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This Dad’s Apology to His Daughter Nails the Problem With Chores and Gender Roles
“Sorry on behalf of every dad who set the wrong example.” This #SharetheLoad campaign makes an important point about gender roles that often goes unsaid.
Read MoreClaiming 6 Personal Rights as a Vietnamese, Gender Non-Conforming Femme
“I have the right to reject what you consider respectable.” As a non-binary, gender non-conforming Vietnamese femme, this author has had too many rights denied. Now they’re reclaiming them.
Read MoreGrowing Up Black and Non-Binary – Finding Liberation Beyond the Gender Binary
“It’s okay to live your truth exactly how it looks.” From an early age, this author didn’t feel right trying to fit the binary of “man” or “woman.” This is a moving story of connecting with identity outside of society’s norms.
Read More4 Reasons It’s Oppressive to Discuss Gender and Sexuality Without Naming Race
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that “solidarity” for marginalized genders and sexualities means centering whiteness. Here’s how this is happening, and why it needs to stop.
Read More3 Ways Gender and Sexuality Are More Fluid Than We Think
This author’s identity is more fluid than they once thought. These lessons they’ve learned through the process of discovering that might just change your perspective on gender and sexuality, too.
Read MoreGender and Sexuality Labels Are Complicated – And Here’s Why They’re Still Valid
Do you ever feel like we should just get rid of labels for gender and sexuality? It’s true that identity is complicated – but Kelly Kitgawa’s breaking down why labels are still worth keeping around.
Read MoreWhat It’s Like to Transcend Gender Expectations with My Genderqueer Fabulous Life
“My gender is an everything bagel.” Gender fluidity means many different things to different people – and this author has some awesome insights on what it means to their “unapologetic, bodacious, beautiful self.”
Read More3 Reasons to Doubt the Most Widely Believed Biology-Based Gender Myths
When a behavior feels like second nature, it’s hard to imagine that it could be learned. But here are some of the many facts that challenge the idea of biological gender roles.
Read MoreThis Awesome Comic Shows Why Gender Transition Isn’t a Race
If you’re feeling overwhelmed in your gender transition like this artist did, you’ll love this story of how taking baby steps can help you explore what’s right for you!
Read MoreWhat to Do When Your Child Believes Gender Bias
“My hair’s too long for a boy.” How would you feel if your child said something like this? These great ideas for what to do show why it’s so important to respond when your child makes gender-based comments.
Read More8 Comics That Remind Us to Throw Out the Gender Binary
Society sure is stuck on the idea that you can determine gender from genitals – and that gender only comes in two options. And that’s frustrating! That’s why comic artist Sophie Labelle took to the Internet to remind folks to think beyond the gender binary. Check out these cute comics and share them with others who need the reminder!
Read MoreNo, The Existence of Trans People Doesn’t Validate Gender Essentialism
Allyship with trans people is a core component to intersectional feminism. Yet there is still one question that consistently comes up: “Don’t trans people validate that men and women must exist within certain societal roles? Doesn’t it perpetuate gender essentialism?” Not so fast. Read on to understand how supporting diverse experiences obliterates essentialism.
Read More7 Ways to Lovingly Support Your Gender Non-Binary Partner
What To Do (And Not Do) When Someone Asks for Different Gender Pronouns
So you know someone who has felt comfortable enough to ask you to refer to them by different gender pronouns. This is a big step for them, and the way you proceed is very important. Some of the most common reactions and behaviors can have damaging effects on the person. Check out this comic for a simple introduction to the DOs and DON’Ts of pronoun etiquette!
Read More11 Myths, Misconceptions, and Lies About Gender Non-conforming Children
When a moving video about a transgender child went viral, this author saw some common ideas in the unkind comments section. It’s time to put these myths to rest.
Read More4 Ways to Honor Your Child’s Gender Autonomy
Although they do a majority of their learning through observation of their peers in social situations, children’s groundwork for understanding gender is largely influenced by the adults they see in their family systems. If you don’t talk about gender, children will learn society’s gender model. Here are five ways to facilitate your child’s gender autonomy.
Read More4 Reasons Why Gender Neutral Isn’t Always the Answer
As the author of a book called “gender-neutral” parenting, it might sound like I would argue that buying a “girls only” toy is sexist and teaches kids the wrong thing. It is easy to focus on how well the toy fits into the stereotypes of the pink aisle at the toy store instead of how it breaks the mold of the pink aisle. So here’s why I think that toys like Goldie Blox can be good ideas.
Read MoreGender Neutral Parenting: 5 Ways To Avoid Implicit Sexism
In parenting, the real issue isn’t that there are differences between genders, but how parents react to those differences. If we can identify areas where we may have a bias, we can direct our awareness there to overcome it or compensate for it. Let’s look at some ways to compensate for implicit bias in our parenting.
Read MoreThings I’ve Learned from Writing Under a Gender-Neutral Name
When someone wants to tear apart my writing, they often bring up my presumed gender to do so. My presumed femaleness is never mentioned with respect. They say, “Stop being so easily offended, b*tch.” Femaleness is used to discredit me in a way that maleness is not. When I’m presumed male, my maleness never comes up at all. Because maleness is our societal default setting, it’s never mentioned.
Read MoreHow To Respond To People Who Put Your Child Into Narrow Gender Boxes
I believe shoving children into the culturally created gender binary can be crippling and try to do gender neutral parenting instead. So when someone gives my 1 year old son a toy hammer and tells him it’s time he toughens up or insults a toy vacuum as girly, we have issues. Here are a few methods I’ve developed to help alleviate the stress that our gendered society can pose on a family.
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