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Here’s What’s Okay (And Not Okay) to Say to a Trans Person – Once and For All
People have a lot of questions about what is and isn’t appropriate to say to a trans person. But getting this down is the most basic form of allyship. What would you add?
Read MoreDon’t Call My Sister ‘Cute’ – 6 Good Reasons to Stop Infantilizing Disabled People
You probably don’t think “cute” is an offensive word. But check out these common ways of treating disabled people like small children, and you’ll realize why this form of ableism is so messed up.
Read More10 Ways Men Can Combat Sexist Entitlement in Public
When we pair the entitlement that men too often feel with the everyday misogyny that women face, we have a dangerous combination. And we cannot expect women to be the only ones leading men to change. If we do, then we are surely contributing to the wider problem. So here are 10 simple ways that men can combat sexist entitlement in public.
Read More5 Reasons We Tell People They’re Not Really in Love – and Why We Need to Stop
“You’re just infatuated.” Ever used one of these reasons to tell someone they’re not in love? Here’s a good reminder that it’s not up to you to say.
Read More3 Differences Between the Terms ‘Gay’ and ‘Queer’ — and Why It Matters
“Gay” and “queer” are sometimes used interchangeably – but are they really the same? This author’s identifying a few of the differences that might just change your perspective on these terms.
Read More‘What Was She Wearing?’: When We Listen to Clothing Instead of People
Some of the most common victim-blaming lines refer specifically to clothing: “What was she wearing?” “With that outfit, she was asking for it.” It’s as if people don’t realize that people communicate with words, not with clothing. Check out this tongue-in-cheek imagining of what the world would be like if people were only able to communicate via clothing.
Read MoreNot All Asian Parents Reject Queer Children – Here’s the Truth Behind the Myth
Here’s why this stereotype is just a stereotype – and a racist, harmful one at that. Does this challenge any of your assumptions?
Read MoreThe Feminist Guide to Non-Racist Flirting With Women of Color
Do any of the scenarios that make this author’s skin crawl sound familiar to you? If you’re a white guy who dates women, you need to check out these essential tips before you approach a woman of color.
Read More8 Things You Need To Know About The Uncertain State of Trans Employment Under Trump
The trans community needs official institutions tasked with protecting our rights as individuals, especially from those that wish to marginalize us from our jobs and careers.
Read More9 Intersectional Parenting Tips for Parents with Privilege
“I want my kids to do better than me.” How can you pass on anti-oppressive values to your kids? With these tips, you can grow together every day.
Read More3 Ways That Gender Reveal Parties Can Be Harmful — Plus 3 Awesome Alternatives
Do gender reveal parties make sense anymore? They don’t have negative intentions, but here’s how these pink and blue extravaganzas can hurt people like this author – with ideas for what to do instead.
Read More8 Things You Only Know If You Are Born Intersex
Do you know what it means to be born intersex? The experiences and lives of intersex people are diverse, but here are some lessons this author has learned that everyone should know about.
Read MoreFeminist Homeschooling: We’re Not All Right-Wing Religious Folks
I know many religious homeschoolers. I also know many non-religious ones. I am happy to tell you that a homeschooled child has a great education; a great life filled with community interaction, volunteering, cultural immersion; and the opportunity to follow their passion. Homeschooling is a joyous lifestyle for many people, and it’s a beautiful choice that we get to make.
Read More4 Common Phrases That Demonstrate Internalized Misogyny
“#1: I’m not like other girls.” When the world tells you that you’re inferior, it’s hard not to start believing it – and these phrases can show that you’re internalizing some harmful messages.
Read More4 Ways Therapists Failed Me As a Woman
Stereotyping, making assumptions – it’s hard to find healing with mental health professionals following these patterns. Here’s what many therapists could do differently.
Read More5 Problems with the Social Idea That ‘Women Are More Aesthetically Pleasing’
Is it human nature to think that “women are more aesthetically pleasing?” This author has an important point on why we need to question the widespread idea that women are more pleasant to look at.
Read More9 Damaging Lies Doctors Told Me When I Was Growing Up Intersex
Doctors gave this author and their family lots of misleading information about being intersex. And they’re not the only family – lying is standard procedure. Here’s why we need doctors to stop the lies.
Read More5 Reasons Sylvia Rivera Is One of the Most Badass Radical Trans Heroes to Ever Live
Have you ever found parts of yourself reflected in a revolutionary hero’s story? That’s what this author found with Sylvia Rivera, who’s gaining more visibility – but still rarely given the respect she deserves. Find out why she’s such an inspiration.
Read MoreFive Secrets Every (LGBTQ+) Woman Should Know
As a woman, you may feel like the world is flooding your mental inbox with constant messages of how to think, feel, and behave. And as a member of the LGBTQ+ community, it may seem as though everyone feels entitled to comment on your “lifestyle” as well. People have some rigid ideas of how both women and gay people should go about their lives. You don’t have to listen to a word of them.
Read MoreMeat on Dem Bones: Confronting Fat Antagonism and Diet Culture in Black Beauty Politics
I’ve written several times about various aspects of fat antagonism. But because the body positivity, Health at Every Size, and fat acceptance movements trend very white, there is little discussion—both within these movements and outside of them—about body image issues for Black folk. That’s a problem for several reasons. Mostly because I’ve been having a…
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