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Have you ever been treated like Kat Blaque describes?

We’ve all been there – just when you think you’ve become a good ally, somebody tells you that you’ve done or said something problematic. Here’s the good news: nobody’s perfect, so you’re not alone. Perfection is not what’s important, and being an ally doesn’t mean you can do no wrong. Read about what is important, and learn what to do if you make a mistake.

I was born with spastic cerebral palsy. I didn’t think in terms like beautiful/ugly. I was sometimes told I looked nice, but I didn’t expect to hear words like “beautiful” or “stunning” associated with my body. Ever. Those words were for able-bodied people. But now I know that there is room for bodies like mine to be gazed at for reasons other than difference.

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Some people think it’s contradictory to be a feminist and practice BDSM. With these tips, you can think through even more than safe words and and consent – and get kinky without compromising your values.

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Straddling the line of two worlds – in this case, radical politics and spiritual beliefs – wouldn’t be so hard if people realized that they can coexist.

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Women can do anything men can do, right? Well, maybe we should ask a different question: How can we base our empowerment of women on something other than the achievements of men? Here’s how how fiction and media like Game of Thrones can reinforce harmful ideas about womanhood or celebrate the power of women. Which would you rather have in a feminist hero?

These actions can help us move beyond a circular conversation about why we need diversity and toward meaningful change.

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This author knows from firsthand experience that the body acceptance movement has left transgender people largely invisible. How do these ideas change your approach to body positivity?

Degrassi’s Adamo Ruggiero visits his old high school for an awesome conversation that makes grateful for today’s young feminists.

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So, someone in your life has asked to be called by a different name. It can be tough to understand name changes at first and really hard to break the habit. But if you want this person to know that you respect them, it’s extremely important that you respect their name choice. How? Learn all about it with these helpful hints on how to navigate relearning a name.

As a woman, you may feel like the world is flooding your mental inbox with constant messages of how to think, feel, and behave. And as a member of the LGBTQ+ community, it may seem as though everyone feels entitled to comment on your “lifestyle” as well. People have some rigid ideas of how both women and gay people should go about their lives. You don’t have to listen to a word of them.

Language is an extremely finicky thing. Much like a snowball, a language picks up habits from the culture that uses it as time goes on, especially our really bad habits like racism, sexism, and homophobia. If a single word is enough to dismiss and disregard an entire population’s feelings, ideas, and humanity, you can imagine why those people would want it erased from society’s vocabulary.

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Wow, this is really bad advice. Does the Christian church’s monopoly on Western conversations on sex and marriage mean you’ve been subject to it?

If you want to make your disability known, go ahead! It’s a really important part of our lives and you should feel proud to embrace it. If you want to pass, rock on! It’s nice not to have to deal with ableist BS once in a while. No matter what you decide, remember that your disability doesn’t define you – online or offline.

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Think it’s wrong to self-diagnose her PTSD? Let’s talk about why you may be skeptical about self-diagnosis – and why it can useful for some folks with mental illness.

It’s heartbreaking to read what this author and their mother have gone through – but so important for understanding the impact of anti-immigration rhetoric.

Does this description of “cross orientation” apply to your attractions? Find out what it means when your sexual, romantic, and other orientations don’t match.

This author knows what it’s like to hear emotionally abusive words – but the voice they’re coming from is in his own head. Here’s a powerful account of what he’s gone through.

You might know about the type of non-monogamy that gets most mainstream media attention. But do you know these other relationship styles outside the status quo?

“This is not important. First world problems!” Do you know how you’re perpetuating oppression by making comments like these?