It all seems so simple. Just a boy telling you he loves you, right? But if it’s your first time hearing those words, it can be complicated. Take it from Edwin Bodney, this brilliant poet who tells it like it is about first love, longing, and what words really mean. He bravely shares the lessons he’s learned — and his last line is a heartbreaker.
Do you think ending a relationship with an abusive partner is just a matter of packing up and leaving? Many do but it’s not that simple. We need to abandon the idea if we want to help survivors feel empowered. Here’s six reasons why survivors might stay in their relationships, and why we should stop shaming people who are in need of our support.
How often do you get to see this? In the media, queer women of color are often invisible, and we know that’s a shame. Boosting visibility can break down stereotypes, show the endless beauty of love between women of color, and empower more women to know they’re worth celebrating. So here are 25 stunning photos of queer women of color to make you swoon.
There’s no one-size-fits-all roadmap on how to romance transgender women. But it’s important to honor trans women’s humanity by recognizing that, behind all of the activism and social apprehension, many trans women also desire fulfilling romantic relationships. Here are some ways you can support your lover in public, in private, and in bed.
This wonderful photography project celebrates the beautiful humanity of queer men of color in love – amplifying their tenderness, their vulnerability, their love, and their lives. This sort of archive is a radical tool of reclamation that fights the ways institutional oppression consistently projects dangerous, criminal, and violent connotations onto men of color.
From mean jokes to harassment, single women are subject to a particular kind misogyny in American society. The message is clear: We still believe women should prioritize marriage and motherhood over everything else. Demanding a woman’s life to follow this trajectory is another way of saying “I know what’s good for you better than you do.” And that’s oppressive.
Given how normalized and pervasive racism and sexism are, many white men are unaware of the common microaggressions they make towards black women they’d like to date. These may seem harmless to some, but they’re really symptoms of deeper problems rooted in systematic oppressions that black women face daily. So here are some suggestions on how to best approach us.
From body size to body hair, society has so much to say about which bodies are acceptable and which are not. Sadly, the people who are supposed to love and affirm us unconditionally sometimes end up being the ones who project those harmful standards onto us the most. Check out this comic to see one way body policing manifest and how to fight back.
Dating is already difficult and nerve-wracking for some. But throw unaddressed, internalized white supremacy into an interracial romantic dynamic, and things can get really uncomfortable really quickly. Check out this comedic video to learn about – and avoid! – common racist tropes that many Black women experience while dating White men.
Our culture tells us that intimate relationships should be private. On too many occasions, that privacy hides violence and abuse. This infographic not only shares critical statistics, it also provides strategies for recognizing abusive relationship patterns, suggestions/resources for support, and examples of healthy relationship qualities.