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Your Guide On How to Support Black People After Incidents of Police Violence
“#1. Don’t Demand We Share Our Thoughts On Every Black Murder.” It can be hard to know how to support black folks right now – but this guide is a start.
Read MoreA Love Letter to All The Feminists Who Don’t ‘Look Like’ Feminists
Do you fit the internal stereotypes of what a feminist supposedly “looks” like? We don’t all need to be the same kind of feminist, and this ode to the “uncool kids” of feminism is for you.
Read MoreWhy the Growing Alliance Between Police and White LGBTQIA+ Folks Is a Problem
Many white people in LGBTQIA+ communities see police as friends to the community, and incarceration as “a practical solution.” Here’s why we need to remember history and the reality of racialized police violence.
Read More6 Ways to Support Your Non-Binary Child
Non-binary kids are kids who feel that they are multiple genders, none, or some mixture thereof. As a former non-binary kid myself, this author has some thoughts about how best to parent non-binary kids. Because knowledge is power – and knowing how to wade through your child’s non-binary identity can help you be a better parent and your child be their authentic self!
Read More6 Things to Stop Saying to Single Women
From mean jokes to harassment, single women are subject to a particular kind misogyny in American society. The message is clear: We still believe women should prioritize marriage and motherhood over everything else. Demanding a woman’s life to follow this trajectory is another way of saying “I know what’s good for you better than you do.” And that’s oppressive.
Read MoreGetting With Girls Like Us: A Radical Guide to Dating Trans Women for Cis Women
Trans women are a component of queer women’s communities, so a lack of respect amongst us just means more devaluing of women, when society dishes out plenty of that for all of us already. So with that in mind, I have put together some suggestions for cis women on thinking through some basic trans issues, including ideas on approaching trans women in a romantic or intimate context.
Read MoreThe Problem with Saying ‘Everyone’s a Little Bisexual’
Wow, lots of different people are hurt by this “everyone’s a little bi” idea – so find out why it’s harmful, and what to say instead.
Read More5 Harmful Ways We Fail Teenage Girls as a Society
#4” “Their ambitions, opinions, and interests are dismissed as ‘fads.’” If you add to any of these ways society mistreats teenage girls, it’s time to rethink your approach.
Read MoreI’m a Trans Woman – And I’m Not Interested in Being One of the ‘Good Ones’
Too many people treat being trans as “something to avoid, to exclude, to escape, at worst to nobly bar up under.” And this author’s done with it.
Read MoreEssential Things to Think About for the Best Possible First Date with a Trans Woman
Check out this super cute comic to make sure you’re not perpetuating any anti-trans patterns. And have a great date!
Read MoreThe Truth Can Get a Little Hairy: Reflections on Body Hair, Feminism, and Trans Identity
Body hair is perfectly normal, so why do we get the message that it’s disgusting and unhygienic? The idea that people can monitor and police other people’s bodies is really messed up. Take it from this author, whose transition taught him that no one’s body fits expectations. Read about his love for his body and get inspired to love your own wild and lovely self.
Read MorePatricia Arquette’s Heart Is In the Right Place and We Still Need To Call Her In
You probably know the internet’s blowing up about Patricia Arquette. She spoke up at the Oscars about a really important issue – wage equality. So why all the criticism? Here’s what you need to know about what’s going on with her and other celebrities who speak up on sociopolitical issues – what she did right, where she went wrong, and why we should call her in.
Read More3 Reflections on the Intersection of Black and Gay
The only way to begin to understand unique intersections of identity is to listen to the perspectives of people who’ve lived those experiences. So to learn what it’s like to be Black and gay, you have to listen to the stories of Black gay and lesbian folks. In this video, members of the Black queer community speak up about the unique trials and triumphs they’ve faced.
Read More4 Ways to Come Out as Fat
As a fat person, I am often surrounded by people, messages, and media that work to ensure that I know that being fat is (supposedly) not okay. There are many ways that fat individuals try to manage living in the hostile environment, but I want to suggest doing something a little radical: coming out as fat. Here are some places to start.
Read MoreWhy Not Celebrating Pride Month Doesn’t Make Me #NotProud
As many of us do every year around this time, I got some invites to attend Pride Parades, wear my “gayest outfit” for bar/club crawls, and just “come out and celebrate!” I couldn’t put my finger on it, but somehow I was not motivated to go. What exactly are we proud of and celebrating? And on the flipside, what do we have left to tackle in the movement?
Read MoreDealing with the Stress of Being in the Closet
If you’ve been (or are) closeted, you’re already aware that it’s not that fun. But there are things that can ease the burden.
Read MoreGay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies
Some believe that since gay men do not want to be sexually intimate with women, our uninvited touching and groping is benign. In a culture that doesn’t see gay men as “men”, our sexist acts are instead read as “diva worship” or “celebrating women” even when they are acts of objectification, assault, and dehumanization. We must question these assumptions in ourselves and in our communities.
Read More10 Ways to Help Your Bisexual Friends Fight Invisibility and Erasure
For Bisexual Visibility Day, find out how to support your bi+ friends with these practical tips – and learn why visibility is so crucial.
Read MoreIt’s Not Just Sadness: How to Tell If You Might Have Depression
Do you know how depression shows up? Misunderstandings of depression symptoms might have you miss some of these signs.
Read More6 Things You’re Telling Me When You Say I’m a ‘Bad Asian’
Do you know why the idea that she’s “not Asian enough” is so harmful? It’s a lot more sinister than you may realize.
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