Perpetuating this mainstream coming-out narrative can bring a lot of problems, especially for people who don’t have mainstream privileges. It even hurts people who do. We need to broaden our focus towards resisting the system-wide oppression we all face – and breaking free of a problematic narrative. So let’s unpack some of the harmful myths of this mainstream narrative.
It’s exhausting when you feel like you’re having the same conversation over and over again in regards to social injustices that are important to you. It can be even more frustrating when you realize that whether your conversation is in-group or out-group, it can sound really similar. Here are some examples of talking about non-binary issues with both trans and cis folk.
All youth should feel protected, safe, and happy, but far too many young people who are sexual and/or a/gender minorities do not. So how can we change that? Let’s start by understanding it. Delve into three issues that have a major impact on the mental health of LGBTQIA+ youth, and get informed with some concrete evidence on what we need to change for our youth.
How can we in the LGBTQIA+ community help fight misogyny? The sad but necessary truth is that we have to start from within. This comic shows how objectification, oppressive beauty standards, and other forms of misogyny show up in LGBTQIA+ communities. Learn why and how we must unlearn these behaviors to create the safe and welcoming space we hope for.
We’re taught that a “normal” relationship has a cisgender man and a cisgender woman. Same with a “normal” case of intimate partner violence. But reports of LGBTQIA+ intimate partner violence are on the rise. So why is LGBTQIA+ IPV so invisible? Let’s survey the scene, and get some essential guidelines for giving safe and affirming support to LGBTQIA+ IPV survivors.
You probably know the internet’s blowing up about Patricia Arquette. She spoke up at the Oscars about a really important issue – wage equality. So why all the criticism? Here’s what you need to know about what’s going on with her and other celebrities who speak up on sociopolitical issues – what she did right, where she went wrong, and why we should call her in.
It’s not easy feeling abandoned for being who you are. In fact, it’s often utterly unbearable. LGBTQIA+ people, particularly youth, are one of the groups most affected by family rejection. And rejection from one’s own family is one of the most painful experiences to endure. Here’s some recognition of you and your struggle, with a few strategies to help you cope.
Transgender narratives are popular these days. In a way, that’s really cool – recognition of trans existence is a great step toward being treated like we’re actually human. But quite a bit of transness is being capitalized on by cisgender people. We’re being used. So here’s a list of tropes that need to end to help trans people take our representation back.
Coming out is not often an easy process – for anyone. But when folks experience intersecting marginalized identities on top of being queer, there can be added layers of difficulty. Check out these awesome queer folk (and their parents!) discussing their trials and triumphs of coming out in immigrant family systems, as well as giving advice on how you can do the same.
If you feel like sex is “kind of like dessert – a good thing when it happens, but not something you would actively seek out” because you need a deep emotional connection in order to experience sexual desire, it’s possible that you could be demisexual. Check out this author’s journey from confusion to asexuality to coming out as demisexual.