I remember when I first discovered porn. Fascinated by this world of unleashed sexual expression, I couldn’t get enough of it. I thought I’d outgrow my porn habit over time. But I never did. I didn’t know it then, but porn had become an addiction. I didn’t realize how much watching porn manipulated my mind, warping my sexuality, numbing my feelings, and impacting my relationships with women.
Have you ever noticed how violent our language is? Even when we aren’t even talking about anything inherently violent itself? You’ve probably also noticed that that’s a lot of sexual violence. This language might seem unimportant or coincidental, but our language shapes the way we see our world. So how can every one of us work to stop using language derived from sexual violation?
Generational violence is a huge normalizing factor, and challenging a youth’s parents, or at least their teachings, can be very difficult for some kids. Do I think we need to back off? No. Do I think we need to dumb it down? No. Do we need to acknowledge that violence is a foundational part of the lives of many young people? Absolutely. So how can you be a translator?
What is sexual objectification, and why is it a big deal? In this video, sex educator and kick-ass feminist Laci Green gives an (albeit very brief) overview of our culture’s sexual objectification problem and how it contributes to serious problems like gender and sexual inequality in every sphere of life — as well as perpetuating rape culture. Spread the word that we all deserve to own (and be the subjects of) our sexuality.
Our media is saturated with images that sexually objectify women. The explanation for this phenomenon? “Sex sells.” But is it really sex that these ads are implying? Caroline Heldman doesn’t think so. Check out her TED Talk about the overwhelming sexual objectification of women in our media, and how something a lot more sinister than sex appeal is at work.
(Trigger Warning) Talking to your kid about sexual abuse probably seems worse than even talking about sex. But given the statistics, your child is much more likely to be molested than to be hit by a car when crossing the street. Here’s how you can reduce your child’s vulnerability to sexual abuse and increase the chances they’ll tell you after something happens.
If you’re a parent of a school-aged child, it’s likely that you’ve been affected by bullying. With approximately 30% of students reporting being bullied and far more being peripherally affected or even traumatized by bullying, it’s a weighing concern on parents’ minds. That’s why I wanted to offer a quick read for parents who are concerned about it.
From a young age, boys are bombarded with images of the traditional model of masculinity as being strong, ready to fight, sexually entitled, and emotionless except for anger. And while many men aren’t violent, many fear being called “gay” or “girly” if they deviate from that norm too much. Here’s some ways to help your son develop his own sense of healthy masculinity.
Transmisogyny is a word that many people don’t know about or understand. In short, it is the confluence of transphobia and misogyny – the negative attitudes, expressed through cultural hate, individual and state violence, and discrimination directed toward trans* women and trans* people on the feminine end of the gender spectrum. And its eradication must be at the forefront of our fight.
( Trigger Warning) Domestic violence, dating violence, relationship violence — it’s not something we like or know how to talk about. Or perhaps more accurately, it’s not something we know how to talk about, especially when it’s happening to someone we love. But it’s important we learn how to talk about it in ways that actually help them, which is far more difficult than you may think.