Posts by Melissa A. Fabello
Our Vulvas, Ourselves
I do believe in body love and vulva-love is an integral part of it. Positive body image needs to encompass our whole female bodies, not just the parts that we like and are comfortable with. And in a society that teaches us constantly that female genitalia, by default, is offensive, we have a lot of work to do insofar as unlearning all of the bullshit and filling ourselves with enlightenment.
Read MoreWhy We Need To Stop Conflating Sexual Objectification with Sexual Empowerment
A common pop-culture misconception is confusing sexual objectification with sexual empowerment. Yes, it can feel good to be sexually desirable. But that’s not what sexual objectification does. The façades of empowerment and liberation that the media puts forth can be difficult territory to navigate. So let’s explore the key differences between the two.
Read MoreBreaking Down the Assertion That Some Women Go for Jerks (And 3 Ways to Change the Conversation)
There’s an annoyingly persistent question often asked by the Nice Guy(TM) sect: “Why do some women go for jerks?” We need to redirect that question.
Read MoreThe Pain of Being Feminist in an Anti-Feminist World
The pain of being a feminist in an anti-feminist world is palpable and it stings. Online backlash is one thing. It isn’t deserved or excusable, but it’s expected. But what about when the backlash is in your real life, when it’s from friends or family? It can easily lead to resentment, frustration, and anger. So here are some ideas for self-care to deal with it.
Read MoreThe Neurobiology Behind All of the Ridiculous Things You Do When You’re in Love
So let’s explain love. Let’s explain that fervor – with neurobiology! Why that may seen unromantic, it’s important to us as people and as feminists. We deserve full comprehension and control of our bodies. Instead of being driven by our body’s reactions, we can see them as just hormones flowing through our bodies – and not as the undeniable truth!
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