As a feminist, an activist, a parent of two boys, and a sexual health educator, I struggle with how to balance my sensibilities with my parenting style. And an issue that I am very connected to is rape culture. How does a parent compete with the constant assault of stereotypes and overwhelming sex-negative messaging in the media? Here are a few suggestions.
As with all other systems of oppression, rape culture is a beast with tentacles and spores across countless other facets of inequality. The following 3 things may not appear to be major components of rape culture at first glance, but undoubtedly fuel and are fueled by it. Dismantling and addressing these things must be part of our movement to end rape culture.
Domestic violence is about power. When one’s trans* identity challenges conventional gender definitions, its boundaries, and its performances, DV survivors can often feel disempowered. And because it is happening in trans* communities, we need to talk about it and what you can do to help. With the right knowledge and tools, you can help facilitate recovery.
Rape culture is the culture which tells women not to get raped, rather than telling men not to rape, and it can only be stopped if men take responsibility for the disproportionate amount of violence they inflict upon women. Check out this week’s video for an impassioned spoken word poem by Jeremy Loveday, calling men to speak up about and against gender violence!
Safety should be a top priority when traveling! But if there is one thing I’m sure of, it’s that street harassment is a worldwide problem. So why do we continue to romanticize street harassment in Europe, while vilifying it when Black and Brown men are involved? It’s okay to feel uncomfortable when traveling, but if you want some real advice, let me help you out.
Chances are, as feminists and other liberal-minded people, most of you have heard the phrase “rape culture.” It’s used often in feminist circles, and it describes a social conditioning that we experience culturally. But how many of you know what it actually looks like? Perhaps some people truly don’t understand what rape culture is. So here are 25 examples.
(Trigger Warning: Sexual Violence) “I thought my rape was the most traumatic experience of my life. But I was wrong. What was more traumatic was the way DC police treated me.” Unfortunately this is too often the experience of survivors who come forward to the police. That’s why the DC Survivors for Justice Campaign is seeking to change that.
I remember when I first discovered porn. Fascinated by this world of unleashed sexual expression, I couldn’t get enough of it. I thought I’d outgrow my porn habit over time. But I never did. I didn’t know it then, but porn had become an addiction. I didn’t realize how much watching porn manipulated my mind, warping my sexuality, numbing my feelings, and impacting my relationships with women.
Have you ever noticed how violent our language is? Even when we aren’t even talking about anything inherently violent itself? You’ve probably also noticed that that’s a lot of sexual violence. This language might seem unimportant or coincidental, but our language shapes the way we see our world. So how can every one of us work to stop using language derived from sexual violation?
Generational violence is a huge normalizing factor, and challenging a youth’s parents, or at least their teachings, can be very difficult for some kids. Do I think we need to back off? No. Do I think we need to dumb it down? No. Do we need to acknowledge that violence is a foundational part of the lives of many young people? Absolutely. So how can you be a translator?