EVERYDAY FEMINISM

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7 Things to Stop Saying to Pregnant People

Source: Single Black Male

When someone is pregnant, their body is often viewed as public property. As a result, many people feel free to make wildly inappropriate comments about everything, from their appearance to their lifestyle choices to their medical decisions. But pregnancy doesn’t negate autonomy! So here are seven examples of common comments and questions that we need to stop saying.

I Have Aspergers and I Read The Comments You Write About People with Autism

This comic asks us to understand the loneliness of having Asperger’s Syndrome and wanting connection, but existing in a society that requires social skills they don’t have. It explores how heartbreaking it is to research those skills, and instead find tons of online comments and posts expressing how horrible it is to raise people with autism.

Fatherly Love: The Feminist Version

In our patriarchal society, fathers are taught that loving their daughters looks like control, like possessively sheltering them from the world. However, Will Evans—through this potent spoken word poem—explains that his version of fatherly love is a practice of protecting his daughter’s agency and autonomy to dictate her own life and make her own choices.

Parental Wage Gap: This Is What Happens to Your Income When You Have Children

Because we live in a patriarchal society, many places of employment still believe men to be the breadwinner of their families. People of other genders earn 78% less than men and lose 4% of their wages for every child they have. This is one of the ways poverty is linked to sexism. Check out this infographic to learn more about how the wage gap affects parents.

4 Lies About School Dress Codes That Cover Up Their Oppressive Effects

Source: Ali Express

School leaders and politicians are rampantly advocating for campus dress codes. However, most of those codes police, target, and negatively impact students who are girls, of color, poor or working class, and/or gender non-conforming. Further, they scapegoat those students for any problems the schools may have and force teachers to police students’ appearance.

America’s Not Here for Us: What I Need to Teach My Black Son

Though America claims to stand for freedom, it reserves that freedom for a small, privileged, and entitled portion of its society. The parents of Black and Brown children, however, have to teach their children how to survive racism and other forms of institutional oppression. In this video, A’Driane Nieves passionately explains what freedom should look like.

What to Do (And Not Do) When You’re Pregnant and Struggling with an Eating Disorder

Pregnancy and Eating Disorders

With pregnancy comes changes to your body. And if you struggle with negative body image, those changes can provide a unique hurdle. For those struggling with or recovering from eating disorders, pregnancy can be a complicated time. So how do you cope with this in a healthy, productive way? Check out this infographic from NEDA for some quick and helpful advice!

7 Ways to Help Teenage Fathers While Breaking the Cycle of Poverty

Source: Fjalar Writes

Patriarchy has delegated the realm of parenting to women and girls. Consequently, fathers, specifically teenage fathers, are not given the resources or skills to emotionally and financially provide for their children. This invisible dynamic, with the support of legislative classism and racism, perpetuates class immobility for many teen fathers and their families. Let’s do better.

6 Reasons Why Birthing Education Is a Reproductive Right

Source:  The Asian Parent

What do you think of when you hear “reproductive rights?” Access to abortion and birth control, most likely. For most people, the list ends there. But reproductive rights are also about HOW a person will give birth. Where, when, and with whom a person gives birth is equally important a right as their ability to prevent, continue, or terminate a pregnancy. Here’s why.