I met Dave on a dating site. He was interesting, gentlemanly, and bright; I was enticed and longed for the full knowing of this man. And so, we planned a weekend together. Afterward, he confessed to me: “Your body is too wrinkly. I like your head and your heart. But I just can’t deal with your body.” But I would not diminish myself for him — or for anyone.
Advertising and media have set an impossible standard of beauty, and then convinced us that we can only be happy if we match it. But what would happen if we stopped trying to satisfy this arbitrary standard, and focused on loving what we have? According to Jes Baker, a lot would change. Check out this video to learn more about the social impact of body love!
You know that feeling – the nagging notion that you’re not as smart as everyone else in the room, that you don’t deserve compliments, maybe even that you don’t deserve your job in the first place and just got where you are based on pure luck. Well, it has a name: Impostors Syndrome. And it can lead to some serious problems, both in and out of the workplace.
Everywhere we turn, there are voices telling us what’s wrong with our bodies. We hear them every time we watch an advertisement for a beauty product. They’re the voices of strangers, coworkers, and sometimes they’re the voices of our friends and families. But what happens if you stop listening to all of these voices? Kat Lazo has some thoughts on the matter!
The subtlety of most body shaming tactics make body negativity one of the most dangerous tools against self love in our society’s arsenal. Luckily, there are movements like The Body is Not an Apology to counteract the negativity we are taught about our bodies. Check out the spoken word poem that started it all and remember that your body is not an apology!
A while ago, I wrote a piece about five phrases you could cut from your daily vocabulary to start feeling better. While learning what to cut is important, it sometimes implies that we’re doing something wrong. So I want also to show phrases that we can add to our lives that can help us get to the good. Here are five phrases to feel capable, deserving, and enough.
It pierced itself in and out of my mind until I finally became one with it, until I was no longer just angry, but anger itself. Sometimes the pleasure of being the one who has been wronged has no match. But soon I realized that being angry had become a chore. Often with such realization comes the power to make authentic choices. I chose to end the anger.
It’s the affirmation that every woman allegedly wants and even needs to hear: “You’re beautiful.” Like many girls, I aspired to be beautiful. If I wasn’t beautiful, how could I put my best self forward? How could I designate myself as worthy of someone’s time? Not feeling beautiful becomes almost threatening. Which prompts the question: Why?
We often think of self-expression as a reactive phenomenon, but we don’t have to be backed into a corner in order to show our true colors. We can own our motives and personalities in all parts of our lives in a proactive way. Watch as Akilah S. Richards offers three methods to a proactive self-expression and explains how and why each is relevant.
When I was younger, I rarely spoke up when I didn’t know something. Then after years of pretending, I found myself in a situation where I could no longer pretend. All I knew was that I was no longer ashamed of what I didn’t know because everything was uncertain. So I stopped faking it. I found that there was only one piece I could know – and that was myself.