I was twenty-nine when a boyfriend told me it was strange that I didn’t share my food when we went out. At the time, I thought, “Why would I want to share my food? I ordered it so I could enjoy it.” My philosophy? What was mine was mine, and yours was yours. Thinking about it, though, I realized that I kept more than just my peas and carrots to myself.
Chances are, as feminists and other liberal-minded people, most of you have heard the phrase “rape culture.” It’s used often in feminist circles, and it describes a social conditioning that we experience culturally. But how many of you know what it actually looks like? Perhaps some people truly don’t understand what rape culture is. So here are 25 examples.
For someone just learning about the various spectrums of human sexuality, the topic can be overwhelming. Not to fear! Here to lay out introductions to everything from gender to the difference between sexual behavior and sexual orientation is vlogger Hank Green! Check out his video to get a little closer to understanding and appreciating human complexity.
(Trigger Warning: Sexual Violence) “I thought my rape was the most traumatic experience of my life. But I was wrong. What was more traumatic was the way DC police treated me.” Unfortunately this is too often the experience of survivors who come forward to the police. That’s why the DC Survivors for Justice Campaign is seeking to change that.
There is a social conundrum for women in which speaking one’s opinion openly and flatly can be considered “un-ladylike.” Since every person and situation is different, only you will be able to decide what works in your life. But if you’re ever in a position where you feel uncomfortable or unwelcomed speaking up, here are a few suggestions that I hope can help.
I am not the poster child queer woman. Pastel sundresses, lacy push-up bras, and vanilla lip gloss would not, as it were, come as accessories with Stereotypical Lesbian Barbie. Femmes are the surprises. Femmes are the ones who are asked how we can possibly be queer-identified if we paint our nails. We’re the ones who have to fight to be noticed for who we are.
Dear White Folks: We have to stop using the n-word. Like really, really. There was a word invented by White people as a pejorative for Black folks. Our people gave up the privilege to use that word the moment we invented it as a tool of oppression. So here are four reasons why it’s never okay for us to say it — no matter what Black folks are doing.
It’s true that gender is a complex idea that means something different to every person. But this doesn’t give us much of an idea about how queer genders are experienced by people. It’s in every feminist’s best interest to listen and pay attention to trans* people, so let’s explore some common ways gender is experienced by people in the trans* community.
Prevalent messages in our society say that business and life don’t mix. And this separation between vocation and voice is a separation between our masculine and feminine selves. It’s an unfortunate reality, as it relegates feminine principles to the background and labels them as detrimental to sound business practices. So how do we reclaim entrepreneurship?
“If black people can say the N-word, why can’t I? How is that fair? It isn’t! It’s a double standard!” Raise your hand if you’ve heard that one before. Next time you do, show the person this video by vlogger Franchesca Ramsey! Watch as she explains the origins of the N-word and debunks common arguments in favor of white people using the N-word.