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When Female Politicians Become Victims of Their Own Fashion
There is something else lurking below the surface that is making things even tougher for women to get – and stay – elected. And it’s hiding behind a friendly grin: that casual comment about the outfit she’s wearing or that mention of her hairstyle. Simply put: Discuss a female candidate’s appearance in the media, and you steal some of her political credibility.
Read MoreMemo to White Women: Don’t Be George Zimmerman
Our warped notion of how “dangerous” Black men are leads us, like George Zimmerman, to focus a lot of anxiety on them. It leads to the modern equivalent of lynching. It perpetuates racism. It cuts us off from other human beings. When we act out of our fear and hatred, out of our unexamined programming, we’re being George Zimmerman. Here’s another thing: It doesn’t help you be safer.
Read MoreHow to Mend a Broken Heart
As you lie alone in bed, exhausted from watching Love Actually on loop, you ask yourself: “When will I become normal again?” It’s not nice when people belittle the pain of a broken heart. We are conditioned to react to break-ups as one would to a hurricane. Sure, you’ll get over it eventually, but that can take years. So how can you handle the following lonely months? Here are some ideas.
Read MoreThe Truth About Father Bias in Family Courts
Patriarchy affects how custody battles are eventually ruled – and not because the court is particularly in favor of women. It’s true that mothers are more likely to receive custody of their children in a divorce. But the source of the bias is not in the courts – it’s in the marriage. So if we want to change the role of fathers in divorce, we must first address the roles of fathers in the home.
Read MoreSex Is Important — But Then Again, Not Really
Having sex is not obligatory, nor does it lead to the ultimate state of bliss. It’s neither as ideal nor as demonic as some would have you believe. There also isn’t one way to experience it. There is no one way to experience sexuality, and attempts to shame or stigmatize people for a lack of sex or attraction, even indirectly, are fraught with assumptions about how things “should” be.
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