5 Lies that Distort Male Sexuality and Hurt Men

Source: Get A News

We need more men to understand how the messages we receive about sex hurt more than women — that these messages hurt us in myriad ways, too. It’s time that we name the ways that patriarchy teaches men to pursue unhealthy sexuality in ways that hurt everyone. Thus, I want to analyze four of the most prominent messages men are taught about our sexuality.

What It’s Like to Be a Woman at Night


Many women can tell you that being alone, outside, after dark is something they avoid doing whenever possible. But if you’ve never been a woman walking alone at night, you may not understand how scary it can be and how powerless you can feel. Check out this video in which six women talk openly about what they’ve experienced and felt while out alone after dark.

‘What Was She Wearing?’: When We Listen to Clothing Instead of People


Some of the most common victim-blaming lines refer specifically to clothing: “What was she wearing?” “With that outfit, she was asking for it.” It’s as if people don’t realize that people communicate with words, not with clothing. Check out this tongue-in-cheek imagining of what the world would be like if people were only able to communicate via clothing.

Stop Thinking Like a Perpetrator: 4 Ways to Better Support Survivors of Sexual Violence

Source: United Community Services

Despite progress in raising awareness of sexual violence, there are still those who attempt to lay people’s trauma on a spectrum with one end being “shut up, it’s not that bad” and the other end being “legitimate rape.” All this ends up doing is denying the pain of survivors. Here are four important things we need to do in order to abandon perpetrator logic.

Male Rape Is No Laughing Matter (Even Though We’re Taught to Think It Is)


Warning: There will be triggers for some viewers but, if you watch, please watch the whole thing before passing judgment. Male rape victims and survivors are often met with a specific kind of dismissal and victim blaming. Watch one man talk about his experience and why the way our culture shapes masculinity has confirmed that, to him, rape is sincerely hilarious.

10 Tips for Talking About Sexual Violence with Your Sons

10 Tips for Talking About Sexual Violence with Your Sons

We often discuss issues of rape and sexual violence with our daughters, but are we having these critical conversations with our sons? The truth is that our sons can be victims of rape, too. They can also be bystanders, confidants, or rapists. Undoubtedly these conversations are challenging. So how do we start them, and what do we talk about? Here are a few tips.

For Michael Brown and Ferguson: Facing White Fears of Blackness and Taking Action to End White Supremacy


The police murder of Michael Brown has once again brought the attention of the country to the devastating reality of racist violence and structural inequality. With outrage, grief, and pain all over the country, I’m writing this to white people in particular as a call to action to stand with the people of Ferguson. Here are nine suggestions to help move forward.

For Emmett Till


In the wake of the death of Michael Brown (and Trayvon Martin, and Eric Garner, and John Crawford…), we must remember that brutality toward Black bodies is nothing new in America. Watch Dominique Christina deliver her outstanding poem about Emmett Till and the particular way that she, as a mother of a young Black man, relates to his murder.

3 Reasons Why Internet Harassment Is Not ‘Freedom of Speech’

Source: Invisible Disabilities

If you’ve spent more than two minutes on the Internet, you’ve probably seen internet harassment—trolling, bullying, insincere but deliberately hurtful comments, and other things that no one would say to another person’s face offline. But the internet isn’t some disembodied place where people should feel okay with delivering abuse without consequences.