‘Don’t Make Us Look Bad’: The Invisibility of LGBTQIA+ Intimate Partner Violence

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We’re taught that a “normal” relationship has a cisgender man and a cisgender woman. Same with a “normal” case of intimate partner violence. But reports of LGBTQIA+ intimate partner violence are on the rise. So why is LGBTQIA+ IPV so invisible? Let’s survey the scene, and get some essential guidelines for giving safe and affirming support to LGBTQIA+ IPV survivors.

From Stripping to Sex Tapes – The Kardashians, Amber Rose, and Our Love of Hating Women

From Stripping to Sex Tapes - The Kardashians, Amber Rose, and Our Love of Hating Women

We all have more important things to worry about than Twitter beef between model Amber Rose and reality star Khloe Kardashian. But like it or not, it’s a hot topic. So what does that say about us? Here’s why this isn’t just a trivial catfight, but a moment that tells us what we need to know about our role in the media’s perpetuation of a dangerous kind of sexism.

How to Teach Consent to Kids in 5 Simple Steps

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Talking about consent isn’t always easy, and having these conversations with children can be even harder. Because it can seem so overwhelming, many adults shy from teaching kids about boundaries and consent in a comprehensive way. But here’s what you need to know about why it’s so important to teach consent in an ongoing process, with simple steps to follow.

No, You’re Not Imagining It: 3 Ways Racial Microaggressions Sneak into Our Lives

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Have you ever been insulted in a way that felt a little bit racist, but you couldn’t quite figure out why? Were you reluctant to say something for fear of being “too sensitive?” Microaggressions can take a big toll on us as people of color, as we begin to wonder if our own feelings are valid. But there are empowering ways to address microaggressions. Here’s how.

Patricia Arquette’s Heart Is In the Right Place and We Still Need To Call Her In

Patricia Arquette's Heart Is In the Right Place and We Still Need To Call Her Out

You probably know the internet’s blowing up about Patricia Arquette. She spoke up at the Oscars about a really important issue – wage equality. So why all the criticism? Here’s what you need to know about what’s going on with her and other celebrities who speak up on sociopolitical issues – what she did right, where she went wrong, and why we should call her in.

Don’t Erase My Race: 4 Affirmations to Remember When Reclaiming Your Multi-Racial Identity

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Have people tried to define your race, make assumptions about your identity, or call you “racially ambiguous?” Your race is yours to determine. In a society that invalidates multiracial identities, reclaiming your identity is both an act of preservation and a political act. So here are some affirmations to help you come back to your own skin, your own identity, your own self.

Thinking Critically About Who Pays for the Date

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What do you think about before a date? You might plan for what you’ll say or wear. But what about who will pay? Here’s how common ideas about money and love relate to assumptions about gender and sexuality. We should be free to create connections that value our full selves. Get tips for thinking more about who pays for a date, and lose the patriarchal dating script.

7 Reasons Why ‘Colorblindness’ Contributes to Racism Instead of Solving It

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You’ve heard it. You might’ve said it. “I don’t see color.” Or “We’re all just people.” Don’t feel judged if you’ve used a colorblind approach to race – in truth, many of us, especially White Americans, are taught not to talk about race. We need an alternate training, so here are seven lessons this author has learned on the problems with colorblind ideology.

Why ‘Post-Racial’ Worldviews Are Actually Just Racism in Disguise

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How do you feel about living in a “post-racial” world? It’s a supposedly utopian world where we have magically moved past racial hierarchies and oppressions, and race doesn’t exist. But this author doesn’t want conditions in which racism is constantly perpetuated because we’re unwilling to name it. Read on for the dangers of living in a “post-racial” world.

I Am Enough: 3 Strategies for LGBTQIA+ People Dealing with Family Rejection (Part 1)

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It’s not easy feeling abandoned for being who you are. In fact, it’s often utterly unbearable. LGBTQIA+ people, particularly youth, are one of the groups most affected by family rejection. And rejection from one’s own family is one of the most painful experiences to endure. Here’s some recognition of you and your struggle, with a few strategies to help you cope.