Search results for: queer masculinity
How Our Othering of Sexual Assault Survivors Allows People to Doubt Them
Many of us fall into the trap of “othering” survivors without even realizing it – and here’s how and why we must change these victim-blaming patterns.
Read More6 Helpful Ways to Check Your Male Privilege in Gender Neutral Bathrooms
Cis guys, your privilege can show up in all aspects of society – and yep, that includes the bathroom. So here’s how you can be a better ally to the folks you share a bathroom with.
Read More4 Hidden Problems with All of This ‘Love Your Body’ Talk
Don’t love your body? You’re not alone – and here’s why we need to lay off the pressure to get everyone on board with the “love your body” movement.
Read MoreThese 3 Sweet Love Stories Show Why Black Trans Love Is So Revolutionary
Is someone chopping onions in here, or is it these amazing couples bringing tears to our eyes?
Read MoreYou Call It Professionalism; I Call It Oppression in a Three-Piece Suit
How comfortable do you feel in a three-piece suit? “Professionalism” is a social construct, and like all social constructs, it’s a total downer. Standards of looking professional uphold a lot of ugly “isms,” as policies with a racist, sexist, classist, and xenophobic core. Here’s the truth about why the work we do should speak more loudly than how we look.
Read MoreWhat Kristen Stewart Taught Me About Internalized Misogyny
You might see “girl hate” as just being catty, but there are some disturbing parallels here. Find out how tearing down other girls hurts all women.
Read MoreHow to Respectfully Love a Trans Woman: Navigating Transmisogyny in Your Romantic Relationship
There’s no one-size-fits-all roadmap on how to romance transgender women. But it’s important to honor trans women’s humanity by recognizing that, behind all of the activism and social apprehension, many trans women also desire fulfilling romantic relationships. Here are some ways you can support your lover in public, in private, and in bed.
Read MoreWhat Calling Women ‘Crazy’ Really Says About Femininity and Mental Illness
How many times have you come across descriptions of women as “hysterical,” “too emotional,” or “crazy?” Marina Watanabe has a really good point about the impact of this.
Read MoreNot Everyone’s as Ripped as Ken – Why These Toys Need a Body Image Makeover
Barbie’s updated to show girls they don’t have to be white and thin – but what about toys created with boys in mind? Here’s why they need healthier body image, too.
Read MoreWhy We Need to Stop Policing the Gender of Men Who Like ‘Feminine’ Things
Jaden Smith sometimes wears so-called “women’s clothing” – and the people criticizing him for it have gender all wrong. Here’s Kat Blaque with an explanation that will help you get it right.
Read MoreBlack Folk Don’t: Do Feminism
There exists a prevailing sense that feminism is a (straight, cis, middle class) white woman’s game. As such, another fairly common notion is that black folk don’t do feminism. Check out the perspective from dozens of black feminists about the truth (or lack thereof) behind this notion, its implications, and its effect on the movement within black communities.
Read MoreI Was Raped By a Woman (And Then Dated Her for Two Years)
(Trigger warning: rape.) Like most college freshmen, I drank too much. And one night, I drank too much and was pitched out of a frat house in the dead of winter. I woke up in my lofted bed. My clothing was on the floor, and I felt an invisible miasma of shame engulfing me. And my coping mechanism was to make my rapist my partner, giving purpose and intent to something horrible.
Read MoreConfessions of an Ex-Loophole Woman
Growing up, it didn’t take much for me to realize that power lay in the masculine. There was power in being one of the boys. And I wanted in. It’s no wonder why some women trade in their womanhood for a piece of the golden ticket to ride along the manhood train of success. And in doing so, these women cut themselves off from the rest of womankind. They become the exception – the loophole women.
Read MoreThe Case For ‘Latinx’ — And Why This Term Matters For Intersectionality
You might have noticed that we use “Latinx” instead of “Latino/a.” Here are two scholars on why Latinx is more than just a buzzword – it’s an important way to recognize intersectionality in Latinx communities.
Read MoreWhat to Do When Your Child Believes Gender Bias
“My hair’s too long for a boy.” How would you feel if your child said something like this? These great ideas for what to do show why it’s so important to respond when your child makes gender-based comments.
Read MoreHow To Leverage Our Privilege In Social Movements To Create Lasting Social Change
Our social movements have failed to reach a transformational level of change. In part, this is due to how we don’t address our own privilege or prioritize supporting and lifting up marginalized voices to the social change table. And until we do, our work will not achieve lasting structural changes – where those being impacted are leading the fight for their own communities, supported by allies.
Read MoreHow To Talk About Privilege To Someone Who Doesn’t Know What That Is
Conversations about privilege can quickly go wrong, angry, and defensive. Here are a few things to consider before jumping into the conversation around privilege.
Read MoreThe White Feminism of the Women’s March Is Still on My Mind
Originally published on Medium and republished here with permission. More than two months after the January 21 Women’s March on Washington, I’m as ready as I’ll ever be to unpack my thoughts on the ripple effect of the march. And, although there is a litany of elucidating articles and posts on social media written on…
Read More4 Racist Stereotypes White Patriarchy Invented to ‘Protect’ White Womanhood
Can you imagine being in her brother’s position at work? Men of color are literally being killed because of these stereotypes.
Read MoreAnti-Feminists: Stop Using Tragedies to Say Feminists ‘Don’t Care About Important Issues’
Wondering why feminists “don’t care” about men or anything other than first world problems? This author’s heard it all. So before you complain that this is why you hate feminism, we need to talk.
Read More