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7 Things I Want My Son To Know About Porn
My darling Son, this is not a conversation any boy wants to have with his mum at any age. But it’s a conversation we must have nonetheless. I would be failing in my duty as a parent, guide, and woman if I did not share the following information with you – information that has the power to impact greatly upon your future sex life. And your relationships. So listen carefully. This is important.
Read MoreWhy We Need To Discuss Sexual Pleasure in Reproductive Rights and in Our Bedrooms
We work so hard on reproductive rights – from advocating for increased access to abortion care, tackling abortion stigma, to dreaming up contraceptive innovations. But the underlying truth in all of this — that people have sex for pleasure — is something we don’t talk about. But we need to. So let’s change that.
Read MoreDiary of a Clinic Escort
Outside of the abortion clinic, we stand quietly in bright orange vests that read Pro-Choice Escort. We’re just trying to get the patients safely to the door, which often requires us to physically block the protesters who are shoving things in front of patients. I see the pain that these protesters have caused, the confusion and the vulnerability. We need clinic escorts now more than ever.
Read MoreMore Than Two: Examining the Myths and Facts of Polyamory
In our society, monogamous relationships are the norm – but they’re not the only option. Learn the truth about what polyamory means, and why it’s not like common myths say.
Read MoreChoose Your Method: 5 Types of Hormonal Birth Control
Birth control is not one-size-fits-all. There are a lot of choices out there, and they all work differently. It’s no wonder people get confused. As feminists, we are wholly dedicated to your right to choose. So if you’ve ever wondered “How the #*%! does this work?” or “Which option is best for me and my lifestyle?” then this article is for you.
Read MoreThe Vulva
Get the 411 on the vulva in this week’s video headline! If your sex ed class was insufficient (or non-existent) on the topic of female anatomy, we’ve got the solution right here. Watch as clinical sexologist Dr. Lindsey Doe explains the various parts of the vulva, their functions, and how to recognize healthy differences. Sex-positive and body curious feminists alike: check this one out!
Read More5 Reasons Why We Need to Ditch The Concept of Virginity For Good
Virginity. It’s something we all know of, something we’ve all talked about. It’s something we, as a culture, obsess over. The idea of your first penis-in-vagina sexual encounter being something significant and life altering (well, for women anyway) may seem like just a tradition, but it’s actually very problematic and even harmful. Here are five reasons why.
Read MoreMisadventures in Queer Lady Dating While Disabled: It’s Not Me, It’s You
I’m a virgin. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with this, assuming that it’s your choice. Where it starts to be a problem is when you recognize that you possess and want to express these desires, and society denies them. Worse, society deems you undesirable and ascribes a complete and total sexual absence to you and your entire community at large, with few exceptions.
Read MoreGetting With Girls Like Us: A Radical Guide to Dating Trans Women for Cis Women
Trans women are a component of queer women’s communities, so a lack of respect amongst us just means more devaluing of women, when society dishes out plenty of that for all of us already. So with that in mind, I have put together some suggestions for cis women on thinking through some basic trans issues, including ideas on approaching trans women in a romantic or intimate context.
Read More3 Ways To Tell The Difference Between Appreciation of Beauty and Sexual Objectification
We want to appreciate beauty, and part of that is taking in the physical beauty of the people around us. But our actions never exist in isolation. Wandering eyes exist as part of a daily onslaught women face where their bodies are treated as public property, objectified in the media and in the eyes of many men. So how can we responsibly navigate the difference?
Read MoreOur Vulvas, Ourselves
I do believe in body love and vulva-love is an integral part of it. Positive body image needs to encompass our whole female bodies, not just the parts that we like and are comfortable with. And in a society that teaches us constantly that female genitalia, by default, is offensive, we have a lot of work to do insofar as unlearning all of the bullshit and filling ourselves with enlightenment.
Read MoreWhy We Need To Stop Conflating Sexual Objectification with Sexual Empowerment
A common pop-culture misconception is confusing sexual objectification with sexual empowerment. Yes, it can feel good to be sexually desirable. But that’s not what sexual objectification does. The façades of empowerment and liberation that the media puts forth can be difficult territory to navigate. So let’s explore the key differences between the two.
Read MoreI Lost A Job For Calling Out The Company’s Rape Apology
CultureMap, who I was a columnist for, ran an article speculating that perhaps the girl who reported being raped by a high school baseball star was lying – without citing any details that imply that other than “kids are supposed to lie.” To make sure they knew I wasn’t secretly cool with treating victims as probable liars, as long as they wrote me checks, I wrote that it was bullsh*t and got fired for it. (Trigger Warning)
Read MoreHow I Learned That A Healthy Relationship Is More Than Having A Sexually Satisfied Partner
My first sexual experiences taught me that sex is all about power and control. For me, being in a relationship meant relinquishing any power or control I had over my own body and my own emotions. Sex was the key to emotional security; when my partner was sexually satisfied, I was emotionally satisfied. It took four years of counseling with a therapist specializing in trauma for me to understand that this was a very unhealthy way of thinking.
Read MoreDenial
When I worked as a call girl, I relied on, and needed, denial to function in life. It was essential in order to work – to have sex with men and women I didn’t want to have sex with. That is what allowed me to do it without breaking, without falling apart, without realizing the hell in which I was living (Trigger Warning).
Read MoreParty Girl Pop: Empowerment or Sexism
Songs like Katy Perry’s “Last Friday Night (T.G.I.F.)” are anthems to pre-gaming and morning regret also known as party girl pop music. Are they empowering or just sexism presented in a different package? What do you think?
Read More5 Excuses I’ve Made for My Perpetrators – And What They Reveal About Rape Culture
“Men can’t help it.” Have you made any of these excuses for people who violated your consent? These aren’t unusual, and that says a lot about rape culture.
Read MoreHere’s Why You Need To Practice Radical Vulnerability Online
I have put myself out there in ways that feel terrifying because it’s a revolutionary act as a multiply marginalized person to even exist in such a visible way.
Read MoreYou Can’t Say Black Lives Matter and Exclude Black Sex Workers
This is not just about police brutality anymore, it is about our lives, our liberation, and the eradication of all forms of oppression.
Read More7 Sex Myths I Had to Unlearn When I Realized I Was Asexual
Realizing you’re aseuxal is super confusing with these myths floating around. Let’s debunk them to build a healthier view of sex for everyone.
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