(Trigger Warning: Rape and rape culture) Do you believe reporting rape is the best way to fight rape culture? A lot of people do, and it’s understandable to think that reporting rape would lead to more rape convictions and prevention. But the truth is, it’s not that simple. To tackle rape culture, we have to challenge the dangerous idea that survivors have a responsibility to report and support the choices of survivors.
We all have more important things to worry about than Twitter beef between model Amber Rose and reality star Khloe Kardashian. But like it or not, it’s a hot topic. So what does that say about us? Here’s why this isn’t just a trivial catfight, but a moment that tells us what we need to know about our role in the media’s perpetuation of a dangerous kind of sexism.
There’s been a lot of criticism in feminist and kink communities over the “Fifty Shades of Grey” series – first as novels, and now as movies. And the biggest problem is that what’s being depicted here isn’t really BDSM – it’s intimate partner violence, from stalking behavior to ignoring safe words. Watch this video to learn more about the controversy.
Too often, conversations around what healthy relationships look like completely ignore relationships that fall outside of the heterosexual, monogamous framework that our society so desperately wants us to cling to. But there are all sorts of ways to have relationships – including within asexuality, polyamory, and kink – and they all can be healthy and satisfying.
If you feel like sex is “kind of like dessert – a good thing when it happens, but not something you would actively seek out” because you need a deep emotional connection in order to experience sexual desire, it’s possible that you could be demisexual. Check out this author’s journey from confusion to asexuality to coming out as demisexual.
(Trigger Warning: Sexual assault) Just what does consent mean? As we communicate, the differences between words is significant. In just a few words, this short poem cuts quick and deep to the true meaning of consent. With an unexpected turn, this skillful poet shows how rape violates the vital need for someone to give willful, affirmative consent before sex. Her words are chilling and unforgettable.
Sex can bring up painful feelings for non-binary people working through trauma. But if you want, you deserve to have positive experiences of sexual exploration. Here’s a guide to defining sex on your own terms, educating yourself with all the information you need to know about your body, and more. Read this to grow your self-confidence – even when you’re naked.
Sex after sexual assault can be tough. Mental, emotional, and physical hardships are entirely legitimate, but the stereotype of sexual assault survivors as damaged and unable to function “normally” is utterly false. We all deserve a healthy sex life if we want one. So here’s a helpful guide to getting all the self-care and pleasure you deserve after surviving sexual assault.
Have gender stereotypes led you to have sex when you didn’t want to? Your sex life shouldn’t be defined by stereotypes. Understanding how culture influences our choices around sex can empower us to talk about our desires and needs openly and sincerely. This article will help you understand and feel empowered. Learn how myths can impact you — and what to do about it.
Trans men, like all people, need to know how to have fulfilling, safe, healthy sex to feel whole and good about ourselves. We deserve it (and don’t let anyone tell you differently). But most out trans boys, trans men, and trans masculine people I know receive inadequate, if not wholly non-existent, sex talks. So here are seven key places to start.