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3 Ridiculous Examples of Invasive Ableism at Work – And How It Can Change
“Do I come to your job and tell you how to do it?” Actually, yes. Here’s how able bodied people cross disabled people’s boundaries in really hurtful ways.
Read More9 Questions I Ask Myself Before Having Sex That Might Help You, Too
What if you and a partner have different ideas about sex? What if you want to stop? Here are some things to consider to make sure you’re comfortable and safe having sex.
Read MoreIt’s Hard Introducing New Sexual Desires into Relationships – Here Are 6 Ways to Start
“1. Get Comfortable with Your Desires.” If you’re not sure how to start a conversation with your partner about what you want, these steps should help.
Read More6 Ways to Respect Your Fat Friends While Discussing Your Fitness Regimen
“4. Think Twice Before Posting Before and After Photos on Social Media.” It may feel harmless to discuss your fitness life – but here’s how you might be hurting your fat friends.
Read MoreNot Sure How to Discuss Sexual Desires with Your Partner? We’ve Got You Covered
You can find plenty of resources on “how to please your partner” – but having real conversation with your partner is the best sex tip out there. Here are some practical ways to make communication happen.
Read More4 Sex Myths Your Teen Is Getting at School – And How to Counteract Them
Do you know what your teenager’s learning about things like sexual violence and objectification? These are pretty disturbing – but this article has some solid tips on what you can do about it.
Read More7 ‘Positive Thinking’ Phrases That Can Actually Cross the Line Into Gaslighting
“Don’t cry.” People reject others’ feelings or lived experiences all the time – even when they think they’re helping. If taken too far, it can cross into abuse. Are any of these phrases familiar to you?
Read MoreThese 4 Behaviors That Fictional Media Tells Us Are Romantic Are Actually Really Harmful
50 Shades of Grey, Twilight, and more – do any of your favorite fictional romances include these unhealthy behaviors? It’s time to think twice about what fictional romance teaches us.
Read More5 Common Ways Our Communities Fail to Address Intimate Partner Violence
What this author witnessed is far too common – and what’s worse is that so many of us in social justice groups don’t know how to respond as bystanders to partner violence. Are any of these familiar to your community?
Read More50 Shades of Abuse: 10 Signs of Unhealthy Relationships a la Christian Grey
There are a lot of reasons why folks are up-in-arms about “50 Shades of Grey.” Here are ten ways that the book (and their subsequent film) shows clear signs of abuse – especially emotional abuse, which can be harder to pinpoint if you’re not sure which red flags to pay attention to. Use this article as a guide for thinking through the relationship in “50 Shades.”
Read MoreStill Think Rape Jokes Are Harmless Fun?
Some people think its funny when boys joke about rape. They argue that people who speak out against those jokes, and the culture that encourages and allows them, are humorless. But those boys eventually turn into teenagers and men, some of whom DO commit actual sexual violence that predominately, but not exclusively, target women. This must stop now!
Read MoreStop Thinking Like a Perpetrator: 4 Ways to Better Support Survivors of Sexual Violence
Despite progress in raising awareness of sexual violence, there are still those who attempt to lay people’s trauma on a spectrum with one end being “shut up, it’s not that bad” and the other end being “legitimate rape.” All this ends up doing is denying the pain of survivors. Here are four important things we need to do in order to abandon perpetrator logic.
Read MoreHow Disablist Western Ideas of ‘Self-Determination’ Undermine Social Justice and 5 Ways to Make It Right
Self-determination – making your own choices – is so important. But let’s be careful about the difference between self-determination from a colonial perspective and how it’s defined in Indigenous struggles. If we don’t, it can be used to actively perpetuate marginalization and hurt disabled people. Here’s how you can take up self-determination in a justice framework.
Read More5 Excuses I’ve Made for My Perpetrators – And What They Reveal About Rape Culture
“Men can’t help it.” Have you made any of these excuses for people who violated your consent? These aren’t unusual, and that says a lot about rape culture.
Read MoreYour 3-Step Guide to Practicing Non-Oppressive BDSM
Some people think it’s contradictory to be a feminist and practice BDSM. With these tips, you can think through even more than safe words and and consent – and get kinky without compromising your values.
Read MoreWhy We Need Gender Neutral Language for Abortion Access
Do you think only women need access to abortions and reproductive healthcare? That assumption hurts trans and non-binary people – Jack Qu’emi shares how.
Read MoreWhy Islam and Feminism Have More in Common Than You Think They Do
Think all Muslims are anti-feminism? Think again! There are a lot of misconceptions about what it means to be a Muslim woman. But the truth of the matter is, it’s entirely possible to be a feminist and a Muslim. Watch this frank discussion between two feminist Muslim women about some of the common misconceptions people have about Muslim women.
Read More4 Ways Queer And Trans Parents Are Raising Revolutionary Children During The Trump Era
These parents are turning this tumultuous political moment into teachable one by talking to their kids about oppression: What it is, how it manifests and how to interrupt it.
Read MoreSocial Media Has Its Pitfalls But You Can Use It For Positive Change—Here’s How
Every time I speak up and share people reach out to me; they let me know that they feel empowered to share their own story.
Read More‘It Is Absurdly, Obscenely Common’: Incest Survivors Speak Out
I wanted to start a dialogue around a form of abuse that society has stigmatized and avoided discussing for far too long.
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