There’s this unspoken pressure within the black community to present a “respectable” image of blackness at all times. And I get that. We want to be represented, we want to be valued, and we want to be seen as human, and when we know that we as a race are being denigrated for whatever reason, we want to push back against that. But that’s bullshit. Here’s why.
Being aware of and enjoying other cultures is not inherently bad. On the other, stealing them and claiming them as your own can do unseen, oppressive damage. So where do we draw the line between “appropriate” forms of cultural exchange and more damaging patterns of cultural appropriation? Jarune Uwujaren helps to clear the air around this important issue!
Yes, black women have strength. But time and time again, the word “strong” has been used to dehumanize black women, to trivialize their pain, to create an impossible standard for young black girls to strive towards. For black women, taking that strength back means calling out the ways in which their strength is used against them. It’s time for us to debunk some myths.
You judge people. But how many of the judgments that you make about other people based on appearances alone are likely to be accurate, kind, or worthwhile when they don’t meet the standards you place on yourself? If you’re someone who’s still struggling with these negative thoughts, here are some things to think about when it comes to judging and accepting body diversity.
If you’ve been (or are) closeted, you’re already aware that it’s not fun. Hiding your sexual orientation and/or gender identity from others can be a confining, isolating experience. Though there’s no one-size-fits-all way to deal with the stress of being in the closet, there are things that can ease the burden or keep it from getting heavier than it already is.
Racialized sexism sneaks into spaces that claim to have the best interests of women and People of Color at heart. Dealing with racialized sexism means dealing with the fact that every person holds multiple political and social identities that blend and intersect. Therefore, assuming that all experiences of sexism are just variations of the same thing is a mistake.
Cultural appropriation is a real issue because it demonstrates the imbalance of power that still remains between cultures that have been colonized and the ex-colonizers. But even if the line between exchange and appropriation bends, twists, and loop-de-loops in ways it would take decades of academic thought to unpack, it has a definite starting point: Respect.
I’m tired of hearing the words “I don’t see race.” Though people might be trying to say “I’m not prejudiced,” it sounds more like they’re saying “I’m open-minded because I’m ignorant” to racially conscious people. Because if you really don’t see race at all, it doesn’t make much difference to the people whose livelihoods, cultures, and identities are all affected by racial inequality.
When people of color internalize racism and become self-hating, they have made a mental link between worth and whiteness. When we strip ourselves of that lie, we can start to see ourselves as whole rather than deficient. And only when we see our wholeness and understand that we’re worth fighting for can we advance any movement that holds the best interests of people of color at heart.
Having sex is not obligatory, nor does it lead to the ultimate state of bliss. It’s neither as ideal nor as demonic as some would have you believe. There also isn’t one way to experience it. There is no one way to experience sexuality, and attempts to shame or stigmatize people for a lack of sex or attraction, even indirectly, are fraught with assumptions about how things “should” be.