You judge people. But how many of the judgments that you make about other people based on appearances alone are likely to be accurate, kind, or worthwhile when they don’t meet the standards you place on yourself? If you’re someone who’s still struggling with these negative thoughts, here are some things to think about when it comes to judging and accepting body diversity.
If you’ve been (or are) closeted, you’re already aware that it’s not fun. Hiding your sexual orientation and/or gender identity from others can be a confining, isolating experience. Though there’s no one-size-fits-all way to deal with the stress of being in the closet, there are things that can ease the burden or keep it from getting heavier than it already is.
Racialized sexism sneaks into spaces that claim to have the best interests of women and People of Color at heart. Dealing with racialized sexism means dealing with the fact that every person holds multiple political and social identities that blend and intersect. Therefore, assuming that all experiences of sexism are just variations of the same thing is a mistake.
Cultural appropriation is a real issue because it demonstrates the imbalance of power that still remains between cultures that have been colonized and the ex-colonizers. But even if the line between exchange and appropriation bends, twists, and loop-de-loops in ways it would take decades of academic thought to unpack, it has a definite starting point: Respect.
I’m tired of hearing the words “I don’t see race.” Though people might be trying to say “I’m not prejudiced,” it sounds more like they’re saying “I’m open-minded because I’m ignorant” to racially conscious people. Because if you really don’t see race at all, it doesn’t make much difference to the people whose livelihoods, cultures, and identities are all affected by racial inequality.
When people of color internalize racism and become self-hating, they have made a mental link between worth and whiteness. When we strip ourselves of that lie, we can start to see ourselves as whole rather than deficient. And only when we see our wholeness and understand that we’re worth fighting for can we advance any movement that holds the best interests of people of color at heart.
Having sex is not obligatory, nor does it lead to the ultimate state of bliss. It’s neither as ideal nor as demonic as some would have you believe. There also isn’t one way to experience it. There is no one way to experience sexuality, and attempts to shame or stigmatize people for a lack of sex or attraction, even indirectly, are fraught with assumptions about how things “should” be.
We need to talk about the impact religion has on our culture and ideas of gender, even if that means we have to touch a touchy subject. However, I think that any and all open criticism of religion needs to be handled with care because religion is so intertwined with culture and ethnic identity. The following are things I propose should be kept in mind when delivering these criticisms.
Condemning male sexual entitlement is not an attempt to paint men as virulent pigs who are slaves to their sexual desires. Because that isn’t true.The fact that men aren’t slaves to their sexual desires means they can combat male sexual entitlement by noticing ways that our society supports and encourages the belief that men are owed sexual gratification.
Feminists are well-aware of the fact that there are morally inept women out there who make false allegations of rape. Yes. It happens. It’s not a secret that we’re keeping from anyone. But given that we live in a world where 54% of rapes are not reported to police, the fact that some women lie about rape isn’t exactly the most pressing conversation we need to be having.