An Everyday Feminism Webinar

Dating and Sex After Trauma

A Webinar for Survivors and Those Who Love Them

Reclaim your right to pleasure in your body and connection in your relationships.

“In touch with the erotic, I become less willing to accept powerlessness, or those other supplied states of being which are not native to me, such as resignation, despair, self-effacement, depression, self-denial.” - Audre Lorde, Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power, Sister Outsider

Do you struggle to build and create nurturing relationships, or struggle to trust them once they’re established? Has it ever been hard to stay present during sex or are there things your lover does that incite terror or rage for seemingly no particular reason?

Has it been challenging to practice clear consent with yourself, or communicate your needs and boundaries to a partner? Do you have a lurking suspicion you don’t deserve the enjoyment of sexuality and connection?

Trauma can literally change our physiology in ways that make our bodies and brains believe that we are living in the past. It organizes our lives from a place of defense and survival, and relinquishes our right to joy and thriving.

If you’re a survivor, this webinar will help you start to untangle the complicated effects of trauma on your sexual wellness and relationships. It will give you a framework for using triggers as guideposts rather than stop signs on the road to healing.

If you are dating a survivor, this webinar will offer insight into how to support your partner’s healing without taking responsibility for the causes of it. And if you are both survivor and ally, having found a loving reflection in this sometimes challenging world, you will leave this webinar ready to start building intimacy from a place of healthy differentiation.

The work of healing from trauma to reclaim our right to pleasure in our bodies and connection in our relationships is complicated, yet profound. Nurturing our ability to engage in a safe and empowering way with dating and sex can be both the agent of change in our healing and a symbol of the healing itself.


Traci Medeiros-Bagan
Course Leader, Marriage and Family Therapist

Traci (She/They) is a therapist and life coach with a sliding scale practice in Orange County, CA, working largely with LGBTQ Folks, Kink-Identified Individuals, Ethically Non-Monogamous Couples and Families, and Sex Worker and Adult Industry Communities. Committed to embodied feminist healing, they often speak and write on the intersections of identity, shame, social stigma, inclusive sex positivity and radical self-care. Traci’s recent speaking engagements include the UC Riverside Trans* Asterisk Conference, Contemporary Relationships, Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, and Kink.Com’s Educational Series. They will also be speaking at Catalyst Con, Los Angeles 2018: Sparking communication in sexuality, activism and acceptance.


“I think Traci did a wonderful job of presenting complex ideas and then breaking them down so they are more easily understood.”

-Laura C.

“During this webinar, I felt validated, heard, safe and loved, something that seems so rare when you've experienced trauma. Words cannot express my gratitude.”


Letter from the Webinar Leader

We live in a world where trauma exists.

Its causes range from purposeful, systematic, and institutionally validated, to accidental. It can be caused by many thing—from complex unintended side effects of other healing practices to just bad timing.

Without a doubt, the likelihood of sustaining trauma increases with the number of marginalized identities one holds, reminding us that—with the addition of a more intersectional lens—the personal is still political.

I would argue there are few things more personal than trauma. As a feminist healer, I have seen how it wreaks havoc on the most intimate level, violating us down to our nervous systems.

I also believe that healing can be one of our most liberating political acts. It is a place where we can take back and take up space, finding ways to operate that are not dictated by oppressors and, rather, are guided by our innate right to safety, intimacy, sexual wellness, and connection.

We’ll take a deep breath and head into this work with courage in community. Know that by even entertaining the thought that there are experiences for you (or your partner) outside of survival, you have already started the journey towards them.

With hope and trust,



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How will I access the webinar?
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Are there group rate discounts?
Yes! The $35 cost only covers one participant. If you are buying for a group, please inquire here about our generous group discounts!