Thinking Critically About Who Pays for the Date

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What do you think about before a date? You might plan for what you’ll say or wear. But what about who will pay? Here’s how common ideas about money and love relate to assumptions about gender and sexuality. We should be free to create connections that value our full selves. Get tips for thinking more about who pays for a date, and lose the patriarchal dating script.

7 Ways to Lovingly Support Your Gender Non-Binary Partner

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For gender non-binary people, partners can have a big impact on our transitions, for better or for worse. Rejecting our transition is rejecting who we are on a deep and essential level, and supporting us can make all the difference. If you’re a cisgender person in a relationship with a non-binary person, here’s a list of ways to lovingly support your partner.

How Can a Wedding Be Feminist? Here Are 6 Ideas

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“You can’t be a feminist and get married!” Ever heard that from someone else or in your own head? The idea that modern marriage excludes feminism is absurd and insulting. You should be free to make your own choices and have a wedding that fits your values, if a wedding is what you choose. Here are some helpful tips to get you thinking about how to make the feminist wedding of your dreams.

Family Violence Doesn’t Discriminate – But Biased Systems Do

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(Trigger Warning: Intimate partner violence, sexual assault) Family violence affects people of all backgrounds. So don’t all survivors deserve support? With her story, one woman exposes the terrible truth about the racism and stigma aboriginal survivors face when they try to pursue safety and justice. Read her powerful story of surviving intimate partner and sexual abuse, and let’s advocate for justice for all survivors.

Polyamorous People Answer the Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask

“Why isn’t one person enough?” People have a lot of questions about polyamory. In this video, polyamorous people share some answers, breaking down misconceptions and giving advice on starting and sustaining non-monogamous relationships. So if you’re a polyamorous person or you wonder what it’s like to be one, enjoy this light-hearted clip on being true to who you are.

The Neurobiology of a Break-Up: 5 Things to Expect (And How to Get Through)

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In a society that rejects us, feminism gives us is the revolutionary practice of self-care as a vehicle toward self-acceptance. But in the midst of a break-up, we often forget to prioritize that. So here is what you need to know about what’s happening with your brain chemistry during a break-up and how best to nurture yourself over the process.

Healthy Relationships Come in All Shapes and Sizes

Too often, conversations around what healthy relationships look like completely ignore relationships that fall outside of the heterosexual, monogamous framework that our society so desperately wants us to cling to. But there are all sorts of ways to have relationships – including within asexuality, polyamory, and kink – and they all can be healthy and satisfying.

Why Love Is Important to Feminist Work (And 3 Ways to Practice It)

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Our outrage is missing something. What happens after we spread it through social media, then move on to the next outrage? Anger against injustice comes from a good place, but it can often overshadow one of the core missions of social justice work: to support marginalized people. Here’s how to bring love into your feminist work and care for those who are otherwise denied love.

How Tall Women in Heels Demolish Misogyny

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What’s the big deal about tall women in heels? Let this gifted poet break it down for you. Get perspective on how the expectation for women to make themselves small falls in line with other oppressive ideas about docile femininity. Here’s to the tall women who resist the pressure to diminish themselves and rock heels in the face of the patriarchy’s insecurities.

4 Person-to-Person Things I Do to Address Anti-Blackness con Mi Gente

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If, as Latinxs, we can’t address our own anti-blackness with family and friends, how can we possibly fight racism in a larger white supremacist society? We need to create genuine relationships and solidarity on the ground in order to have an impact. So here are four person-to-person ways I address anti-blackness with nuestra gente. What are your approaches?