Though the root of the word “inspiration” points toward an automatic self-generated process — breathing inward, or inhaling — I still often look to be inspired by someone or something outside of myself. It was not until I started to consider inspiration as a force that can only be born inside me, that I started to create positive changes in my life.
Often, straight men become frustrated when they meet a woman who doesn’t trust them immediately. They’re frustrated that women impose a “guilty until proven innocent” mentality on all men. But there are reasons why women feel this way. If we can work to understand those reasons, we can learn how to work with her in a supportive role, if that’s what she wants.
As a feminist, an activist, a parent of two boys, and a sexual health educator, I struggle with how to balance my sensibilities with my parenting style. And an issue that I am very connected to is rape culture. How does a parent compete with the constant assault of stereotypes and overwhelming sex-negative messaging in the media? Here are a few suggestions.
At one point during this year’s Oscars ceremony, it dawned on me: Many people don’t know the difference between trans* women and drag queens! There seems to be an assumption that all people assigned male at birth who grow up to wear clothing from the women’s section identify the same way. That couldn’t be further from the truth. So let’s talk about this difference.
You know that friend that’s always pointing out how every commercial features mostly white people, and who ruins the best parts of movies by saying, “This scene is so sexist”? Ever considered that maybe they’re just media literate? Check out this week’s video headline for an introduction into what media literacy is and why you should care about it!
When it comes to sexuality and feminism, one of the biggest roadblocks that we face – both in unlearning our own educations and in teaching others – is how social messages conflict with our own authenticity. What are some ways in which we can transform public thought about sexual “norms” and reconcile our feminist beliefs with social norms surrounding sex?
When my partner Drew and I decided to have a baby, we initially didn’t even consider surrogacy. We eventually realized that, no matter which path we chose, the road ahead would be bumpy. That’s when we gave surrogacy a more serious look, and we found that the fears that scared us away from it were all unfounded. Here’s what we were afraid of, and what we learned.
As with all other systems of oppression, rape culture is a beast with tentacles and spores across countless other facets of inequality. The following 3 things may not appear to be major components of rape culture at first glance, but undoubtedly fuel and are fueled by it. Dismantling and addressing these things must be part of our movement to end rape culture.
Have you ever been so angry at a situation that you felt at a complete loss to take action? I have. For years, I was stuck behind walls that I had created for myself. I eventually realized that what was holding me down were the experiences that I had yet to let go of. So if you find yourself in a similar situation, here is what I’ve learned about how to let go.
So you’ve been reading about polyamory and have decided it’s something you want to try. Or maybe you’re still thinking about it, but don’t have a clear sense of where you’d even begin. It can take some time to figure out how polyamory works best in your life. Here are a few tips, guidelines, and things to consider for people just starting out in the poly world.