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Your 3-Step Guide to Practicing Non-Oppressive BDSM
Some people think it’s contradictory to be a feminist and practice BDSM. With these tips, you can think through even more than safe words and and consent – and get kinky without compromising your values.
Read MoreThe Whole Truth of Coming Out of the Closet – In Comic Form
“Coming out of the closet” is understanding of LGBTQIA+ experiences. But do you know about the many different meanings of being “out” for different people?
Read More5 Questions You’ll Want to Ask Yourself Before Getting into an Online Argument
STOP! Before you get into a debate with that awful Facebook commenter, ask yourself these questions to figure out if that’s a good move for you.
Read More4 Reasons We Need to Ditch the Myth That It’s Cool to Ask Until She Says ‘Yes’
We’ve all rooted for that guy in the movies who finally gets the girl. But in real life? This myth of pursuing until she “gives in” is dangerous – here’s why.
Read More4 Reasons Anti-Feminist Women Hate Feminism (And What They’re Missing)
“I don’t need feminism because I’m not a victim!” Ever believed one of these myths about feminism? Let’s debunk these misconceptions.
Read MoreThe Difference Between ‘Asexual’ and ‘Aromantic’ Matters – Here’s Why
Does your understanding of sex and romance include the difference between asexual and aromantic? This shows why the distinction is so important.
Read More5 Ways People Justify Adults Having Sex with Minors – And Why It’s Still Not Okay
Of course you believe it’s wrong for adults to have sex with minors – unless a minor isn’t a “perfect victim,” right? Make sure you know why these cases are still wrong.
Read More5 Times I Didn’t Have to ‘Love Myself to Be Loved By Someone Else’
Is it true that you can’t love somebody else until you love yourself? That’s what people say, but these stories can remind you that it’s okay to accept healing love from others.
Read MoreIt’s Hard Introducing New Sexual Desires into Relationships – Here Are 6 Ways to Start
“1. Get Comfortable with Your Desires.” If you’re not sure how to start a conversation with your partner about what you want, these steps should help.
Read More3 Reasons Why ‘If I Ever Met a Rapist, I’d Punch Him’ Isn’t Helpful
You might think it’s supportive to threaten a rapist with violence. But here’s why it doesn’t make this author (and many other survivors) feel any safer.
Read MoreNot Sure How to Discuss Sexual Desires with Your Partner? We’ve Got You Covered
You can find plenty of resources on “how to please your partner” – but having real conversation with your partner is the best sex tip out there. Here are some practical ways to make communication happen.
Read More12 Personal Rights Women Have in Intimate Relationships
This author was taught to always put others’ needs first. Everyone deserves these things in a relationship, and if you’re a woman, you can probably use these reminders.
Read More4 Questions to Ask the Pro-Science, Anti-Feminist Advocates in Your Life
“Men and women are fundamentally different.” Do you know anyone who thinks science and biology prove feminism wrong? Try asking these questions to show them what science is really saying.
Read MoreStop Thinking They’re ‘Out of Your League’ – And Try This Instead
Ever felt like someone you wanted to date was “out of your league?” Here are the thought patterns this concept traps you in – with more helpful ways to think about dating.
Read More5 Myths People Believe About Aromanticism That Just Aren’t True
“All aros are asexual.” Have you bought into any of these myths about aromantic identity? You might be surprised by how much the truth changes your perception.
Read More7 Questions to Brace Yourself For When You Explain Polyamory to Your Family
Hopefully you’ll have more time to prepare for this conversation than this author’s metamour did! And you’ll probably need answers for these tough questions.
Read MoreWant Sex Tips That Actually Help? Try These 4 Activities to Connect to Your Body
Lots of sex advice includes new tricks, toys, and positions. But if you’re like this author, those kinds of tips aren’t helpful – because the first step is to connect with your body. These tips can help you get there.
Read More7 Ways to Make Your Wedding More Socially Conscious (And Feminist!)
The institution of marriage isn’t exactly designed for folks who don’t fit the mold. But you can reclaim it – here are some fun and socially conscious ideas for creating a wedding that’s just right for you.
Read MoreGetting With Girls Like Us: A Radical Guide to Dating Trans Women for Cis Women
Trans women are a component of queer women’s communities, so a lack of respect amongst us just means more devaluing of women, when society dishes out plenty of that for all of us already. So with that in mind, I have put together some suggestions for cis women on thinking through some basic trans issues, including ideas on approaching trans women in a romantic or intimate context.
Read MoreHere Are 7 Reasons Why Polyamory Is More Difficult When You’re Disabled
Though polyamory has become (slightly) more mainstream-most articles and self-help books focus on abled and neurotypical folks. As someone who’s disabled and non-monogamous, it’s hard for me to relate to most of them. So many of the things me and my partner(s) have to navigate are often ignored or glossed over. Mainstream polyamory discourse generally…
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