It happens like that – one minute I can be self-assured, and then the next, someone says something that makes me question my capabilities, or else something happens where I feel like I should’ve done better than I had. And because it’s so easy for us to go from high to low, what’s most important is to figure out ways to boost ourselves back up. Here are some techniques.
I’ve heard a lot of people verbally beating themselves up. “I just feel stupid for doing that” or “I feel like I’ve made some poor decisions.” We want to honor all of the feelings that we feel, but it’s healthy if we let ourselves off the hook for feeling whatever it is we’re feeling. Letting yourself be as you are is hard, but it’s also possible. Here are some techniques to help you through.
There are challenges to putting self-care into practice, the biggest one probably being time. But you do have control over how you use it. Because when we care for ourselves, the greater purpose attached to that is the well-being of ourselves and others. And since even small acts of self-care can be revolutionary, don’t be afraid to take some time for you.
Have you ever wanted to say something to your partner, friend, or family member, but just couldn’t get the words out? You may be scared to say what you feel because feeling anything at all is scary. But what’s far more frightening is if you don’t say anything. It’s your responsibility to break the cycle. So here are some ideas if you’re itching to begin.
In second grade, I learned that I was academically slower to learn than most. This was the first time that I remember feeling stupid, but it wasn’t the last. Maybe you’ve experienced something similar. Maybe at some point in your life, you just felt somehow less than everybody else, somehow inadequate. You’re not alone. The good news is that we can change our relationship to this feeling.
Nobody wants to be a quitter. It’s a concept ingrained into the fabric of our social being. But what if my work environment is making me irritable, anxious, and unhealthy? Is it “wrong” to quit then? In some contexts, quitting is actually the best option. Leaving can be the end of something, sure. But it can also be the beginning of something else.
I wanted to love, I just didn’t know how. I looked at love and saw pain, loss, jealousy, and rejection. Love was stressful. At times, I would love too much. Then too little. Then not at all. For the past couple of years, I’ve been learning how to love and the barriers to bash through to do so. If you find yourself in a similar position, here are some tips to get you started.
Now, although I love investing emotionally in movies, I am always cognizant that they show the before and after transformation quickly, never expounding upon the work that it takes to reach the end goal. And I always recognized that this part was unrealistic. But it made me wonder: How was I supposed to figure out what I wanted to be? How was I supposed to achieve it?
Paying attention to how you use your words is core to keeping the relationship you have with yourself healthy. By cutting certain words and phrases out of my vernacular, I’ve created more space for more positive thoughts and feelings. Letting go of limiting speech has helped me like myself more – because now I’m not criticizing who I am at every turn. And that’s helped me make myself a priority.
There are three parties in a relationship: you, your partner, and the relationship itself. You have to take care of yourself first and make sure you are truly happy in order to flourish with a partner. Relationships ought to bring benefit to you. Here are some ways to make sure you take responsibility for maintaining yourself and your relationship.