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3 Ways Men Who Loved Me Violated My Consent – And What This Says About Rape Culture
Can you relate to any of these examples? There’s a pattern here that really shows how entrenched rape culture is.
Read More5 Questions About Alcohol and Consent You’re Too Afraid to Ask, Answered
“What if they’re BOTH drunk?” Got questions about drinking, sex, and consent? Here are your answers.
Read More3 Ways My Parents Unintentionally Taught Me That My Consent Didn’t Matter
“You’re not allowed to say no.” You’d never want your child to feel like this author did – but her parents didn’t mean to make her feel this way either. These are important lessons on our cultural missteps in teaching consent.
Read More3 Mistakes Parents Make When Teaching Consent and Bodily Autonomy – And How to Fix Them
Many of us send messages that hurt children’s ability to recognize and communicate about when their personal boundaries are violated. Here are some practical, everyday ways to change that.
Read MoreHow Do You Know If Someone Wants to Have Sex? 5 Essential Signs of Consent
Do you know all the ways someone can communicate wanting to have sex? Consent includes words and body language – and this Planned Parenthood video has an excellent breakdown of what that really means.
Read MoreWhy Consent Means More Than ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ When We Talk About Disability
When it comes to consent, you might think of slogans like “no means no” and even “only yes means yes.” But have you thought about how those messages change when you include people with disabilities in the conversation?
Read MoreConsent’s So-Called ‘Gray Areas’ Aren’t Confusing At All with This Poet’s Analogies
“What if we’re just both really drunk? What if she sends mixed messages? What if I’m trying to do the right thing but I read those signals wrong?”
Read MoreHow Can You Tell if You’re Being Sexually Empowered or Objectified? Ask Yourself This Simple Question
There’s a long-standing debate in feminism about sexual empowerment: How do we know when someone is being sexually liberated versus being sexually objectified? This artist shows you one way to figure it out.
Read More10+ Examples of Everyday Language That Supports Rape Culture
“They friendzoned me!” You may not mean to make life harder for survivors, abut if you’re using these common phrases, that’s exactly what you’re doing.
Read MoreOnly “Yes” Means Yes: Why Sometimes What You Think Is Consensual Sex Is Actually Rape
Some people seem confused on what consensual sex means and end up raping someone without consciously intending to and wouldn’t have if they had known it was rape. So we need to teach both men and women that it’s still rape – intentional or not. And hopefully prevent a portion of sexual assault from happening.
Read MoreGetting Someone Drunk to Have Sex = Slipping Them a Drug to Have Sex
From adolescents to professional musicians, it seems as though the public at large has received a serious miseducation in discerning a true ‘yes’ from an implicit ‘no.’ So let me break it down for you. There is a connection between getting someone drunk to have sex and slipping someone drugs to have sex. Either way, consent is not possible. Either way, it is attempted rape.
Read More3 Unethical Ways Medical and Nursing Students Are Taught to Do Pelvic Exams
Many people have had negative experiences with the gynecologist – but it doesn’t have to be this way. These harmful ways of learning pelvic exams are disturbing.
Read More5 Ways Advice Columns Harm Us When They Make Sex the Answer to Romantic Problems
We all know that so-called women’s magazines can be harmful, especially in the ways that they talk about sex. But have you ever thought about the way that these columns push sex as a cure-all for relationship ills? These authors have – and what they have to share may surprise you.
Read More3 Reasons Why ‘If I Ever Met a Rapist, I’d Punch Him’ Isn’t Helpful
You might think it’s supportive to threaten a rapist with violence. But here’s why it doesn’t make this author (and many other survivors) feel any safer.
Read MoreMen, Wake Up: 3 Types of Toxic Masculinity to Leave Behind in 2017
How can you build a healthier masculinity for the new year? Challenging these damaging parts of the toxic masculinity status quo is a good start.
Read More5 Reasons Why No One Should Be Legally Required to Tell Their Parents About Their Abortion
A majority of states require parental involvement in the decision of those under 18 to have an abortion. On the surface, this seems well-intentioned. But what’s really underlying these laws? Here are 5 reasons why parental involvement laws do more harm than good, and why no one, regardless of age, should be legally required to obtain consent from their parents for an abortion.
Read MoreWhy We Need to Stop Dismissing Bodily Autonomy for Children with Disabilities
Disabled people are still fighting for bodily autonomy – and the struggle often begins with consent in childhood. Here’s the impact on this author.
Read MoreWant the Best Sex of Your Life? Just Ask!
I want my consent to be fun, freaky, sexy, silly, seductive, creative, captivating! I want it all, and I want it healthy and mutual! What’s wonderful, though, is that it can be ALL of these things and more. Studies have shown that healthy, open communication leads to better sex. And who doesn’t want better sex? Here are some ways asking for and giving consent can be fun and satisfying.
Read MoreTo End Rape Culture, We Must Address These 3 Things
As with all other systems of oppression, rape culture is a beast with tentacles and spores across countless other facets of inequality. The following 3 things may not appear to be major components of rape culture at first glance, but undoubtedly fuel and are fueled by it. Dismantling and addressing these things must be part of our movement to end rape culture.
Read More4 Easy Ways to Incorporate More Sex Positivity into Your Parenting
How do you feel about talking to your kids about sex? Many people find it nerve-wracking, but these useful tips can help you figure out how to raise your children with a positive view of sexuality.
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