Trans men, like all people, need to know how to have fulfilling, safe, healthy sex to feel whole and good about ourselves. We deserve it (and don’t let anyone tell you differently). But most out trans boys, trans men, and trans masculine people I know receive inadequate, if not wholly non-existent, sex talks. So here are seven key places to start.
As white people, we have a responsibility to do something to advance anti-racism. While we couldn’t help being born into a system of white supremacy, we can do something to help even the score. Want to put your white privilege to work? Here are five specific examples addressing what you can do and avoid silencing the people of color whose voices you mean to amplify.
Do you think ending a relationship with an abusive partner is just a matter of packing up and leaving? Many do but it’s not that simple. We need to abandon the idea if we want to help survivors feel empowered. Here’s six reasons why survivors might stay in their relationships, and why we should stop shaming people who are in need of our support.
Had enough of sex tips that suck? Most of the sex advice written for women focuses on men without a single thought for the pleasure or needs of women. Patriarchal ideas that tie the value of a woman to the pleasure of a man can damage the way you see yourself. Take in this eye-opening spoken word piece about real sex tips and take your body back.
Can I kindly ask that you stop asking me when I’m getting married? It’s more than just annoying – asking a woman when she’s settling down actually perpetuates some pretty messed up messages we get from society. Here are six reasons to ditch that question and stop pushing people into the predetermined life path we (or society) deem fit for them.
It’s important to discuss kink from a feminist perspective because of the harm that misinformation about our desires can cause. This misinformation can lead to feelings of disempowerment in one’s a/sexuality and relationships, and erardicating that should be part of the foundation of any intersectional feminist movement. So let’s bust three common myths about BDSM.
There’s no one-size-fits-all roadmap on how to romance transgender women. But it’s important to honor trans women’s humanity by recognizing that, behind all of the activism and social apprehension, many trans women also desire fulfilling romantic relationships. Here are some ways you can support your lover in public, in private, and in bed.
In the West, many people view Islam as being inherently oppressive towards women and LGBTQIA+ people. Certainly some Muslim people use their religion to validate their prejudices. But as many Muslim feminists have been saying, while Islam has some such oppressive teachings, it more asks for compassion, acceptance, and love from us. Let’s question this monolithic view of Islam that hurts Muslim women and LGBTQIA+ folks and alienates Muslim feminists.
Acknowledging privilege is difficult. It implicates you in the act of oppression, and very few want to think of themselves as oppressors. But if you dislike racism, yet do little — if anything — to resist it, you’re enabling racial oppression and benefitting from it. This not only harms people of color. It also harms white people and their humanity.
Sexist microaggressions are entrenched in our culture and society. They sneak into our minds and our languages without us being completely aware. When faced with microaggressions, it can be difficult to know what to do or say, let alone when it comes from someone you love and care about. So here are 6 ways to help you respond to this kind of everyday sexism.