EVERYDAY FEMINISM

Columbusing: Discovering Things for White People

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Have you ever noticed how white people are historically inclined to take what isn’t theirs? Land, religious symbols, dance styles…. If so, you’ve probably heard them say that they “discovered” it, even if it’s existed outside their culture or race forever. Here’s a new term for the phenomenon of discovering things for white people: Columbusing.

4 Ways To Honor Native Americans Without Appropriating Our Culture

Source: National Congress of American Indians

There is a fine line between appropriation and appreciation. That said, there are many ways to truly honor and appreciate each of the 566 unique tribes. We’re just asking people and institutions to stop profiting from stereotypes proven to harm and dehumanize Native people. With that, I give you four ways to honor Native Americans without dehumanizing them.

If You’ve Ever Heard Someone Talk About Reverse Racism

If You’ve Ever Heard Someone Talk About Reverse Racism

It’s difficult to have a conversation about white privilege without someone derailing it with claims of “reverse racism.” If you’ve ever heard someone talk about reverse racism (and let’s face it, who hasn’t?), check out comedian Aamer Rahman’s tounge-in-cheek explanation of exactly what would have to happen in order for racism against white people to exist.

Why We’ve Learned to Hate Our Bodies

Source: Confront Depression

I see and fight bigotry on a daily basis, but I’ve always wanted to know why. Why is our structure this way? Why are women singled out for body shame? Why are fat people bullied to the point of suicide? Why have we learned to hate ourselves? How did we get here? We all deserve to live in a world full of truth and acceptance. So allow me to enlighten you.

But What About the Men? Is Feminism Sexist?

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If you’ve ever tried to talk about feminism to anyone, you’ve probably heard this line: “If feminism is really about equality, then why does it only focus on women’s issues? What about men?” Here to dispel some misconceptions about what feminism really means is vlogger Marina Watanabe. Watch her no-nonsense summary of why, no, feminism is not in fact sexist.

Male Rape Is No Laughing Matter (Even Though We’re Taught to Think It Is)

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Warning: There will be triggers for some viewers but, if you watch, please watch the whole thing before passing judgment. Male rape victims and survivors are often met with a specific kind of dismissal and victim blaming. Watch one man talk about his experience and why the way our culture shapes masculinity has confirmed that, to him, rape is sincerely hilarious.

4 Lessons from the Trenches of Allyship

Source: BP's Fuel for Thought

Being an ally is difficult, especially as a heterosexual cis male. The pressures of (traditional notions of) masculinity and a lifetime of systematic patriarchal training are difficult to overcome. So I have compiled four pieces of advice — based on my own experiences and slip-ups — to help all cis males (myself included) become open feminists and allies.

The Single Parent Double Standard: Demonizing the Moms and Martyrizing the Dads

Source: Collegian

A lot of us still hold tight to deeply gendered beliefs about men’s and women’s roles when it comes to child-rearing. If the research is to be believed, it’s not only typical to assume that single dads are doing something heroic, but it’s just as typical to think that single moms are doing just the opposite. Here are a few other things we can do to change this.

10 Tips for Talking About Sexual Violence with Your Sons

10 Tips for Talking About Sexual Violence with Your Sons

We often discuss issues of rape and sexual violence with our daughters, but are we having these critical conversations with our sons? The truth is that our sons can be victims of rape, too. They can also be bystanders, confidants, or rapists. Undoubtedly these conversations are challenging. So how do we start them, and what do we talk about? Here are a few tips.