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5 Excuses I’ve Made for My Perpetrators – And What They Reveal About Rape Culture
“Men can’t help it.” Have you made any of these excuses for people who violated your consent? These aren’t unusual, and that says a lot about rape culture.
Read More5 Things We Shouldn’t Be Dismissing as ‘Girl Hate’
We’re all for resisting the pressure on women to judge each other – but let’s get some clarity on these common situations that aren’t “girl hate” at all.
Read More3 Reasons It’s Totally Valid to Have More Than One Gender Identity
“How can you be non-binary AND a woman?” These insights on gender helped this author find her truth about having more than one gender identity.
Read MoreWhy Saying ‘White Millennials Are More Progressive’ Completely Misses the Point
Are millennials really less racist or bigoted than previous generations? That’s what people say, but this narrative is actually a big problem. Here’s why, and what to do instead.
Read More3 Reasons Why People Tell You to ‘Play Hard to Get’ – And Why That’s Harmful
Telling a woman to “play hard to get” might seem like helpful dating advice. But you’ll be surprised to know which sexist ideas you’re promoting when you suggest that.
Read More4 Ways Parents Can Battle How Society Hypersexualizes Their Children
“#1. Understand the difference between healthy sexuality and sexualization.” We know we live in a hypersexual world, but how do we approach that in our parenting?
Read MoreMy Makeup Isn’t Inherently Anti-Feminist – But Your Body Policing Is
“How can you wear makeup and still be feminist?” If you’ve asked this question, you might be actually be the one with some anti-feminist views – so let’s clear this up.
Read MoreHow Disablist Western Ideas of ‘Self-Determination’ Undermine Social Justice and 5 Ways to Make It Right
Self-determination – making your own choices – is so important. But let’s be careful about the difference between self-determination from a colonial perspective and how it’s defined in Indigenous struggles. If we don’t, it can be used to actively perpetuate marginalization and hurt disabled people. Here’s how you can take up self-determination in a justice framework.
Read MoreWhy Is It So Hard To Be a Good Man?
Ever feel like trying to be a good man is almost impossible? It might not be as complicated as you think.
Read More3 Reasons You Might Be Afraid To Speak Up For Muslims – And How To Do It Anyway
Have you come across Islamophobic comments like the ones this author’s family friend made? These are the reasons you might be hesitating to challenge them, and the strategies that can help.
Read More4 Problems With How We’re Talking About ‘Female Friendships’
It’s hard to see women as potential allies when you’ve been taught that they’re your competition. Here’s what to look out for so you can have healthier friendships.
Read More4 Popular Complaints About Campus Activism That Are Totally Misguided
“College is not day care.” Based on a lot of conversations on campus activism, you’d think today’s college activists are just complaining about nothing. Here what the skeptics are getting wrong – and how to deal with them.
Read More7 Myths About Women and Masturbation It’s Time to Unlearn Right Now
“You masturbate?” We’re taught that women’s sexuality only exists for other people – and if you believe any of these masturbation myths, you might be falling for that lie.
Read MoreWhat On Earth Makes Us Want to Wear High Heels? Well, Here’s Your Answer
Why do so many (including this author) love heels, in spite of their problems? These answers are fascinating. Do you have any to add?
Read MoreGot a Penis, But Limited Birth Control Options? Here’s How Gender Stereotypes Are Causing the Delay
Did you know that more birth control options could exist? Here’s what’s holding us back from them.
Read More3 Common Feminist Phrases That (Unintentionally) Marginalize Trans Women
Language around trans women is constantly evolving. So if you’re a cis ally, let’s make sure you don’t use these phrases and accidentally cause harm.
Read MoreWhy Don’t We Talk About Painful Sex?
Sex should never hurt. This is true regardless of a person’s gender, irrespective of the kind of sex that someone is having (consensual and desired pain-play notwithstanding), and it’s true whether it’s a person’s first or 401st time. But why are so many people resigned to having painful sex? Well, partly because we don’t talk about it enough. So let’s start now.
Read More10 Myths About Non-Binary People It’s Time to Unlearn
Many people grew up being told that all people were either male or female. So there’s widespread misinformation about being non-binary. Let’s clear up some things about non-binary people.
Read More4 Reasons Never to Tell Your Daughters to Be ‘Ladylike’
Terms like “ladylike” are in line with equally absurd terms like “acting Black” that lump behavior onto a particular group of people in an effort to reinforce dominant society’s assertion of what is considered desirable and acceptable social protocol. So here are my four top reasons for steering clear of labels and social graces when it comes to my daughters.
Read More17 Lies We Need to Stop Teaching Boys About Sex
Men and boys are a big part of the equation in discussions about sex positivity, so let’s debunk these 17 myths boys often learn about sex.
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