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Think about the last time you called someone crazy (to their face or behind their back). What message were you trying to send? I’m sure it wasn’t a positive one. Was the “crazy” person a woman? I wouldn’t be shocked. It would be hypocritical of me to shame you for it, because we’ve all done it. That’s why it’s important that we discuss it now.

There are lots of ways to be a great “ally” – and innumerable ways to be a terrible one. But it’s not rocket science. There are simple things you can keep in mind and do in order to be a better person “currently operating in solidarity with” the marginalized or oppressed. And while this list is not comprehensive, it’s definitely somewhere to start. So “allies,” let’s talk.

A young child looks pensively into the camera, their head resting on their fist.

“You play like a girl.” This man’s story of his first and last fight says so much about our society’s ideas of violence, what makes a “real man” – and who white male bullies like Donald Trump are hurting.

One person is saying, "What women want!" Another is thinking, "!?"

“Women are only interested in men who are jerks.” Sound familiar? That’s because messages like these are a staple of toxic masculinity. Read on to find out why this author calls getting rid of these beliefs “the best thing that ever happened to me.”

Many of us are reeling after last night’s election results. Whether you need to process with others or just take a moment for yourself, these resources are a place to start.

Performance poet Ethan Smith had an important message to send his former self – and here’s the emotional, honest, and profound result in “A Letter to the Girl I Used to Be.”

“1. It happens more often than you might think.” Cristen Conger is sharing new research that reveals how society fails men who are survivors of rape. Nobody deserves this – here’s what needs to change.

The concept of being genderqueer can be confusing for folks who aren’t really sure how it differs from identifying as trans or non-binary or gender non-conforming. It can also be confusing for people who just want to know how to be best supportive. It can even be a confusing experience for genderqueer people themselves! So watch Jacob Tobia unpack some of that confusion.

From the moment we are born, girls — and children who are told they are girls — are socialized to embrace misogyny as normal. As this poet explains, we learn to recognize our worth in how attractive men find us, to say thank you to street harassment, to protect ourselves with flirtation and niceties, to find power in masculinity, to be complacent with invisibility.

In his spoken word poem “Action,” Guante reflects on how he should have held his friend accountable for the abusive way he spoke about and treated his girlfriend. He analyzes how the media teaches men to think of sex as violence and to victim blame. This poem asks men to speak up and reminds them that rape culture is dependent on their silence and complacency.

Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, Feliz Navidad and a big ‘Ho Ho Ho!’ to you! For a while now, we’ve been hearing that endless loop of holiday music playing over and over again as we walk through the mall, drive in our cars or generally just exist. So in the spirit of the season, we thought we’d offer up a little feminist/social analysis of some popular holiday carols. Enjoy!

A witch casts a spell.

“A witch is a survivor.” These sleepover stories of Ouija boards might be familiar – and it’d be a mistake to write this fascination off as superficial.

Want to say “not all men” because you’re not like that? Actually, distancing any man from the problem of sexism is dangerous – read this to find out why.

There’s a good chance that even your friends who are foodies or vegans haven’t thought all of this through. Find out why it’s more than “just food.”

Person covering their face

It’s dangerous when social justice ideas – the same ones that empower us – are used to harm people. Here are some signs that this is happening in your life or community.

This author’s queer and gender non-conforming – so why say “the LGBTQIA+ movement is not for me”? These reasons show how the movement is missing the point of liberation.

For all of us who are men who believe in social justice, who want healthy and beautiful lives for our loved ones, and who are working for positive change in the world, let us commit or re-commit to making feminism central in our lives, values, and actions. It is time for men in the millions to take courageous action in our society to further feminist revolution.

This comic says it all about men co-opting lesbian sexuality for their own pleasure – finally, the kind of queer media we’ve been wishing for!

Are women being “manipulative” by faking orgasms? These reasons show what you’re missing by blaming women.

Do you think education is what it takes to make us all equal? That’s what many people say – but this will show you why that’s just a big, victim-blaming myth.