People usually tell me to “get over it” when I’m being vulnerable, insecure, or afraid. They think you shouldn’t bother or aren’t interested in your feelings. “Get over it” is a cruel phrase. It means, “Not only do I not care about how you feel, if you were smarter, you wouldn’t care either.”

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I used to think that street harassment was entrenched in our culture to the point that it was unchangeable. All I could do to address it was to cope – walk fast; avoid eye contact; pretend to be on the phone. But I got tired of feeling powerless. I decided to respond to it and change the culture that allows it to continue. Here are seven ways to make this change.

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Commenting on someone’s post in cyberspace can be a great way to engage in stimulating dialogue. But when it moves from a constructive conversation to personal attacks on someone (ie “You don’t know what you’re talking about. You suck and here’s why.”), it can turn into what’s known as the Oppression Olympics.

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