Only have sex with people who’ve given enthusiastic, willful, and uninfluenced consent. Seems straightforward, right? But there are still plenty of people who object to this definition of consensual sex. Why? Because they value being able to have sex more than their partner’s consent. Check out this comic for a perfect example of what these conversations look like.
A key component in battling rape culture is encouraging survivors to speak out about their experiences. This can be beneficial not only for the cause, but also for individual survivors as they heal. But the strong focus on story-telling has an unfortunate side-effect. Let’s learn more about why focusing on survivor stories as inspiration can actually be damaging and how to avoid doing that.
Most parents don’t want to believe that their child is capable of doing anything wrong — especially bullying others. But the truth is, this denial is only making the problem worse. Parents and guardians are the ones who have to face the reality of bullying, and take charge against it. Here are some helpful tips on how to begin this difficult process.
We all know that racial stereotypes are bad, but do we really understand what the effects of these stereotypes are? Racial stereotypes impact everything from personal relationships, to economic success. And for Asians and Pacific Islanders, they stand in the way of domestic violence survivors and the help they need. Here are three examples.
When it comes to addressing domestic abuse and working to eradicate it, feminism has played a critical role. But there’s one area of abuse that doesn’t get enough recognition in the movement: child abuse – especially child abuse committed by women. In order to address it, we need to see the abuse of children for what it is, regardless of the abuser’s gender.
(Trigger warning: victim-blaming, sexual assault, pedophilia, transphobia, rape.) As society slowly begins to recognize the pervasive problem of sexual violence, it is important to remember that this abuse can affect anyone. People of all ages, genders, races, sizes, and sexualities have survived this kind of violence. These photos show how widespread this violence is.
If you ask street harassers why they catcall women, chances are they’ll say they mean it as a compliment. “If women on the street said I look nice, it would make my day!” But the thing is, it’s not a compliment. It’s obnoxious at best and terrifying at worst. This cartoon demonstrates how absurd it is to expect people to be flattered by street harassment.
One of the most dangerous aspects of abusive relationships is that perpetrators convince their partners that the abuse is a sign of love. And that can be a difficult spell to break. This short film follows the story of a poet named Lucy who delivers a spoken word piece about the subtle ways that abuse began to dominate her relationship — and how she broke free.
While most of us see sexual violence as horrific, too often the primary type we see as “real” is stranger rape. This makes it harder to listen to survivors who know their perpetrators, which is the majority of the time. In this video, psychologist Dr. Burrowes explains why we need to broaden our understanding of sexual violence in order to acknowledge it every time it happens.
Choosing whether or not to report sexual assault shouldn’t be a matter of choosing the lesser of two evils. But it is. Staying silent often means the issue is never addressed, but when survivors speak up, they’re met with blame and skepticism. They can’t win. This comic by Jim C. Hines perfectly captures how unfair and harmful this double standard is.