No matter where we are in the world, people who risk expression will always be perceived as threats to people who look to preserve a sense of normalcy based on what makes them comfortable. All I know is that I will continue to express myself, and I will continue to prioritize the nurturing of children willing to confidently express themselves, too.
As a feminist, an activist, a parent of two boys, and a sexual health educator, I struggle with how to balance my sensibilities with my parenting style. And an issue that I am very connected to is rape culture. How does a parent compete with the constant assault of stereotypes and overwhelming sex-negative messaging in the media? Here are a few suggestions.
When my partner Drew and I decided to have a baby, we initially didn’t even consider surrogacy. We eventually realized that, no matter which path we chose, the road ahead would be bumpy. That’s when we gave surrogacy a more serious look, and we found that the fears that scared us away from it were all unfounded. Here’s what we were afraid of, and what we learned.
My friend Deborah calls herself a “matriarch,” and I like the label. It implies concern not just for your children, but for everyone’s children. It implies a sense of authority and confidence that commands respect. But before more of us can embrace the role of matriarch, it seems that we need to clear up a few misconceptions about what it means to be one.
There are a handful of assumptions people may make when you say that you don’t plan on starting a family, especially if you are a woman. The truth is, if you don’t want to have children for any reason, it’s valid! If you don’t want to have children, you are not wrong, and you are not alone. Here are five more reasons why it is completely okay to decide not to become a parent.
My darling Son, this is not a conversation any boy wants to have with his mum at any age. But it’s a conversation we must have nonetheless. I would be failing in my duty as a parent, guide, and woman if I did not share the following information with you – information that has the power to impact greatly upon your future sex life. And your relationships. So listen carefully. This is important.
Our daughter is Autistic. With the right accommodations and supports, she can have everything she wants out of life – but there’s a lot to do as parents between now and adulthood. So how do we go about raising a confident young woman in an ableist world? I think that the answer lies at the intersection of supporting feminism and destroying ableism.
(Trigger Warning) Talking to your kid about sexual abuse probably seems worse than even talking about sex. But given the statistics, your child is much more likely to be molested than to be hit by a car when crossing the street. Here’s how you can reduce your child’s vulnerability to sexual abuse and increase the chances they’ll tell you after something happens.
If you’re a parent of a school-aged child, it’s likely that you’ve been affected by bullying. With approximately 30% of students reporting being bullied and far more being peripherally affected or even traumatized by bullying, it’s a weighing concern on parents’ minds. That’s why I wanted to offer a quick read for parents who are concerned about it.
At some point in our lives, most people will need to take off an extended period of time to deal with a family or medical issue. Despite this, only 12% of workers in America receive paid family leave through their jobs. And the lucky ones that do are disproportionately well-educated, high-earning, and male. But what about the rest of us? What happens if we fall ill or have a child?