I have three kids — 15, 18, and 20 — and none of them has gotten pregnant, impregnated anyone, or gotten an STD (at least, as far as I know). And they talk to me about lots of things, including sex. Sometimes too much. If you want to achieve the same kind of open dialogue I have with my spawn, here are my eight tips for how to talk to your kids about sex.
What are we actually teaching girls about sex? Fueled by the sense that female sexuality is somehow shameful, there seem to be certain pernicious myths about girls and sex that just won’t die. Knowledge is power, and we can promote a healthier relationship with sex. But first we’re going to need to stop perpetuating the following 17 myths about female sexuality.
The “War on Women” is a war on me, but I’m not a woman. I’m trans, and I am personally affected by anti-choice legislation. Changing the cis-nomative atmosphere is difficult, but there are some steps that individuals and organizations can take to improve this lack of intersectionality. Women, after all, aren’t the only people who need access to abortions.
A huge part of dating — and in particular, hookup culture — is alcohol. But having sex while under the influence of alcohol isn’t always the best idea. In fact, it’s almost always a bad one. Check out this video from Laci Green about the various levels of drunkenness, how to approach alcohol and sex, and why alcohol is problematic for consensual sex.
In recent years, the word “slut” has become deeply ingrained into our culture, to the point where people say it too easily and too casually. I’ve often asked myself: What can we do about this nasty, negative word choice that is so standard in our culture? Maybe learning more about the word itself – and more empowering words we can use instead – is a good start.
While our culture promotes a male-centric (that is, penis-centric) view of sex, men do not necessarily have it easy. Boys are half of the equation in discussions about sex positivity, and we need to teach everyone proper lessons about anatomy, communication, and consent. Let’s start by debunking these 17 myths about boys and sex.
I get a lot of people asking me to explain sex-positivity, usually under the assumption that I identify as sex-positive. Which I don’t. I prefer to call myself sex-critical because that’s actually what I stand for. The problem for me is the way that a lot of people do sex-positivity – namely, without a critical analysis component. And I want to talk about that.
In this video, Laci Green discusses fake orgasms. She begins with a story of her own experience, why she faked orgasm so often, and how it turned into a destructive habit. She also discusses her observations of this widespread phenomenon and offers a word of advice to those who may be faking orgasm or those who have partners that they suspect are faking it.
You’ll see it on signs and banners at abortion rallies: “Keep Abortion Safe, Legal, and Rare.” This sentiment is often championed and portrayed as “something we can all agree on.” But is it really a desire we have, let alone one that we should be making heard? How does this kind of logic affect the abortion movement and all those who seek abortions?