We all know that racial stereotypes are bad, but do we really understand what the effects of these stereotypes are? Racial stereotypes impact everything from personal relationships, to economic success. And for Asians and Pacific Islanders, they stand in the way of domestic violence survivors and the help they need. Here are three examples.
When it comes to addressing domestic abuse and working to eradicate it, feminism has played a critical role. But there’s one area of abuse that doesn’t get enough recognition in the movement: child abuse – especially child abuse committed by women. In order to address it, we need to see the abuse of children for what it is, regardless of the abuser’s gender.
(Trigger warning: victim-blaming, sexual assault, pedophilia, transphobia, rape.) As society slowly begins to recognize the pervasive problem of sexual violence, it is important to remember that this abuse can affect anyone. People of all ages, genders, races, sizes, and sexualities have survived this kind of violence. These photos show how widespread this violence is.
If you ask street harassers why they catcall women, chances are they’ll say they mean it as a compliment. “If women on the street said I look nice, it would make my day!” But the thing is, it’s not a compliment. It’s obnoxious at best and terrifying at worst. This cartoon demonstrates how absurd it is to expect people to be flattered by street harassment.
One of the most dangerous aspects of abusive relationships is that perpetrators convince their partners that the abuse is a sign of love. And that can be a difficult spell to break. This short film follows the story of a poet named Lucy who delivers a spoken word piece about the subtle ways that abuse began to dominate her relationship — and how she broke free.
While most of us see sexual violence as horrific, too often the primary type we see as “real” is stranger rape. This makes it harder to listen to survivors who know their perpetrators, which is the majority of the time. In this video, psychologist Dr. Burrowes explains why we need to broaden our understanding of sexual violence in order to acknowledge it every time it happens.
Choosing whether or not to report sexual assault shouldn’t be a matter of choosing the lesser of two evils. But it is. Staying silent often means the issue is never addressed, but when survivors speak up, they’re met with blame and skepticism. They can’t win. This comic by Jim C. Hines perfectly captures how unfair and harmful this double standard is.
We need more men to understand how the messages we receive about sex hurt more than women — that these messages hurt us in myriad ways, too. It’s time that we name the ways that patriarchy teaches men to pursue unhealthy sexuality in ways that hurt everyone. Thus, I want to analyze four of the most prominent messages men are taught about our sexuality.
Many women can tell you that being alone, outside, after dark is something they avoid doing whenever possible. But if you’ve never been a woman walking alone at night, you may not understand how scary it can be and how powerless you can feel. Check out this video in which six women talk openly about what they’ve experienced and felt while out alone after dark.
Despite progress made in marriage equality and representation, the truth is that the violence against queer people is still a rampant problem. After reading about a soldier who was burned to death for being gay, Andrea Gibson wrote one of her most powerful spoken word poems from the perspective of the victims of these horrific hate crimes.