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“She doesn’t make a good witness.” I will never forget those words. This was one of the first instances that made me take a serious look at my privilege as an able-bodied person. It took seeing a survivor of a violent crime being told that she would never see justice because of her disability. This is a serious problem. So how can we work to solve it?

In the wake of Title IX’s fortieth anniversary, we have a lot to celebrate. But we still have a long way to go. The sexualization of women in sports is not new, and it will not change overnight. But there is hope. We need more positive representations of women in sports media for several reasons. Here are just a few!

Kids are selfish. And I’m not just saying that because I’m a jaded New York City nanny. Children, out of self-preservation instinct, only care about what benefits them. So how do we make politics matter to children? Make the lesson benefit them. Whether you’re a parent/guardian, cool family member, teacher, or caregiver like me, here are some ideas to cultivate politically-minded kids.

Holidays. While most people look forward to the time off, seeing family and friends, and all the delicious food that usually comes with them, if you’re in recovery, that last one can be quite the challenge. It’s something I struggled with a lot while I was still in recovery, so I thought I’d share some of the things that got me through difficult times.

Many people are initially confused or ashamed when they realize that they don’t fit into their prescribed gender box, and may also feel depressed as they struggle to be their true selves. Most likely, your family will share these difficult feelings as well. You and your loved ones are about to embark on a lifelong journey, and you must prepare them.

Learning to live with toxic parents can be tough, but it can be done. If your parents are toxic, here are some handy tips to help you better cope.

I’m a virgin. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with this, assuming that it’s your choice. Where it starts to be a problem is when you recognize that you possess and want to express these desires, and society denies them. Worse, society deems you undesirable and ascribes a complete and total sexual absence to you and your entire community at large, with few exceptions.

Everyone is entitled to a relationship with their body that is based in care and respect. It’s time to stop thinking of your body as a hostile encasing in which you are imprisoned. So, in search of answers about self-love, I asked eight of the most fabulous curvy women that I know one question: What is the big secret of your relationship to your body? And here’s what they said.

We want to appreciate beauty, and part of that is taking in the physical beauty of the people around us. But our actions never exist in isolation. Wandering eyes exist as part of a daily onslaught women face where their bodies are treated as public property, objectified in the media and in the eyes of many men. So how can we responsibly navigate the difference?

Pornography sucks at depicting realistic sex, including lesbian sex. Yes, it’s supposed to be a fantasy. But the problem with that excuse is that without any factual knowledge to keep you grounded paired with misconceptions already being spread by mainstream media, you can become miseducated and end up believing that’s what they’re probably like. And that has a real effect on queer women.

Congratulations – you have decided to see a therapist and take control of your mental health! Now there’s just one major step you have to take – finding the right therapist to be your trusted ally on this journey. Unfortunately, due to society’s stigma of therapy, we aren’t told how to effectively access it. Luckily, it’s easier than you think. Here are some important things to keep in mind.

I am tired of talking about labor. When I went through a recent trauma, I tried to put up boundaries around my time, space, and labor. The day it happened, I tried to say no to a white person’s request for it. Wait, actually, I did say no. When you have to say no twice,…

Misconceptions about the immigration experience don’t just result in bad policymaking. It also creates a more hostile environment for immigrants who are able to get here.

“Can I get you girls anything?” The food service industry has a special brand of misgendering – and here’s what you can do about it.

STOP! Before you get into a debate with that awful Facebook commenter, ask yourself these questions to figure out if that’s a good move for you.

Youth non-profits are all about empowering young people…aren’t they? With these common mistakes, adultism in these organizations is a real problem.

You may be surprised by the disturbing barriers people face when they’re both trans and mentally ill. But we have to face what’s happening.

Ever experienced a “call out” like this author did? Here’s why activists can be so hard on each other – and how to better understand ourselves and one another.

A person stands in front of a blue background, holding up a speech bubble with the word "NO." Image: Thinkstock; text added by EF.

“Isn’t that something Tumblr made up?” Some people are just rude about non-binary genders, but even some would-be allies tend to say these things.

A pregnant person lies in a birthing pool, supported by two midwives.

“The way we are born affects us for the rest of our lives.” Do you know how homebirths help us resist oppression? These answers show the importance of supporting midwives.