As male feminists, it’s easy to criticize the misogyny of the MRAs. But how often do we turn the lens around? There are stories from every era of the feminism — stories of men talking the talk of feminism, gaining trust, and using that trust to hurt, abuse, and act in profoundly anti-feminist ways. Here are six things we need to do starting right now to fight this.
Whiteness is a system that was created for the sole purpose of consolidating power in the hands of a few in the US. And so, we face a choice: continue to invest in white supremacy, which dehumanizes everyone, or stand on the side of justice and regain our humanity. Ask yourself: What are you willing to give? And then check out these four ways to divest from whiteness.
Most parents don’t want to believe that their child is capable of doing anything wrong — especially bullying others. But the truth is, this denial is only making the problem worse. Parents and guardians are the ones who have to face the reality of bullying, and take charge against it. Here are some helpful tips on how to begin this difficult process.
We need more men to understand how the messages we receive about sex hurt more than women — that these messages hurt us in myriad ways, too. It’s time that we name the ways that patriarchy teaches men to pursue unhealthy sexuality in ways that hurt everyone. Thus, I want to analyze four of the most prominent messages men are taught about our sexuality.
Despite progress in raising awareness of sexual violence, there are still those who attempt to lay people’s trauma on a spectrum with one end being “shut up, it’s not that bad” and the other end being “legitimate rape.” All this ends up doing is denying the pain of survivors. Here are four important things we need to do in order to abandon perpetrator logic.
I would posit that there are a few things that it’s about time all White people figured out. These are things we’ve been told collectively by people of Color countless times, but we don’t seem to be hearing them. Perhaps we can hear them differently when called in by a White person to consider how we can actively work to end racial injustice and oppression.
No, not all men will be like the USCB shooter, but if we are not actively working to dismantle the ways in which men learn the type of entitlement that he felt, then we are surely contributing to the wider problem. We cannot expect women to be the only one’s leading men to change. So here are 10 simple ways that men can combat sexist entitlement in public.
When I do Q&A sessions with young people, a White young person will usually ask, “How do you feel about Affirmative Action? It’s not fair that I will have less of a chance of getting into college because of what happened in the past!” Ask any White person how they feel about Affirmative Action, and you’ll probably hear that it is “unfair.” This is just not true.
Recently I got an angry e-mail from someone who knows my parents pretty well, and had read something I had written about privilege. “How disrespectful can you be!? You’re spitting in the face of everything your parents have worked for.” I explained that acknowledging privilege doesn’t discredit any of my dad’s hard work. It simply puts that hard work in context.
I want to see a masculinity where love, power with, and compassion replace dominance, power over, and violence — a masculinity where some of those good messages I learned from the men in my life endure while leaving behind the destructive things that hurt me and so many other male-identified people. In short, we need a new way to understand ourselves as men.