Only have sex with people who’ve given enthusiastic, willful, and uninfluenced consent. Seems straightforward, right? But there are still plenty of people who object to this definition of consensual sex. Why? Because they value being able to have sex more than their partner’s consent. Check out this comic for a perfect example of what these conversations look like.
Asexuality is defined as not experiencing sexual attraction. Seems straightforward, right? But like most things, asexuality isn’t as simple as it appears. Within asexuality there are many different spectra to consider: from gender and sexual attraction to sexual drive and desire. There is a lot of nuance to this identity. Check out this video for a helpful introduction!
Anyone who’s ever used oral contraception knows that getting it is no easy task. But condoms? Condoms are available in every gas station, grocery store, and drug store. And that difference is because our patriarchal society doesn’t want women to be able to easily have sex without the fear of getting pregnant. So check out this video parody showing how ridiculously difficult we make buying the pill.
I’ve talked before about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men. Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it. One of the best places to start is to talk about sex. Specifically: male virginity and the shame in not having sex. Let’s talk about the problems with the way we think about male virginity and how to fix them.
As a black woman, I feel like there’s this unsaid pressure that I have to limit my sexual actions and expressions simply because there are so many prevailing stereotypes about black women’s bodies. Slavery is regularly employed as a framework to talk about black women’s sexual bodies today. And we need to curb this trend. Here are three reasons why.
We need more men to understand how the messages we receive about sex hurt more than women — that these messages hurt us in myriad ways, too. It’s time that we name the ways that patriarchy teaches men to pursue unhealthy sexuality in ways that hurt everyone. Thus, I want to analyze four of the most prominent messages men are taught about our sexuality.
I have three kids — 15, 18, and 20 — and none of them has gotten pregnant, impregnated anyone, or gotten an STD (at least, as far as I know). And they talk to me about lots of things, including sex. Sometimes too much. If you want to achieve the same kind of open dialogue I have with my spawn, here are my eight tips for how to talk to your kids about sex.
What are we actually teaching girls about sex? Fueled by the sense that female sexuality is somehow shameful, there seem to be certain pernicious myths about girls and sex that just won’t die. Knowledge is power, and we can promote a healthier relationship with sex. But first we’re going to need to stop perpetuating the following 17 myths about female sexuality.
The “War on Women” is a war on me, but I’m not a woman. I’m trans, and I am personally affected by anti-choice legislation. Changing the cis-nomative atmosphere is difficult, but there are some steps that individuals and organizations can take to improve this lack of intersectionality. Women, after all, aren’t the only people who need access to abortions.
A huge part of dating — and in particular, hookup culture — is alcohol. But having sex while under the influence of alcohol isn’t always the best idea. In fact, it’s almost always a bad one. Check out this video from Laci Green about the various levels of drunkenness, how to approach alcohol and sex, and why alcohol is problematic for consensual sex.