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5 Ways to Avoid Common Ally Pitfalls by Learning From Your Mistakes
No ally is “perfect” – so like this author, you’ve probably made some mistakes. This author’s getting real about his missteps, and we can all learn from the lessons he took away from them.
Read MoreA Perfect Explanation of Why Women’s Rights and Racial Justice Are Still a Big Deal
“Things are better now, right?” Some people think the days of needing to fight for women’s rights and racial justice are over. Here’s SNL’s Sasheer Zamata with a hilarious take on what they’re missing.
Read MoreThe Pitfalls of Becoming a Complacent Ally (And What to Do If You’ve Made a Mistake)
We’ve all been there – just when you think you’ve become a good ally, somebody tells you that you’ve done or said something problematic. Here’s the good news: nobody’s perfect, so you’re not alone. Perfection is not what’s important, and being an ally doesn’t mean you can do no wrong. Read about what is important, and learn what to do if you make a mistake.
Read More5 Ways to Be an Ally to Your Partner’s Eating Disorder Recovery (And Avoid Triggering Them)
Dear partner, I understand that you don’t understand what it’s like to have an eating disorder, and I know that you’re not trying to trigger me. But if you really want this relationship to work, we’re going to need to talk about my eating disorder recovery. Because eating disorder recovery affects all aspects of a person’s life, and I need you to work with me on this.
Read More11 Common Ways White Folks Avoid Taking Responsibility for Racism in the US
If you ever want to say “not all white people,” you might want to read this first. Does this cover any of your “rules” for talking about racism?
Read MoreGender Neutral Parenting: 5 Ways To Avoid Implicit Sexism
In parenting, the real issue isn’t that there are differences between genders, but how parents react to those differences. If we can identify areas where we may have a bias, we can direct our awareness there to overcome it or compensate for it. Let’s look at some ways to compensate for implicit bias in our parenting.
Read More5 Ways To Avoid Sexism In Your Kid’s Halloween Costume
Halloween is a parenting landmine. Halloween costumes have become their own labyrinth of sexism and over-sexualization of children. What’s a parent to do? Here are 5 ways to make sure your kids aren’t learning gender stereotypes from their Halloween Costumes.
Read More5 Tips for Being a Proactive Ally
The most important part of being an ally is recognizing one’s privilege and supporting marginalized groups in their fight for justice. But the nature of privilege is that you aren’t taught that you have it. So a lot of people aren’t sure how to do that. To help, Franchesca Ramsey has made this video with five action-oriented tips for how to be a better ally.
Read More10 Ways to Avoid Everyday Ableism
Superficial circumstances, especially ones as obvious as physical disability, can obscure who a person really is. But humanity should be shared, not allocated in increments based on privilege or experiences. And since able-bodied privilege is one of the most unrecognizable forms of privilege in society, today we’re going to talk about ten ways that you can avoid ableism in everyday life.
Read More30 Ways To Be a Better Ally in 2015
I have been reflecting a lot lately on how I can be a better ally. And as we wade our way into 2015, I suppose now is as good a time as any to consider some ways that any person who wishes to act accountably as an ally can do better in 2015. So here’s my list of 30 ways that those of us who strive to act in solidarity and allyship (most notably inclusive of myself) can be better allies.
Read More5 Common Ways Our Communities Fail to Address Intimate Partner Violence
What this author witnessed is far too common – and what’s worse is that so many of us in social justice groups don’t know how to respond as bystanders to partner violence. Are any of these familiar to your community?
Read More3 Ways to Avoid Demonizing Your Teen’s Sexuality
Many parents demonize their teenagers’ sexuality without even realizing it – and that can be damaging. Here’s how to respect your teens’ sexuality instead, with proof of the positive impact your respect can have.
Read More7 Ways to Be a Better Ally to LGBTQIA+ Parents
This author meets many people who want to be her ally, but don’t know where to start. These tips can help you support queer families in everyday ways.
Read More4 Ways to Be an Ally to People with Invisible Disabilities
We can’t determine who has a disability simply from appearance. So how can we be allies in everyday life for people with invisible disabilities? These will help.
Read More5 Ways Girls Are Taught to Avoid ‘Smart’ (And What We Can Do About It)
I started censoring myself in the seventh grade. Kids in my class made fun of me for using “big words” and getting too many trivia questions right, so I stopped. Being “too smart” can lead to teasing for any kid, but certain demographics get unique torment. Young girls certainly have their own set of obstacles. Here are five examples of how girls are taught to avoid “smart.”
Read More5 Ways Using Correct Gender Pronouns Will Make You a Better Trans* Ally
Pronouns are an important part of our language. Using the right pronouns in our own daily language and asking others to do the same isn’t enough to change the extreme transphobia, discrimination, and violence that trans* people experience, but it’s a simple way to use language to show respect for our friends, to make trans* issues visible, and to challenge gender-based oppression.
Read More5 Common Behaviors That Perpetuate Toxic Capitalism
Do you tie your self-worth to work or money? You’re not the only one – and these habits don’t come out of nowhere. Here’s how toxic capitalist values are hurting us.
Read MoreDebunking 5 Common Myths About Asexuality
If you think asexuality means celibacy, that asexuals don’t experience oppression, or any of these other myths, this comic will clear up your misconceptions.
Read More5 Good Reasons Why the LGBTQIA+ Acronym Shouldn’t Include ‘Ally’
Should the LGBTQIA+ acronym include an “A” for “ally”? Here’s why allies don’t belong in the acronym – and where they should be instead.
Read More5 Ways to Deal with Misguided (But Well-Intentioned) Allies
It’s not that the misguided ally is a bad person. We know they don’t want to hurt us. But they do. And until misguided allies learn the error in their ways, the true work of activism and allyship cannot be done. Fortunately, there are a few activist communication hacks for dealing with the misguided allies we’ll all inevitably encounter. Read on for five.
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