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I’m Gender Non-Conforming – And I Need People to Stop Pressuring Me to ‘Pass’
The idea of “passing” (or “looking cis”) often comes up as a goal for trans people. But not everyone wants to pass – and here’s why this author and other gender non-conforming people need us to ditch the idea.
Read More7 Reasons People Argue That Female Privilege Exists – And Why They’re Mistaken
Does female privilege exist? The short answer is no. But people cite chivalry, free drinks at the bar, and more to say that it does – and here’s what their arguments are missing.
Read More6 Things Every Man Who Dates Trans Women Needs to Know
Because of transmisogyny, dating trans women comes with intense social stigma. Here’s one trans woman’s affirming guidance on navigating shame, loving trans women, and loving yourself.
Read MoreWhat Is Fempathizing? 5 Ways to Recognize This Act of Internalized Sexism
Have you ever noticed how mansplaining is commonplace, but women are socialized to hold back? These signs of fempathizing might feel familiar – and this author has some empowering ideas for making a change.
Read More7 Tired Phrases That Marginalize Trans People – And What to Use Instead
Do you want show transgender people respect, but don’t know the practicalities of how? Learn what common phrases are hurtful and get ideas for words to use instead.
Read MoreDo You See These 10 Everyday Sexisms?
When women take note of sexism during their daily lives, they stop accepting it as “normal.” But, in general, sexism, so densely woven into our habits, language, and traditions, is a subtle and slippery thing. Research shows that most people don’t see sexism even when it’s right in front of their noses. How do you think about and respond to these 10 everyday sexisms?
Read MoreHow We Can Address Sexual Violence on Campuses
The grim reality is that at least 1 in 4 college women are survivors of sexual violence, and our institutions are not doing enough to stem this terrible tide. It is time that more of us join these committed activists in transforming the culture and climate of our college and university campuses. Whether you’re a parent, a student, or alumni, here are a few ways that you help.
Read MoreWhat Privilege Really Means (And Doesn’t Mean) – To Clear Up Your Doubts Once and For All
Ever felt upset when someone said you had privilege? That probably means you believe one of these myths. Let’s clear up what your privilege really means.
Read MoreWhat Happens When You Come Out to Immigrant Parents?
Coming out is not often an easy process – for anyone. But when folks experience intersecting marginalized identities on top of being queer, there can be added layers of difficulty. Check out these awesome queer folk (and their parents!) discussing their trials and triumphs of coming out in immigrant family systems, as well as giving advice on how you can do the same.
Read MoreFemme Invisibility: On Passing Right by Your People and Not Being Recognized
I am not the poster child queer woman. Pastel sundresses, lacy push-up bras, and vanilla lip gloss would not, as it were, come as accessories with Stereotypical Lesbian Barbie. Femmes are the surprises. Femmes are the ones who are asked how we can possibly be queer-identified if we paint our nails. We’re the ones who have to fight to be noticed for who we are.
Read MoreHomonormativity 101: What It Is and How It’s Hurting Our Movement
Who comes to your mind as the face of the Gay Rights Movement™? Here’s why we need to pay attention to why some people are more visible than others.
Read MoreWhy I Am Never, Ever, Ever Coming Out of the Closet
“If you think ‘it gets better’ for everyone, you are naive.” A first generation immigrant who can never come out – this shows why it’s still not easy to be queer in our society.
Read More7 Ways to Be a Better Ally to LGBTQIA+ Parents
This author meets many people who want to be her ally, but don’t know where to start. These tips can help you support queer families in everyday ways.
Read MoreHow to Unlearn Internalized Oppression When Stereotypes Are Getting to You
How are people like you portrayed in the media? Kat Blaque answers a queer woman struggling with stereotypes, and her advice can help anyone dealing with internalized oppression.
Read MoreDating While Fat: 5 Questions I Ask Before Committing to a Partner
Being fetishized and shamed as a fat, Black, queer woman is so common that this author has come up with five essential questions about dating partners. Here’s an empowering take on what it means for her to be valued in a relationship.
Read MoreHow Feminism Can Better Support Moms Who Aren’t Straight, White, or Middle-Class
Moms are constantly under attack in our society – but how often does standing up for mothers include moms who are single, of color, poor, queer or otherwise marginalized? Here’s how to make sure you support them.
Read MoreA Guide for Straight and Cisgender Allies in LGBTQIA+ Spaces
Even among allies with good intentions, there are some oppressive habits that come up in LGBTQIA+ spaces. Here’s how you can have fun and support friends in queer spaces in a respectful way.
Read MoreThe Pro-Choice Movement Has a White Supremacy Problem – And Anti-Choice Advocates Are Using It to Their Advantage
As this queer woman found out, keeping abortion safe and legal calls for more than you may think. Does any of this change how you’ll approach the issue?
Read MoreHow the Mainstream LGBTQIA+ Movement Is Leaving Behind and Even Hurting Our Community’s Most Vulnerable
The growing rift between mainstream and marginalized LGBTQIA+ people who are often trans, of color, poor, and homeless exposes a dangerous truth about the movement. Here’s why we need to do better.
Read MoreComplicating the Stereotype of the Homophobic and Transphobic Black Community
You’ve probably heard the over-simplified stereotype of a homophobic, close-minded Black community. But like any other stereotype, the truth is much deeper and more complicated than some easily consumed narrative used to validate one’s own prejudice. So come delve deeper. Learn about where these ideas come from, the impact they have, and the truth of the matter.
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