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Quit Pretending You Care About My Struggles When You Tone Police My Anger
“I know what you’re going through is hard, but…” If you’re ever tempted to tell someone they’re too angry about oppression, stop right now and read this.
Read More9 Tactics of Abuse That You Can Find in Trump’s Sexual Assault Video
It’s not just harmless “locker room talk” – naming the abusive tactics behind Trump’s words is chilling, but so important for facing the reality of abuse.
Read More4 Reasons Why Medical Examinations Can’t Always Prove If Someone Was Raped
We hear about “rape kits” providing medical evidence of whether or not someone is a rape victim – but this myth is actually limiting our understanding of rape.
Read More10 Emotional Abuse Tactics That Trump Blatantly Used in the First Debate
Did you notice any of these in the presidential debate? Emotional and verbal abuse are being normalized – so let’s shed some light to show what’s really going on.
Read More10 Pop Culture Characters Who Stayed Friends or Lovers with Their Rapists
The Simpsons, Gone with the Wind, Glee – some of our society’s most beloved movies and TV shows are trivializing rape in a dangerous way.
Read More4 Reasons We Can’t End Rape Culture Simply By Incarcerating Rapists
Rape has a very low conviction rate – but don’t make the mistake of thinking that increasing convictions alone would end rape culture. Here’s why that’s a dangerous idea.
Read More8 Appalling Examples of How Rape Culture Shows Up On College Campuses
Looking for evidence of rape culture in colleges and universities? These examples show just how dangerously normalized rape culture is in our schools.
Read More5 Ways People Justify Adults Having Sex with Minors – And Why It’s Still Not Okay
Of course you believe it’s wrong for adults to have sex with minors – unless a minor isn’t a “perfect victim,” right? Make sure you know why these cases are still wrong.
Read More4 Ways I’ve Grown Stronger From Surviving Childhood Trauma
“I am a survivor with a haunting creation myth.” This author’s starting to see their strength – instead of feeling shame. These moving reflections can help make space for survivors of childhood trauma.
Read More7 Unexpected Ways PTSD Affects My Life
Many people know the typical symptoms of PTSD – but we need to understand that everyone’s experience is different. This author’s unexpected symptoms show why.
Read MoreHere’s the Perfect Metaphor for Why Victim-Blaming Is Completely Ridiculous
Nobody who watches this could deny that this common approach to sexual assault survivors is wrong – so pass it on to help put a stop to victim-blaming.
Read More5 Reasons Why I Identify As a Rape Victim, Not a Rape Survivor
“You’re not a victim. You’re a survivor.” You may have said this to someone who was sexually assaulted – until recently, this author did, too. Here’s what changed her mind.
Read More4 Things We’re Not Saying When We Say ‘Rape Culture’
“The Middle East is where the real rape culture is!” If you don’t believe in rape culture, you’re probably misinterpreting what it is – so here’s the truth you need to know.
Read More‘Should I Report My Rape?’ 5 Questions to Help You Decide
It’s not as easy as some people think to decide if you should report your rape – so we understand if you’re struggling with it. Asking yourself these questions can help.
Read More3 Ways Men Who Loved Me Violated My Consent – And What This Says About Rape Culture
Can you relate to any of these examples? There’s a pattern here that really shows how entrenched rape culture is.
Read More3 Reasons Why ‘If I Ever Met a Rapist, I’d Punch Him’ Isn’t Helpful
You might think it’s supportive to threaten a rapist with violence. But here’s why it doesn’t make this author (and many other survivors) feel any safer.
Read MoreHere’s Why We Need Restorative Justice As an Option for Dealing with Abuse
“#1: The current system isn’t working.” What does it take to change abusive behavior? Restorative justice is an alternative to the criminal justice system, and here’s how it can help.
Read More5 Reasons Why Non-Traditional Rape Narratives Are Important
“They challenge stereotypes about rape.” Society tends to only present certain stories about sexual assault – which leads to a lot of misconceptions. Here’s why it matters to include non-traditional narratives.
Read MoreHere’s What Nobody Tells You About Being Sexually Assaulted
“It happened to me, but I am not alone.” These survivors have different experiences with sexual assault – and they’ve all had people say horrible things to them afterwards. This is a powerful example of survivors standing together in their truth.
Read More5 Ways US Culture and Society is Gaslighting Marginalized People
Our society draws strict lines about who you “should” or “shouldn’t” be – and in a lot of ways, it’s just like an abuser’s gaslighting. Here are a few ways that’s happening, and why these ideas are wrong about you.
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