I have three kids — 15, 18, and 20 — and none of them has gotten pregnant, impregnated anyone, or gotten an STD (at least, as far as I know). And they talk to me about lots of things, including sex. Sometimes too much. If you want to achieve the same kind of open dialogue I have with my spawn, here are my eight tips for how to talk to your kids about sex.
Terms like “ladylike” are in line with equally absurd terms like “acting Black” that lump behavior onto a particular group of people in an effort to reinforce dominant society’s assertion of what is considered desirable and acceptable social protocol. So here are my four top reasons for steering clear of labels and social graces when it comes to my daughters.
Talking about race is challenging for many parents, especially White parents. And we need to get over it. As discussed in part one of this article, remaining silent on the topic of race isn’t helping our children and it isn’t moving the needle any closer to equality. In fact, it may be doing the exact opposite. Here are a few things everyone can do to make it better.
Talking about race in America can feel dangerous and overwhelming, but it is important work if we want to truly get to a place where all people are treated as equals. And as with all important conversations, it needs to start with our children. Here are five reasons every parent, guardian, and educator should be talking about race with the children they care for.
A lot of us still hold tight to deeply gendered beliefs about men’s and women’s roles when it comes to child-rearing. If the research is to be believed, it’s not only typical to assume that single dads are doing something heroic, but it’s just as typical to think that single moms are doing just the opposite. Here are a few other things we can do to change this.
We often discuss issues of rape and sexual violence with our daughters, but are we having these critical conversations with our sons? The truth is that our sons can be victims of rape, too. They can also be bystanders, confidants, or rapists. Undoubtedly these conversations are challenging. So how do we start them, and what do we talk about? Here are a few tips.
A majority of states require parental involvement in the decision of those under 18 to have an abortion. On the surface, this seems well-intentioned. But what’s really underlying these laws? Here are 5 reasons why parental involvement laws do more harm than good, and why no one, regardless of age, should be legally required to obtain consent from their parents for an abortion.
We can lay the groundwork for the children we love for good health and truly empowered living. Here, we look those aspects of protecting children that are slightly beyond the basics: the more subtle, on-going interactions that strengthen our children, influence their decision making, impact their safety, and, hopefully, contribute to a safer and saner society.
Although they do a majority of their learning through observation of their peers in social situations, children’s groundwork for understanding gender is largely influenced by the adults they see in their family systems. If you don’t talk about gender, children will learn society’s gender model. Here are five ways to facilitate your child’s gender autonomy.
I look at my oldest girl and I see what she is experiencing. Her body is transitioning, and she’s particularly concerned and curious about her new bouncy parts that garner attention from a variety of eyes. And as I watch my daughter navigate her new body, I’ve identified some methods to creating support and raising confident, mindful, fully expressed women.