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These 3 Sweet Love Stories Show Why Black Trans Love Is So Revolutionary
Is someone chopping onions in here, or is it these amazing couples bringing tears to our eyes?
Read MoreWhat Is Heteronormativity – And How Does It Apply to Your Feminism? Here Are 4 Examples
It’s a long word, but once you get this breakdown, you’ll recognize the invisible ways this shows up in your life.
Read MoreWhat On Earth Makes Us Want to Wear High Heels? Well, Here’s Your Answer
Why do so many (including this author) love heels, in spite of their problems? These answers are fascinating. Do you have any to add?
Read MoreGot a Penis, But Limited Birth Control Options? Here’s How Gender Stereotypes Are Causing the Delay
Did you know that more birth control options could exist? Here’s what’s holding us back from them.
Read More3 Common Feminist Phrases That (Unintentionally) Marginalize Trans Women
Language around trans women is constantly evolving. So if you’re a cis ally, let’s make sure you don’t use these phrases and accidentally cause harm.
Read MoreWhy Don’t We Talk About Painful Sex?
Sex should never hurt. This is true regardless of a person’s gender, irrespective of the kind of sex that someone is having (consensual and desired pain-play notwithstanding), and it’s true whether it’s a person’s first or 401st time. But why are so many people resigned to having painful sex? Well, partly because we don’t talk about it enough. So let’s start now.
Read MoreYou Call It Professionalism; I Call It Oppression in a Three-Piece Suit
How comfortable do you feel in a three-piece suit? “Professionalism” is a social construct, and like all social constructs, it’s a total downer. Standards of looking professional uphold a lot of ugly “isms,” as policies with a racist, sexist, classist, and xenophobic core. Here’s the truth about why the work we do should speak more loudly than how we look.
Read MoreWhat Kristen Stewart Taught Me About Internalized Misogyny
You might see “girl hate” as just being catty, but there are some disturbing parallels here. Find out how tearing down other girls hurts all women.
Read MoreYour First Time: A Sexual Guide for Trans Men
Trans men, like all people, need to know how to have fulfilling, safe, healthy sex to feel whole and good about ourselves. We deserve it (and don’t let anyone tell you differently). But most out trans boys, trans men, and trans masculine people I know receive inadequate, if not wholly non-existent, sex talks. So here are seven key places to start.
Read MoreHow to Respectfully Love a Trans Woman: Navigating Transmisogyny in Your Romantic Relationship
There’s no one-size-fits-all roadmap on how to romance transgender women. But it’s important to honor trans women’s humanity by recognizing that, behind all of the activism and social apprehension, many trans women also desire fulfilling romantic relationships. Here are some ways you can support your lover in public, in private, and in bed.
Read More10 Myths About Non-Binary People It’s Time to Unlearn
Many people grew up being told that all people were either male or female. So there’s widespread misinformation about being non-binary. Let’s clear up some things about non-binary people.
Read More5 Ways That Bi Erasure Hurts More Than Just Bisexual People
Bisexual folks have been made the butt of so many jokes, have had their identities excluded from queer communities, and have been accused of perpetuating transphobia and the gender binary. But the castigation of bi identities from queer and gender non-conforming movements reinforces a prejudice that harms people across the gender and sexuality spectrum.
Read More10 Things You’re Actually Saying When You Ignore Someone’s Gender Pronouns
One of the most everyday challenging parts of coming out as transgender is the resistance people have to changing the pronouns they use. Sure, some slip-ups are understandable at first. But when people actively refuse to use your pronouns, then that’s a whole other story. Here are ten things that this refusal actually signifies to the trans person.
Read MoreMental Illness and Sexism: What Calling Women ‘Crazy’ Actually Does
Think about the last time you called someone crazy (to their face or behind their back). What message were you trying to send? I’m sure it wasn’t a positive one. Was the “crazy” person a woman? I wouldn’t be shocked. It would be hypocritical of me to shame you for it, because we’ve all done it. That’s why it’s important that we discuss it now.
Read More4 Reasons Never to Tell Your Daughters to Be ‘Ladylike’
Terms like “ladylike” are in line with equally absurd terms like “acting Black” that lump behavior onto a particular group of people in an effort to reinforce dominant society’s assertion of what is considered desirable and acceptable social protocol. So here are my four top reasons for steering clear of labels and social graces when it comes to my daughters.
Read More17 Lies We Need to Stop Teaching Boys About Sex
Men and boys are a big part of the equation in discussions about sex positivity, so let’s debunk these 17 myths boys often learn about sex.
Read MorePracticing Feminism for Father’s Day
How can we make feminist commitments this Father’s Day? This list of ideas ranges from the civic to the personal, the playful to the political, but each suggestion is geared so that feminism is at the heart of our families. Join us in making a commitment to take at least one action against patriarchy and misogyny in real life. Let us evolve fatherhood together.
Read MoreEmbracing Feminine Energy in Entrepreneurship
Prevalent messages in our society say that business and life don’t mix. And this separation between vocation and voice is a separation between our masculine and feminine selves. It’s an unfortunate reality, as it relegates feminine principles to the background and labels them as detrimental to sound business practices. So how do we reclaim entrepreneurship?
Read More30 Ways To Be a Better Ally in 2015
I have been reflecting a lot lately on how I can be a better ally. And as we wade our way into 2015, I suppose now is as good a time as any to consider some ways that any person who wishes to act accountably as an ally can do better in 2015. So here’s my list of 30 ways that those of us who strive to act in solidarity and allyship (most notably inclusive of myself) can be better allies.
Read MoreA Tale of Two Feminists: On Being an Activist in College
When Amy arrived at college, she hardly identified as a feminist. Conversely, when Erin arrived at college, she was already a full-fledged feminist activist. Now Amy and Erin are both in college – one conservative and one liberal – and they see the need for some advice on how to be a collegiate feminist activist, regardless of your environment. This article is it.
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