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3 Common Ways Our Personal Actions Don’t Match Our Political Values — And How It Hurts Our Movements
We can relate to this – solidarity in our movements, but hurting each other in our personal lives. Can you?
Read MoreGaslighting Is a Common Victim-Blaming Abuse Tactic – Here Are 4 Ways to Recognize It in Your Life
Ever felt like you couldn’t trust your own memory? Many people with abusive partners or family can relate. Here’s how to tell if it’s happening you.
Read More5 Ways Trumpcare Screws Over LGBTQ+ Seniors
As I get older, making new friends within the LGBTQ+ community becomes more difficult. My 30-year-old self rarely seeks out kindred spirits on the dance floor because my body just won’t allow for it. In addition, queer-friendly spaces that aren’t nightclubs are rapidly shutting down due to gentrification. This bothers me because building accountable and…
Read More5 Wonderful Ways to Raise Inclusive Kids
Do you know about the Trump Effect on our children? It’s as bad as it sounds, but these tips for inclusivity can help combat it.
Read More5 Ways the LGBTQIA+ Movement Fails at Intersectionality
This author’s queer and gender non-conforming – so why say “the LGBTQIA+ movement is not for me”? These reasons show how the movement is missing the point of liberation.
Read More5 Alarming Ways That Climate Change Is Racist
Do you know about the impact of environmental racism? Climate change is affecting vulnerable communities, and it’s time to do something about it.
Read More5 Fantastic Ways to Engage in Feminist Hookup Culture
Hookup culture can be really sexist – so is it possible to enjoy casual sex without the misogyny? Yes! Check out these tips for a more empowering time.
Read More5 Great Ways to Practice Loving Accountability
Accountability has become a hot topic among activists – but do you know how to actually practice accountability in a loving way? These concrete tips can help you address harmful behavior.
Read More5 Ways That Science Supports Feminism – Not Gender Essentialism
Ever come across the anti-feminist objection that “science” and “biology” determine gender roles? Here are the fascinating facts that throw that idea out the window.
Read MoreStop Your White Fragility – It’s Racial Violence and Here’s Why
Have you participated in white fragility? This author’s calling in her fellow white allies who put their feelings before racial justice, or say things like “not all white people.” All white allies could use this info on how to do better.
Read More4 Ways Parents Can Support Their Mixed Race Children
If you have or are planning to have children who are mixed race, then this author’s tips can help you avoid some common pitfalls and give your child the support they need.
Read MoreBlack Lives Matter: 25+ Resources for Your Conversations on Police Violence
How do you handle conversations on police violence and racism? This list can help, with info on structural racism, allyship, self-care for Black folks, and more.
Read More8 Ways For Men to Be Allies to Women at Parties Without Being Paternalistic
Parties can be profoundly dangerous places, especially for women. But men attempting to be a good ally to women can quickly devolve into some paternalistic “white knighting” that can easily recreate the very systems of power and oppression that we’re looking to undermine. So how can men prevent sexual violence and act as allies to women at parties?
Read MoreHere’s What Is (And Isn’t) Working in Men’s Work on College Campuses
Being on a college campus is a unique opportunity to promote healthy relationships to masculinity and reduce sexual violence by engaging men. But there are a lot of dangers in doing this work. Here are some ideas for doing it responsibly.
Read More8 Tips on Respectfully Talking Pleasure, Sex, and Bodies With Your Trans Lover
It’s super important to have conversations about sexual boundaries, consent, and desires with your lovers. These conversations keep us safer, but there aren’t many examples for how to respectfully and non-fetishistically have them when your lover is trans. This article provides insight on how to compassionately negotiate sexual dialogue with your trans partner.
Read More5 Essential Ways to Support the Autistic Community in Autism Acceptance
You know it’s bad when an autistic person dreads every Autism Awareness Month. Let’s do better as allies with these tips.
Read More8 Ways Allies Can Show Up For the Queer Community After Orlando
If you want to help support queer folks as we heal from the horrific violence in Orlando, these are some great ways to step up as an ally.
Read MoreHow the Black Community Can Be More Supportive of Black Queer Women
Queer black women too often have to deal with being labeled selfish, rebellious, or white acting by the black community. But while that homophobia is real, many black people strive to be allies. This includes understanding why queer black women don’t always feel safe in their own communities and what they can do to help.
Read More15 Common Phrases That Are Way More Ableist Than You May Realize
“You’re so inspirational!” How would you feel if people treated you like a support group treated this author? These phrases are everywhere, even from people who don’t mean to be ableist and hurtful – but here’s why they hurt.
Read More5 Ways to Rebuild And Love Yourself After An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
If I could describe the impact and aftermath of emotional abuse in one word, it would be invisible. Emotional abuse may leave no physical marks, but the depth of the scars and the weight of the pain creates a burden that people can’t see—or don’t want to. According to Psychology Today’s Andrea Matthews, emotionally abusive…
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