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There are lots of ways to be a great “ally” – and innumerable ways to be a terrible one. But it’s not rocket science. There are simple things you can keep in mind and do in order to be a better person “currently operating in solidarity with” the marginalized or oppressed. And while this list is not comprehensive, it’s definitely somewhere to start. So “allies,” let’s talk.

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Are you a white feminist who doesn’t want to talk about racism? This author gets it, because she used to be one, too. The lessons she’s learned can give you a whole new outlook on what feminist conversations need to include.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the assumptions people make about living in a fat body. I want to break some of those erroneous assumptions about living in a fat body down. I want to talk about how it feels to live in a fat body.

Do you think education is what it takes to make us all equal? That’s what many people say – but this will show you why that’s just a big, victim-blaming myth.

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It doesn’t take an expert to know that the celeb moms we fawn over don’t have the typical post-pregnancy experience. But applauding “bouncing back” from a pregnant body is just one of the ways we send humiliating messages to people who have given birth. Have you internalized these messages? Here’s your guide to challenging the criticism of the post-pregnancy body.

Looking for evidence of rape culture in colleges and universities? These examples show just how dangerously normalized rape culture is in our schools.

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Being fetishized and shamed as a fat, Black, queer woman is so common that this author has come up with five essential questions about dating partners. Here’s an empowering take on what it means for her to be valued in a relationship.

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So many cis men have a difficult time accepting that they have male privilege. This article provides concrete, accessible examples of that privilege and it’s impact.

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Why do so many (including this author) love heels, in spite of their problems? These answers are fascinating. Do you have any to add?

“How do you know you’re a man?” If you’re cisgender, you probably don’t realize how ridiculous some of the things said to trans people sound. This hilarious video makes it so clear.

If someone comes out to you as trans, your job is to affirm and validate – not argue. Otherwise, you look like this.

“How do I have ‘cisgender’ privilege? I’m just normal. How is that a privilege?” This common attitude is how privilege can exist without being questioned. So here’s a list of privilege for people who aren’t trans so we can work together to help our society become more inclusive.

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This author has complicated relationships with food, body, and family. If you’re Asian American and you can relate, you’re not alone.

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This author just celebrated one year of sobriety – and he’s got some insights on supporting your loved ones that you might not have considered.

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“You play like a girl.” This man’s story of his first and last fight says so much about our society’s ideas of violence, what makes a “real man” – and who white male bullies like Donald Trump are hurting.

The patriarchy harms all people, regardless of gender identity, sex, or sexual orientation, by perpetuating oppressive and limiting gender roles, the gender binary, transphobia and cissexism, sexual assault, and the political and economic subordination of women. Watch Marina Watanabe discuss the pervasive and intricate ways patriarchy violates us all.

When I witnessed female classmates dropping out of school at an alarming rate with the express purpose of getting married and starting a family, I wondered, “are traditional gender roles what we fought for?” But later I realized the most important thing is to offer men and women the right to choose their own life path and not feel like their choices are restricted by their gender.

Pansexual? Asexual? Cisgender? What do all these terms mean – and what do they have to do with you? These definitions can help build your understanding of identity.

Society sure is stuck on the idea that you can determine gender from genitals – and that gender only comes in two options. And that’s frustrating! That’s why comic artist Sophie Labelle took to the Internet to remind folks to think beyond the gender binary. Check out these cute comics and share them with others who need the reminder!

Like adventure stories and taking down oppression? Then this comic is for you! It shows how kyriarchy works – as one big beast led by multiple systems that work together to keep us all down. And it also gives us some insight on what we’ve all been looking for, the key to defeating this oppressive beast so we can all live happily and harmoniously together.