In an extremely heteronormative society, self-acceptance as a queer person can be very difficult. From religion to family to media to legislation, queer people are assaulted with too many homophobic messages that teach assimilation and self-loathing. Check out this article to learn strategies for attaining self-love, empowerment, and resilience as a queer person.
It’s so easy to feel like a failure when our standards for success often reflect white, male, middle-class, heterosexual, cisgender, and able-bodied ways of living. But we can disengage from those socializations that make us feel bad about ourselves and redetermine what success feels like to us. This article reminds us that we have agency over how we perceive ourselves.
Self-silencing happens when we decide that the potential fallout of how we feel outweighs whatever benefit there might be in expressing those feelings. And on a societal level, this seemingly trivial issue can lead to more complicated and compacted problems. So here are three processes that I have found to be helpful.
In our classist society, we’re so quick to blame and shame people struggling financially. So we don’t have compassionate conversations about poverty, its emotional and cultural impact, and how to survive it. So here’s some survival strategies, affirmations, and solace for those attempting to navigate intersectional class oppression.
Under the supposed context of “humor” and “media entertainment,” Dwarfs are the recipients of invasive and xenophobic bullying, assault, violence, marginalization, and ridicule. Not only is this demeaning and dehumanizing, it’s the sort of socially ignored oppression that compromises the safety, well-being, and economic access of an entire group of people.
Fatphobia is so rampantly internalized that many people justify their attraction to fat people by comparing them to non-human objects. It turns the possibility of mutual desire and appreciation into fetish. In this spoken word performance, Samantha Peterson rejects the dehumanizing nuance of supposedly metaphorical compliments and reclaims her body’s agency, humanity, and beauty.
We all know the gut wrenching feeling that arises when we see or hear something that immediately has us second guessing our appearance, personality, or skill set. Unfortunately, social media provides us with numerous platforms that help to quickly trigger that unpleasant self-disdain. So how can we stop ourselves from making unfair comparisons? Here are three ways.
Tween girls are too often silenced about their own girlhood, leading to their behaviors being determined by how comfortable or uncomfortable someone else seems to be with what they say or do. Here are a few prevalent but toxic messages to watch out for and some constructive alternatives to help encourage them to get in touch with their voice and speak up.
I met Dave on a dating site. He was interesting, gentlemanly, and bright; I was enticed and longed for the full knowing of this man. And so, we planned a weekend together. Afterward, he confessed to me: “Your body is too wrinkly. I like your head and your heart. But I just can’t deal with your body.” But I would not diminish myself for him — or for anyone.
Advertising and media have set an impossible standard of beauty, and then convinced us that we can only be happy if we match it. But what would happen if we stopped trying to satisfy this arbitrary standard, and focused on loving what we have? According to Jes Baker, a lot would change. Check out this video to learn more about the social impact of body love!