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I recently wrote a piece on my personal blog that highlighted seven men who are transforming masculinity, and I was blown away by how well it resonated. In reflecting on the post, I realized that it was so popular because it touched on an unfilled need. We need to talk about what a more inclusive masculinity could actually look like beyond “Real men cry, too.”

Saying “no” to a request for a sexual activity can often bring up feelings of shame and awkwardness, even with people we’re in ongoing relationships. When you have trouble saying “no” to a simple (platonic) request, how do you say it to someone that you actually really like and want to do something sexual with later? Here are some ways to develop your comfort with saying “no.”

The ways we teach children to be obedient and polite seem harmless – until you realize what we’re teaching them about consent.

Have you come across any confusing ideas about what ‘counts’ as rape? This guide clears up so many common questions – here’s what everyone needs to know about what rape means.

Have you noticed how many stereotypes about bisexuality relate to the harmful gender norms of rape culture? You will after reading this.

Parties can be profoundly dangerous places, especially for women. But men attempting to be a good ally to women can quickly devolve into some paternalistic “white knighting” that can easily recreate the very systems of power and oppression that we’re looking to undermine. So how can men prevent sexual violence and act as allies to women at parties?

It’s time that men start having more accountable conversations about healthy, positive sexuality. Here’s a great place to start.

Looking for evidence of rape culture in colleges and universities? These examples show just how dangerously normalized rape culture is in our schools.

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Before you hit “send,” here’s what you need to know about what it’s like for a woman to get an unwarranted dick pick – and how to better communicate your desires in a consensual way.

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“Equality that comes at the expense of consent is not true equality.” We should consider women’s desires as important as men’s – but here’s how to make sure that doesn’t turn into sexual entitlement.

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We’re probably all guilty of using expressions that perpetuate rape culture at some point – it’s hard not to when they’re so ingrained in the way we speak. So let’s talk about what’s behind these phrases.

Feminists are well-aware that there are women who make false allegations of rape. Yes. It happens. It’s not a secret that we’re keeping from anyone. But only 2-7% of reports are false and only 46% of rapes are ever reported. Here’s why focusing on the possibility of false accusations for all cases prevent justice from happening for most cases.

Stereotype #3: “Men want sex while women want love.” If you accept these as truth, these consequences should make you reconsider.

You might dismiss these examples of Asian women fetishes as harmless – or even as compliments. But here’s what’s really going on with these stereotypes.

“I thought you’d like it because it’s sexual.” Even the most sex positive people have boundaries – so read this to make sure you’re respecting those boundaries.

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Even in states where medical or recreational marijuana use is legal, encountering the police while you’re carrying pot can be a nightmare. Here’s a lawyer’s advice on asserting your rights.

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“What if your child wants to dye their hair?” Find out how this feminist mom’s belief in bodily autonomy helps answer this question – this may make you think about consent in a way you’ve never considered.

Of course you believe it’s wrong for adults to have sex with minors – unless a minor isn’t a “perfect victim,” right? Make sure you know why these cases are still wrong.

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“Make him work for it.” You’re probably familiar with the encouragement for women to “play hard to get.” But these drawbacks to this encouragement might be familiar, too – and we need to talk about it.

Here’s a lesson for any cause: If we don’t get to the root of the issue, all we’re doing is pulling some individuals to safety while losing others. In combatting sexual violence, we must work to help survivors heal, seek justice, and find the new normal in their life, but that cannot be our only work. We must prevent sexual violence before it happens. But how do we do that? What does it look like?