What if I told you it’s okay to not be okay? We’re pushed toward constant optimism. But is there a cost to this focus on positivity? Avoiding tough emotions might not be as positive as you think – and there’s no substitute for your real emotions. Here’s how to feel what you feel without drowning in your feelings, and define healing on your own terms.
Can you identify Imperial Feminism? It’s the kind of “feminism” that centers the narratives of white saviors and strips away agency of Muslim women and women of color in general. Framing non-Western nations as savage and misogynistic and white Western people as heroes ignores the truth of misogyny. Read on to see it for what it really is – gendered racism.
(Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault) You know how people sometimes play that “game” of trying to prove they have the most grief? As a survivor of sexual assault, this poet was wasn’t up for playing – but someone else carelessly threw her trauma into the ring. Here’s her stirring telling of the moment her story was taken from her – check it out and feel the power of taking your strength and story back.
It doesn’t take an expert to know that the celeb moms we fawn over don’t have the typical post-pregnancy experience. But applauding “bouncing back” from a pregnant body is just one of the ways we send humiliating messages to people who have given birth. Have you internalized these messages? Here’s your guide to challenging the criticism of the post-pregnancy body.
In this beautifully written piece, a young biracial woman sets out to write a letter to her father – a white father to a black daughter. And her heartfelt words are what every white parent of children of color should hear: that race matters, that accountability matters, and that it’s up to you to make sure that you are a part of your child’s understanding of race.
Do you ever wish you could get to a place of feeling happy with yourself, but don’t know how? Then meet Lex Croucher, aka Tyrannosaurus Lex. She believes in her own abilities and worth, but she wasn’t always this confident. Check out her funny, practical advice on breaking through toxic messages and low self-esteem to learn how to appreciate who you are.
(Trigger Warning: transphobia and violence) Many well-meaning allies are spreading the word about horrific violence against transgender people (especially the high rates against trans women of color). But have you thought about what it’s like to be a trans woman of color and constantly encounter these stories? This moving piece shows how vital it is to center trans voices and offer hope for living long and happy lives.
“Let’s talk about (fat) sex!” We don’t talk about it nearly enough, but it’s an important part of both sex positivity and body positivity. Just think of all the ways sexuality is stripped from people who are considered fat. Now read this introduction to “Sex at Every Size,” a new set of practices to help us move beyond society’s limits and feel sexy at any size.
“I can’t be racist!” The people who say this often have good intentions – and a huge misunderstanding about how racism works. One of the biggest threats to our social justice work is the way oppression goes unnoticed in our day-to-day lives. So here’s a comic that names ten of the top lies about racism for what they really are, so we can finally move past them.
You’ve been told that you’re not strong enough, not smart enough, not aggressive enough. You’ve been told that these weaknesses and character flaws keep you from achieving certain things. And you’ve had more than enough of those lies. Here are some dangerous myths society has taught you. It’s time to get free and unlearn them, and this is a helpful start.