We Need to Stop Making Assumptions About Why Women Wear Make-Up — Here’s Why

I still, on occasion, wear make-up. But what is the rationale behind the choice? I still question myself about it, mainly to minimize any risk of my falling into the trap of presenting versus being present. What is your make-up motive? Is the choice to wear make-up yet another trap that women fall prey to when battling between who they are expected to be, and who they authentically are?

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Getting Someone Drunk to Have Sex = Slipping Them a Drug to Have Sex

From adolescents to professional musicians, it seems as though the public at large has received a serious miseducation in discerning a true ‘yes’ from an implicit ‘no.’ So let me break it down for you. There is a connection between getting someone drunk to have sex and slipping someone drugs to have sex. Either way, consent is not possible. Either way, it is attempted rape.

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Diary of a Clinic Escort

Outside of the abortion clinic, we stand quietly in bright orange vests that read Pro-Choice Escort. We’re just trying to get the patients safely to the door, which often requires us to physically block the protesters who are shoving things in front of patients. I see the pain that these protesters have caused, the confusion and the vulnerability. We need clinic escorts now more than ever.

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What You’re Really Saying When You Call Me a Bitch

How we signal our displeasure to someone matters, because it is in our attempts to cause harm that we reveal how we really feel about who they are. I take “bitch” more seriously than other insults because it attempts to use a piece of my identity – my femaleness – as a weapon. Reclamation projects aside, we all need to carefully consider when and why we take aim with a B-bomb.

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