Just say “no” – it’s easy to say, difficult to do. We’ve been socialized to value other people’s needs and feelings, often more than our own. So much so that many of us have a hard time knowing what we feel and want in any given situation. But the beauty of having a firm “no” is that it allows you to say “yes” to the things you do want in your life. So here’s some tips on how to say “no.”

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The pain of being a feminist in an anti-feminist world is palpable and it stings. Online backlash is one thing. It isn’t deserved or excusable, but it’s expected. But what about when the backlash is in your real life, when it’s from friends or family? It can easily lead to resentment, frustration, and anger. So here are some ideas for self-care to deal with it.

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The question of whether or not to come out at work is a loaded one if it’s not clear how gay-friendly it is — one that many fear will have an impact on their hiring potential, career path, and employment status. The decision to come out is a highly personal one and one you shouldn’t feel pressured or guilty about. Here are some pros and cons to weigh and tips on coming out, if you choose to.

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I was about 17 when I stopped blaming my body for the disablist discrimination I experienced and learned about the social model. For myself, I prefer to view the world as a person with an impairment who is disabled by the society we live in because of all the barriers that are put in our way. This shift radically changed how I thought about my own body.

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I used to dread the day when I would no longer be attractive to men. And now that I’ve become invisible to so many, it floods me with triumph, every time, that I am finally free of something that I hadn’t recognized as confining. How absurdly, deliciously, triumphantly funny it is that I ever cared. But I am older now, and I can get so much more done this way.

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