than 60 days for you to heal your body image issues completely. But you now have the new tools and habits to help them stick by:
- Continually “crowding out” body hatred with pleasure
- Developing an easy and schedule-friendly self care system that indulges your senses and takes care of you, inside and out
- Feeling good with the amount of space that you take up – no matter how much or how little
- Staying connected with all that you learned without backtracking
In addition to everything already in the course, we’re including these 3 bonuses to help you explore other aspects of healing your relationship with your body:
But Here’s Why That’s Crap
We’ve all been bombarded with the toxic message that in order for women’s bodies to be acceptable, we need to look like Barbie – thin, tiny waist, large breasts, skinny arms, tall-ish, shapely butt, long thin legs, blond, white, young, able-bodied, etc.
Most of us can’t achieve that type of body – even with excessive dieting or exercising. And even if we happen to have a body like Barbie’s, we may still be unhappy with it. We still get pressures to stay that way (or else!) as well as get criticized for being “too” thin.
On top of that, we’re told that there’s a health epidemic of obesity happening in the US. And this translates to: if you’re fat or even chubby, you must be unhealthy. And similarly, that if you are naturally thin and have protruding bones, then you must have an eating disorder.
So we’re even more justified in shaming and policing people for their bodies – regardless of their health status.
Given all these myths about “acceptable” bodies, this course is going to help you debunk each one and show you that what your body looks like doesn’t determine your self-worth or what you deserve in life.
Myth 1 – If I’m ok with my body, then I’ll just let myself go.
We’re taught that we need to shame people into conforming to the “ideal” body type. If we don’t, they’ll just revert to their lazy, slovenly ways and be miserable for the rest of their lives.
Um, no. Shaming is a terrible way of motivating someone. Shame doesn’t make you stronger, grow, be healthier, or even be sane. It actually usually makes you be paralyzed with shame. Instead of the “no pain, no gain” approach, this course will help you use pleasure as a guide and take care of your body from a place of love and not fear.
Myth 2 – If I become comfortable with my weight, I’ll be putting my health at risk.
There are some people who are fat and unhealthy, sure. But there are also some people who are fat and healthy as well as people who are thin and unhealthy. And in fact, sometimes having some extra pounds helps with recovering from certain diseases while with others, it hinders.
All this means is that if you want to become healthier, then focus on healthy behaviors and how you feel in your body – not weight. This course will help you stop shaming yourself for your body and start loving it – and if that includes becoming healthier, go for it! You can be healthy at any size.
Myth 3 – If I’m confident about my body, people will judge me for it.
Some people will continue to judge you for your body. And since we live in a sexist, racist, classist, homophobic, transphobic, ableist society, judgment, stigmatization, and marginalization will continue to happen.
But there’s plenty of judgmental messages you get that you don’t experience as toxic – because you don’t believe in them. This course will help you step away from the toxic beliefs and move toward positive affirmations as well as show you how to stand up for yourself.
Myth 4 – I have to look that way in order to be happy and successful and have a great partner.
While the world does treat “attractive” people better in different ways, it doesn’t actually mean they’re happier. What’s more relevant is how comfortable you feel in your own body. This affects how empowered and comfortable you feel at work, in your relationships, being intimate, etc.
This self-confidence comes from inside – from your belief that you are good enough, lovable, and important. This course will help you unpack the effects of the media and beauty and diet industries that thrive on negative body image, and it will retrain your brain to see your inherent self-worth.
Myth 5 – I know all these social expectations are crap, but I can’t seem to stop believing in them!
By now, this toxic belief has created a deep groove in your brain – cut deeper with each message we receive saying we’re too ugly, too fat, too whatever over the course of our lives. And it can be hard to change the way that you feel about your body when everyone around you seems to hate theirs.
So of course, it’s going to take some concerted effort to unlearn all of that. We can’t just wish those internalized beliefs away! But with this course, you’ll learn new ways to look at resistance and permission in healing your body image.
We’ve all been bombarded by these myths since a very young age. It’s time to free ourselves from these body shaming messages and embrace our bodies as they are.
Still have questions? Here are answers to some common ones, but contact us if you have others!
I’d love to take the course but I’m worried that I’m really busy. How much time will this course take per week?
This course is designed to give you the minimum to start healing your body image issues as well as the option to be more actively getting support from Golda and your fellow course members. If you just do the module reading and exercises, it should take you approximately 1-2 hours per week. If you want to get additional support via group coaching calls and forum, it should take around 3-4 hours per week.
If I don’t have the extra money to pay for this course right now but I really want to take it, what should I do?
We’ve purposely underpriced this 8-week course at $79 (the equivalent of just $10 per week) to make it more financially accessible. However, we understand that within our community, even $10 per week may be too much for some. So here are some ways to manage the fee and still access the course:
- Pay in monthly installments: If you can’t pay the full price all at once, you can pay it in 2 monthly installments of $38. Click here to do so.
- Refer someone: If someone signs up and notes that you referred them at check out, you will get 25% of the fee ($20) refunded to you. So if you get 4 friends to join you, you get the course for free! Note that this also retroactive, so it’s ok if you’ve already signed-up, you’ll still get the discount!
- Apply for a scholarship: One out of every four dollars from course sales goes into a scholarship fund for people unable to pay the full price. Click here to learn more.
Is there a repeat customer discount?
Yes, there is a 15% discount! If you’ve enrolled in one of our previously offered online courses and are enrolling in a new one, please email Sandra at firstname.lastname@example.org to let us know that and we’ll refund you 15% off the new online course’s price.
How will I access everything?
The course starts on Monday, September 16th when you will be given access to a special Fall Into Body Love course members section on the Everyday Feminism website. You will be able to access all written materials, recordings, schedule of live sessions, and the online forum here. You will also get regular emails notifying you of when new lesson materials are available and reminders on the weekly action plans and group coaching sessions.
Where will the live group coaching sessions take place? How long are they? What happens if I miss one? Is it accessible for deaf people?
They are 90 minute telephone conference calls. All sessions are recorded as audio files and posted in the course member’s area for later listening. Written transcripts are also provided for people who prefer to read. If you have a question to ask, remember you can always ask it in the online forum. Between the written transcripts and forum, the course is accessible to people with hearing impairments.
We’re so absolutely sure that you’ll love the course that we’re offering an unconditional, no-questions-asked 30-day money back guarantee.
If you sign up, go through the first month, and aren’t 100% satisfied, we’ll refund your money.
So there’s no risk to signing up and getting the body love and support you deserve!