everyday feminism

How Women Are Pressured into Being Sexy, But Punished for Being Sexual

Kim Kardashian from her Paper photo shoot

This culture financially and socially rewards women for how well they fit into a heterosexual lens of desire. Then, we ridicule those women who choose to gain from that dynamic. But instead of directing our ire at the people working the system, we need focus our attention on changing the system. As the old saying goes, “Don’t hate the player, hate the game.”

Why Our Feminism Must Be Intersectional (And 3 Ways to Practice It)

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Intersectional feminism, at its core, is a practice of incorporating compassion and empathy into our feminist politic. It asks us to expand beyond the experience of white, middle-class, straight, cis, able-bodied women in order to be more inclusive. Then we can understand and address the oppressions that *all* people marginalized by patriarchy experience.

3 Common Complaints About Political Correctness (That Completely Miss the Point)


If you’ve ever so much as made a Facebook post about a social justice issue, you’ve probably encountered people claiming that “political correctness” has gone too far and that we’re all being too sensitive. And to those of us who believe in using language as a tool of compassion, this looks more like an excuse than an argument. Being PC matters. Here’s why.

3 Reasons Why Being Anti-Racist Isn’t Code for Being Anti-White


It seems like every time anti-racism activists speak up about their work, there is some level of pushback claiming that the work is “attacking white people.” But the thing is, that’s just not true. Anti-racism is not against white people. To clarify what anti-racism is really about, here are three things that the movement actually works to dismantle.

5 Steps to Unlearning a Lifetime of Patriarchal Lies


Every one of us, no matter how educated our societies or loving our families of origin, makes moral and social judgments based on what we view as “normal.” But we can choose to reject beliefs and behaviors that we find personally limiting or detrimental to humanity as a whole. The seeds of feminism are planted in this unlearning process. Here are five key steps.

There Is No ‘Real’ Feminist: Why You Can Be One Anyway


There’s a midpoint between the lazy and feminist portions of my brain that wants to say, “This thing is feminist because I like it.” But I can’t do that. Because then I wouldn’t have to be critical. This is the problem I have with centering conversations around whether something is feminist: It’s the wrong question to be asking about feminism.

3 Reasons Why Internet Harassment Is Not ‘Freedom of Speech’

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If you’ve spent more than two minutes on the Internet, you’ve probably seen internet harassment—trolling, bullying, insincere but deliberately hurtful comments, and other things that no one would say to another person’s face offline. But the internet isn’t some disembodied place where people should feel okay with delivering abuse without consequences.

Respectability Politics Won’t Get Us Half as Far

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There’s this unspoken pressure within the black community to present a “respectable” image of blackness at all times. And I get that. We want to be represented, we want to be valued, and we want to be seen as human, and when we know that we as a race are being denigrated for whatever reason, we want to push back against that. But that’s bullshit. Here’s why.