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How to Talk About Race with Your White Boyfriend

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Some people claim that love is (color)blind. But it hasn’t even been 50 years since laws prohibiting interracial relationships were outlawed, and the effects of that history are still in play today. So how do people navigate this history of tension, privilege, and oppression when they’re also trying to date each other? Here are some ways to approach the topic.

Why Your Savior Complex Is Toxic to Your Relationship

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The knight in shining armor who saves the damsel in distress: sound familiar? Probably, since it’s one of the most popular narratives in history. And it can lead to some pretty messed up thoughts on healthy relationships. If you consider being saved romantic, or saving someone else heroic, you may have a savior complex. And it may be ruining your relationship.

10 Honest Thoughts on Being Loved By a Skinny Boy

10 Honest Thoughts on Being Loved by a Skinny Boy

Walking through the world as a fat woman has its own challenges. But when you’re a fat woman who’s dating someone with a thin, more socially acceptable body — someone people don’t think you deserve — well, that’s something else. Watch Rachel Wiley express some of the honest thoughts and anxieties that come with being loved by a skinny boy in this spoken word performance.

4 Ways to Put a Spark Back into a Tired Relationship

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I hate to break it to you, but it’s possible your relationship is actually making you tired. Maybe you’ve been together a while or have fallen into a routine, but most likely it’s because you, your partner, or both of you have stopped feeling excited in your relationship. Want your relationship to keep you energized? Try out my four go-to techniques.

4 Things You Need To Do To Have a Balanced Relationship

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I’ve come to learn is that relationships grow if both individuals evenly tend them. If a relationship was an equation, both individuals have to be the same number. One can’t be greater or smaller; they have to be in balance, equal. But finding this balance in a relationship can be difficult. Here are a few things you need if you want a balanced relationship.

Don’t Call Me Beautiful (And What to Say Instead)

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It’s the affirmation that every woman allegedly wants and even needs to hear: “You’re beautiful.” Like many girls, I aspired to be beautiful. If I wasn’t beautiful, how could I put my best self forward? How could I designate myself as worthy of someone’s time? Not feeling beautiful becomes almost threatening. Which prompts the question: Why?

I Am Loveworthy: How a Transgender Woman Found Love

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I never had bad luck with dates or flings, especially with the kinds of men who look good on paper. Yet my trysts with these men never led to anything meaningful. I was constantly being pushed away or kept out of sight by men attracted to me but terrified of what everyone else might think of dating a transgender woman. That is, until I met Drew.

Dating While Asexual

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Asexuality is just now coming onto the horizon as an identity. In the last ten years, there has been a growing awareness that some people don’t want or need sex to live fulfilled lives. However, something that still confuses people is how asexual people date! So I spoke with two asexual activists in order to better understand dating in the asexual community.

It Took Me Two Years to Realize My Boyfriend Was Racist

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When Matt and I had first started seeing each other, I often feared that he liked me only because, to him, I was a rare sight. But I put it out of my mind. I didn’t want to think about it. I realize now that our relationship didn’t fail simply because he was white and I was Asian. It failed because we had different values systems.