You Say I’m ‘Not the Average Black Girl’ – Here’s What You’re Missing

What does it mean when someone says you’re “not the average Black girl?” Some people mean it as a compliment, but here’s one Black woman who’s not taking it that way. Catch Ernestine Johnson’s powerful words about why. She’s got the real deal on who the average Black girl really is, and why she’s so much more than the tired stereotype some people try to use to dismiss her.

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5 Ways to Be an Ally to Your Partner’s Eating Disorder Recovery (And Avoid Triggering Them)

A dinner set-up: A white plate with a heart-shaped pillow on it, a fork and knife tied up with a red ribbon, against a wooden table

Dear partner, I understand that you don’t understand what it’s like to have an eating disorder, and I know that you’re not trying to trigger me. But if you really want this relationship to work, we’re going to need to talk about my eating disorder recovery. Because eating disorder recovery affects all aspects of a person’s life, and I need you to work with me on this.

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What Happens If We Let Fat People Be Happy?

Fat person looking absolutely happy

We all love a good, body-positive message, right? That is, if the woman behind the message is relatively thin. If she’s fat, or writes positively about bodies of all sizes, abilities, and more, she gets a tidal wave of criticism. Why? There’s a massive, toxic industry behind it. Here’s how and why we should reject the absurd notion that only weight loss means happiness.

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