If you’ve been (or are) closeted, you’re already aware that it’s not fun. Hiding your sexual orientation and/or gender identity from others can be a confining, isolating experience. Though there’s no one-size-fits-all way to deal with the stress of being in the closet, there are things that can ease the burden or keep it from getting heavier than it already is.
To some, the notion that friends are supposed to build you up and make you feel good is obvious. But for others who are caught in toxic relationships, this may not be as apparent. Vlogger Lex discusses her experiences with “friends” who made her feel unwelcome and unappreciated, the effects of this treatment on her self-worth, and her decision to cut the toxicity out of her life.
It happens like that – one minute I can be self-assured, and then the next, someone says something that makes me question my capabilities, or else something happens where I feel like I should’ve done better than I had. And because it’s so easy for us to go from high to low, what’s most important is to figure out ways to boost ourselves back up. Here are some techniques.
I’ve heard a lot of people verbally beating themselves up. “I just feel stupid for doing that” or “I feel like I’ve made some poor decisions.” We want to honor all of the feelings that we feel, but it’s healthy if we let ourselves off the hook for feeling whatever it is we’re feeling. Letting yourself be as you are is hard, but it’s also possible. Here are some techniques to help you through.
There are challenges to putting self-care into practice, the biggest one probably being time. But you do have control over how you use it. Because when we care for ourselves, the greater purpose attached to that is the well-being of ourselves and others. And since even small acts of self-care can be revolutionary, don’t be afraid to take some time for you.
33,204,961. That’s my approximation of the number of times I’ve been called highly emotional or otherwise plastered with the overly sensitive label. Well, let me offer you some insights on the reasons people feel the need to label you, and your options for managing those labels. Because what others choose to do with what you say is their choice, but how you feel every day is yours.
I get particularly unnerved when I can’t readily identify the fix-a-feeling brew for a loved one’s emotional ailment. But I’ve learned over the years that every bit of the energy you create with your friend as they work through their emotional struggle, can serve as part of their elixir for healing their hurt – if you can just be there without fixating on the fix.
Sometimes – well, most times – there’s pain in a relationship. And sometimes, things can become so fragile and hard to navigate that irreparable cracks surface, and the relationship becomes broken. And I’ve been there. Far too many times. Learning, growing, and working hard to understand why brokenness breaks you – and what to do about it – is a journey. But it’s one worth taking.
Have you ever wanted to say something to your partner, friend, or family member, but just couldn’t get the words out? You may be scared to say what you feel because feeling anything at all is scary. But what’s far more frightening is if you don’t say anything. It’s your responsibility to break the cycle. So here are some ideas if you’re itching to begin.
This week’s video headline is all about self-love! Watch as popular vlogger Angelina LB breaks down the toxic mentalities that lead us to demean our own worth. She gives personal examples of how she learned to throw away the rules to an impossible-to-win game society has created for women, and encourages people to express themselves in ways that make them feel good, regardless of reception.