From body size to body hair, society has so much to say about which bodies are acceptable and which are not. Sadly, the people who are supposed to love and affirm us unconditionally sometimes end up being the ones who project those harmful standards onto us the most. Check out this comic to see one way body policing manifest and how to fight back.
Dating is already difficult and nerve-wracking for some. But throw unaddressed, internalized white supremacy into an interracial romantic dynamic, and things can get really uncomfortable really quickly. Check out this comedic video to learn about – and avoid! – common racist tropes that many Black women experience while dating White men.
Our culture tells us that intimate relationships should be private. On too many occasions, that privacy hides violence and abuse. This infographic not only shares critical statistics, it also provides strategies for recognizing abusive relationship patterns, suggestions/resources for support, and examples of healthy relationship qualities.
Colonialism may feel far away in history but it continues to impact every part of our lives — including who we choose to romantically pursue and how we end up treating them. But, we don’t have to stay stuck in this cycle! Here are some strategies to liberate our love lives from the interference of internalized oppression in order to embrace decolonial love.
When people complain about being in the “friend zone”, they are confessing to feeling entitled to sex and/or romance with the person of their desire, regardless of that person’s mutual interest or consent. This spoken word performance breaks down why it’s a patriarchal, sexist, misogynist performance of rape culture that disregards people’s agency and safety.
Due to how our society has sexualized Asian women in a racialized way, Asian women often have to deal with sexist and racist microaggressions that are normalized in our society as “flirting.” To highlight the absurdity of these all too common comments, check out this hilarious video of what would it look like if the roles were switched and Asian women said this stuff to white men.
I met Dave on a dating site. He was interesting, gentlemanly, and bright; I was enticed and longed for the full knowing of this man. And so, we planned a weekend together. Afterward, he confessed to me: “Your body is too wrinkly. I like your head and your heart. But I just can’t deal with your body.” But I would not diminish myself for him — or for anyone.
Yellow fever. Exotification. Asian fetish. Racism. Our sexist and racist society has a long history of teaching white straight guys to fixate on Asian women in inappropriate and — frankly — offensive ways. That’s not to say that it’s impossible to date an Asian woman without being problematic, but there are some normalized things you should avoid saying. Here are just a few!
Plenty of people will try to tell you that it is a wife’s role to serve her husband. But Clair Huxtable from The Cosby Show has a different idea of marriage. In her opinion, it’s a partnership where each party participates. Watch one of television’s most beloved characters break down gendered behavior expectations, and explain what marriage really is.
Some people claim that love is (color)blind. But it hasn’t even been 50 years since laws prohibiting interracial relationships were outlawed, and the effects of that history are still in play today. So how do people navigate this history of tension, privilege, and oppression when they’re also trying to date each other? Here are some ways to approach the topic.