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Being a butch woman among men occasionally comes with some issues – and they’re based on patriarchal nonsense. Check out this comic to see how this plays out.

Intersex is one of the often-left out categories when the LGBTQIAP alphabet is abbreviated as LGBT. The QUIAP is often ignored completely or briefly covered, but people who have these identities are marginalized not only in society, but also often within LGBTQIAP spaces themselves! Intersex identities exist. And we need to start recognizing them.

“Would you still love me if…?” This is hard for some people to understand – so here’s an insider’s view that sheds a fascinating light on a relationship with a partner who transitions.

Macho culture can be deadly, particularly for women. But it’s both naïve and harmful to ignore the ways these ideas about masculinity hurt men. Here are four ways.

“Boys don’t play with dolls.” How can we address the patriarchy’s impact on men? The first step is to recognize how it harms them – and this video captures 70 years of toxic messages around masculinity. What would you add to the list?

It’s the favorite advice of patriarchal misogynists everywhere: “Man up.” (See also: “Grow a pair,” “Be a man,” and “Stop acting like a girl.”) This phrase presents a view of masculinity that is oppressive to not just women and gender non-conforming people, but to men as well. Check out Guante’s kick*ss poem with ten ways to respond to this so-called “advice.”

The way languages incorporate gender can have a powerful impact on the expression of identity.

What do you have to do to be “trans enough?” Spoiler alert: Your gender isn’t up for debate. These affirmations will remind you of just that.

Is there a “right” way to be non-binary? That’s what these comments might make you think – but here’s why these ideas about gender are missing the mark.

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“I thought I was weak.” Growing up, this author was told they were a boy, and to “act like one.” Here are some of the painful ways society pushes boys, men, and people who identify with masculinity away from mental health care.

(Trigger warning: Rape) Check out this TED Talk by activist Tony Porter about how the expectations of masculinity and restrictive gender roles lead to disrespect of and violence against women. He shares powerful stories from different points in his life and encourages men to act outside of the narrow box that society places them in.

WAIT – if MRAs are so anti-feminist, then how can we agree with their points? Here’s where men’s rights activists are on the right track – and what they’re missing.

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“I never felt like ‘one of the guys.’” One man’s story of being trapped between traditional masculinity and femininity – and finding freedom beyond the gender binary.

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We’ve heard “real men don’t rape.” But the men who have raped are indeed very real. Learn about the dangerous myths we keep up by saying “real men don’t rape,” and let’s rethink our anti-rape campaigns.

Through my Women’s Studies courses and readings, I’ve come to better understand my abusive boyfriend and what was behind his emotional and physical violence toward me. Most importantly, I was reassured that his actions were not my fault, something that I struggled with during and for a time after the relationship. And it has been such a relief knowing I’m not the only one who has been through this. (Trigger Warning)

The patriarchy harms all people, regardless of gender identity, sex, or sexual orientation, by perpetuating oppressive and limiting gender roles, the gender binary, transphobia and cissexism, sexual assault, and the political and economic subordination of women. Watch Marina Watanabe discuss the pervasive and intricate ways patriarchy violates us all.

How do we know male privilege is real? These everyday examples of gender inequality are a start. By naming these, we can start working to free ourselves and others from the impact.

Romantic comedies show it. Dating advice condones it. But the idea of sex as a game for men to win has some scary real world consequences.

Trans stories shouldn’t matter only after death. Here are 12 powerful trans and gender non-conforming people making the world a better place.

What are some ways you’ve seen society teaching boys and men that women are theirs for the taking?

Search results for: queer masculinity

Being a Butch Woman Around Men Sure Would Be A Lot Easier Without the Patriarchy

Intersex 101: Respecting Variations in Biological Sex

My Partner Came Out as a Transgender Woman And We’re Happier Than Ever

4 Ways Sexist, Macho Culture Hurts Men

48 Things Men Are Told Over Their Lifetimes (That Are Actually Toxic)

What Happens If You’re Genderqueer — But Your Native Language Is Gendered?

6 Affirmations for Trans Folks Who Don’t Feel ‘Trans Enough’

4 Comments That Kept Me From Identifying as Non-Binary – And Why They Don’t Anymore

3 Ways Being Raised a Boy Kept Me from Getting the Mental Health Support I Needed

A Call to Men

4 MRA Arguments That Actually Have a Point – And Where They Go Wrong

What Gender Means to Me As a Married Man Who Likes to Wear Women’s Clothing

How Feminism Helped Me Understand And Heal From My Abuse

What Is Patriarchy (And How Does It Hurt Us All)?

Why It’s Dangerous to Tell Men to Be Persistent to Get Women to Sleep with Them