There are so many beautiful intersections of LGBTQIA identity and love. This photo-series captures and celebrates the beauty of how contemporary Femme and Butch people express and love themselves, both autonomously and in relationship to each other. There is so much joy, passion, and pride in these pictures. This is what liberation looks like.

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Society tells us to be quiet and deal with the trauma of sexual violence alone. This complacency allows for continued violence, loneliness, and delayed healing. However, creating community through sharing our history with sexual violence is an empowering and revolutionary act of self love. Check out this article for strategies on how to safely share your story.

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Self-care is a revolutionary act when living in a world that tells us we—especially those of us with marginalized identities—are not worthy of care, forgiveness, and gentleness. It allows us to fight back against oppression by affirming that yes, we do deserve to feel good. We are inherently worthy of care and attention, and we shouldn’t feel guilty for it.

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If you do social justice work, you’ve undoubtedly suffered your fair share of abuse. And if you’ve been vocal about it, people have likely told you that “you must be doing something right” if people are angry. And I get their point. But sometimes, it doesn’t feel comforting. Here are some reasons why you might want to drop “you must be doing something right!”

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Multitasking — in all aspects of our lives — means we’re likely doing more for other people than we are for ourselves. And as if that isn’t a red flag on its own, here are some reasons why multi-tasking does more harm than good.

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I was twenty-nine when a boyfriend told me it was strange that I didn’t share my food when we went out. At the time, I thought, “Why would I want to share my food? I ordered it so I could enjoy it.” My philosophy? What was mine was mine, and yours was yours. Thinking about it, though, I realized that I kept more than just my peas and carrots to myself.

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There is a social conundrum for women in which speaking one’s opinion openly and flatly can be considered “un-ladylike.” Since every person and situation is different, only you will be able to decide what works in your life. But if you’re ever in a position where you feel uncomfortable or unwelcomed speaking up, here are a few suggestions that I hope can help.

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I was one of those kids that was always so worried about getting through college that I never gave much thought to what would happen after college. Before I knew it, graduation was around the corner and then, all of a sudden I was on my own thinking “Now what?” But you don’t have to punish yourself for being unemployed. Get out there and relish the break.

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Burn-out happens when you give more energy and compassion than you receive, and as a result, you lose sight of the light of hope at the end of the tunnel. For activists and people working in human service professions in particular, where we never get a respite from dealing with people face-to-face, burn-out feels inevitable. But it really doesn’t have to be.

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A key part of patriarchy is that men shouldn’t feel or express their feelings, except when they’re angry. With pervasive messages like “boys don’t cry” and “man up,” guys often don’t feel comfortable or know how to process their feelings. So let’s unpack why it can be so hard for men to feel and how they can start.

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When you’re depressed, anxious, abused, and/or have been isolated your whole life, it’s easy to feel like other people can’t really ever get close. Socializing is really hard for people who’ve had nothing but abuse. And we keep waiting for someone healthy to save us. But they can’t. So how can we fight this process and end the cycle? Here are some ways to get started.

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Teen and “tween” (that difficult, in-between age of 9-12) girls nowadays have it rough. Contrast this with the caveman era that I grew up in, that oh-so-long-ago decade known as the 1990s, in which girls could simply chillax and be themselves…kind of. But before we roll our eyes at the behavior of “kids these days,” we should at least consider how our adolescence was different.

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