This culture financially and socially rewards women for how well they fit into a heterosexual lens of desire. Then, we ridicule those women who choose to gain from that dynamic. But instead of directing our ire at the people working the system, we need focus our attention on changing the system. As the old saying goes, “Don’t hate the player, hate the game.”
Given the strong role of religion in the Black community, Black atheist and nonbelievers are often overlooked, stereotyped, and even shunned by family and friends. So let us self-reflect and weed out harmful myths about what it means to be Black in America so that it includes Black nonbelievers too.
It seems like every time anti-racism activists speak up about their work, there is some level of pushback claiming that the work is “attacking white people.” But the thing is, that’s just not true. Anti-racism is not against white people. To clarify what anti-racism is really about, here are three things that the movement actually works to dismantle.
Every one of us, no matter how educated our societies or loving our families of origin, makes moral and social judgments based on what we view as “normal.” But we can choose to reject beliefs and behaviors that we find personally limiting or detrimental to humanity as a whole. The seeds of feminism are planted in this unlearning process. Here are five key steps.
There’s a midpoint between the lazy and feminist portions of my brain that wants to say, “This thing is feminist because I like it.” But I can’t do that. Because then I wouldn’t have to be critical. This is the problem I have with centering conversations around whether something is feminist: It’s the wrong question to be asking about feminism.
If you’ve spent more than two minutes on the Internet, you’ve probably seen internet harassment—trolling, bullying, insincere but deliberately hurtful comments, and other things that no one would say to another person’s face offline. But the internet isn’t some disembodied place where people should feel okay with delivering abuse without consequences.
There’s this unspoken pressure within the black community to present a “respectable” image of blackness at all times. And I get that. We want to be represented, we want to be valued, and we want to be seen as human, and when we know that we as a race are being denigrated for whatever reason, we want to push back against that. But that’s bullshit. Here’s why.