Do you recognize any of these sexist ideas in your own queer community – or in your own thoughts?
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He’s a genderqueer trans man who knows how many aspects of masculinity can be toxic. And he’s learned some great lessons on the other possibilities that exist for masculinity.
The butch/femme binary can come in small boxes of how we’re “supposed” to be. Here’s some of the damage those boxes can bring – is any of it familiar to you?
“I grew out my hair, started wearing makeup and jewelry – and became effectively invisible in the queer scene.” With comments like “you’re too pretty to be a lesbian” just as common within the community as outside of it, queer feminine women are struggling.
I want to see a masculinity where love, power with, and compassion replace dominance, power over, and violence — a masculinity where some of those good messages I learned from the men in my life endure while leaving behind the destructive things that hurt me and so many other male-identified people. In short, we need a new way to understand ourselves as men.
After leading my students, all high school seniors, on a field trip to a local domestic violence (DV) organization to get a better understanding of intimate partner violence (IPV), I didn’t expect to be the one to leave with an epiphany. On the bus ride back to school, I messaged my ex who had been […]
This article originally appeared in The Huffington Post. It was lightly edited and reposted here with the author’s permission. Google “toxic masculinity” and you’re likely to stumble across Ben Shapiro’s National Review article The ‘Toxic Masculinity’ Smear, where he discusses the Left’s war on masculinity and manhood. If you can power through the part where he […]
Though polyamory has become (slightly) more mainstream-most articles and self-help books focus on abled and neurotypical folks. As someone who’s disabled and non-monogamous, it’s hard for me to relate to most of them. So many of the things me and my partner(s) have to navigate are often ignored or glossed over. Mainstream polyamory discourse generally […]
I’ve never thought of myself as someone who works “too much.” Even when, as a senior in college, I had three part-time jobs and an internship, I still made time to see my friends and participate in every end-of-college activity. In a society that’s built on capitalism and prizes the idea that you can achieve […]
There are so many beautiful intersections of LGBTQIA identity and love. This photo-series captures and celebrates the beauty of how contemporary Femme and Butch people express and love themselves, both autonomously and in relationship to each other. There is so much joy, passion, and pride in these pictures. This is what liberation looks like.
Donald Trump, mass shootings, police violence. What’s the danger of toxic masculinity? For an answer, look no further than this review of 2016.
In many cases, monogamy is used as something that is constantly threatened, rather than as an agreement between two people who love each other and want to love only each other.
“How do you be you?” These trans men shared about their childhoods, struggles, and what masculinity means to them, and we can all learn something from their insightful reflections.
In our gender binary world, it can be hard for butch folk to just be themselves. This amazing photo collection by Meg Allen shows how butch is being proudly reclaimed and expressed.
Male socialization runs so deep through our veins. For many, the shame of not having money, the shame of not being able to provide, collapses upon every other facet of our lives. Few of us speak the shame. Few of us hold the shame, look at it, and let it be within us but not of us. Few of us know how.
Street harassment and more – do you make the same assumptions about gender and body types that lead to this author’s experiences in public?
This article was originally published in RESIST, a publication that is no longer in print, and cross-posted here. (Content warning: animal exploitation; examples of sexism, ableism; descriptions of women in sexually or domestically abusive situations) The animal rights community has a serious exploitation problem. I am never surprised to hear when a non-vegan believes that […]
I’ve learned there is no shortage of stylistic experimentation that’s possible if we allow ourselves to exist outside of the gendered boxes that constrain how we express ourselves.
We sometimes think that issues of sexual entitlement and objectification are purely a problem with men, but the reality is masculine women do it, too. As I’ve become more vocal about my masculinity, my feminism has had to change from a feminism of solidarity to a feminism of recognizing that I’m different, and I that need to own that and change my behavior.
How can you build a healthier masculinity for the new year? Challenging these damaging parts of the toxic masculinity status quo is a good start.