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I Really Want to Be Well: Healing Trauma is Central to My Feminist Practice
Many of us have been wounded by the violent patriarchal, heteronormative, and racist structures that are the pillars of capitalism, empire, and colonization. Many of us long to be free. Healing ourselves — body, spirit, and mind — is essential to feminism. We must bring radical love back to the center of our movements. Radical self-love and self-care are central components to social justice.
Read MoreWhat’s My Purpose?
Now, although I love investing emotionally in movies, I am always cognizant that they show the before and after transformation quickly, never expounding upon the work that it takes to reach the end goal. And I always recognized that this part was unrealistic. But it made me wonder: How was I supposed to figure out what I wanted to be? How was I supposed to achieve it?
Read MoreFeel Better About Yourself: Cut These Five Words
Paying attention to how you use your words is core to keeping the relationship you have with yourself healthy. By cutting certain words and phrases out of my vernacular, I’ve created more space for more positive thoughts and feelings. Letting go of limiting speech has helped me like myself more – because now I’m not criticizing who I am at every turn. And that’s helped me make myself a priority.
Read MoreCreating Change through Acceptance
I can’t think of an instance where someone (a client, a friend, myself) hated something into changing. Not one. Single. Instance. It doesn’t create change. If anything, it only creates more stress. If you really want to change a habit, or a situation, or how you feel about yourself, the only route that will bring you any peace is to start with acceptance.
Read MoreHow to Be Upset (In a Good Way)
When you’re angry, the question isn’t about whether or not your feelings are valid – because they are. But rather: Is there a healthier way to respond? Anger is a perfectly healthy human emotion. But what you do with that anger can be hurtful. Here are some ways to identify our go-to reactions so that we can better prepare ourselves to make choices when it comes to our emotional expressions.
Read MoreWhat Does Being Emotionally Healthy Look Like?
I had learned that it was “best” to seem healthier or present a plastic version than to reveal the real, hurting me. But inside, I felt fried, blitzed, scattered. At some point, I decided that I had had enough of that. It needed to stop. I needed to change. But I wasn’t even sure what my image of emotional healthiness was. Here are some ways I learned that worked for me and may work for you.
Read More3 Steps Toward Changing Your Relationship with Something You Don’t Like About Yourself
I went through a decade where I didn’t like much of anything about myself. I would sit for hours wondering what was wrong with me, why I wasn’t like so-and-so, or why I couldn’t just like myself. And then I got so fed up with not knowing how to change that I no longer cared that I didn’t know how to do it. I was going to do it anyway. And now, I want to share how I did it — in three reflective steps.
Read MoreWhy You Should Stop Comparing Yourself To Others (And How To Do It)
When we lose this comparison battle, we feel bad, jealous, envious, and less than whole. When we win the comparison battle, we feel a bit of satisfaction mixed with an underlying fear that we may have won this battle, but what if things change and we lose out next time? In essence, comparing yourself to others is always a losing game. So here’s how to stop comparing and start enjoying what you’ve got.
Read More5 Ways To Switch From Sabotaging Thoughts To Empowering Ones
It’s easy for me to let negative thoughts creep into my mind and follow them down dark pathways where I not only feel misguided but also frightened. For so long I had been disconnected from my wants and needs, I had been following the script I had learned from others. So here are the techniques I use to delete my mocking, critical, mafia mind to make room for the good stuff.
Read More6 Strategies for Getting Unstuck and Creating a Life You Love
Do you feel stuck? At rock bottom? You’re not alone. Many people with big goals can’t seem to figure out how to make their dreams come true and are told that they’re not good enough. So here’s some empowering strategies for overcoming obstacles, facing your fears, and moving on to a fuller, freer life based on my work with formerly incarcerated women who built meaningful lives after prison.
Read MoreCellulite, Rimples, And Dimples – A Beautiful Reality Check
Don’t let your cellulite, wrinkles, sagging skin, or whatever else hold you back from living a full and active and awesome life. Don’t let media convince you that those body characteristics are shameful, gross, or anything other than 100% normal, healthy, and part of a truly beautiful reality. Let’s redefine beauty for ourselves by making it more inclusive of reality — warts, er…dimples, and all!
Read MoreThe Healing Power of Community
As important as self-care can be, for many of us, communal care is equally as vital. Healing community is about holding space: holding space for love, care, reflection, laughter, crying, feeling what we’re feeling, dancing, screaming, sorting through, moving past, sitting with, or for whatever else we may need.
Read More4 Ways to Stay Grounded After the Election
Our fear after Donald Trump’s election is valid – but how can we keep it from getting overwhelming? These self-care ideas can help.
Read MoreBlack Lives Matter: 25+ Resources for Your Conversations on Police Violence
How do you handle conversations on police violence and racism? This list can help, with info on structural racism, allyship, self-care for Black folks, and more.
Read MoreWhen You’ve Internalized Racism as Self-Hate, Connecting with Your Ethnicity Can Change Everything – Like It Did for this Korean-American Woman
This author’s story of coming out as Korean-American can touch anyone who ever thought they were less valuable because they weren’t white. Can you relate?
Read More6 Mental Health Tips for Survivors with Post-Election Anxiety
With a president-elect who has bragged about sexual assault, US survivors can use self-care right now. These ideas from Uplift Rebellion can help.
Read More5 Ways to Share Your Fitness Life on Social Media More Thoughtfully
It’s okay to practice fitness in whatever way feels good to you – so it can be frustrating to be told that posting about your self-care might be triggering. This author gets it, and has some great strategies to help.
Read More3 Ways to Use Selfies to Make Peace with Your Mental Illness
What’s your opinion on selfies? Check out this author’s insights on how people with mental illness, disability, and neurodivergence can use them for self-care, and you might get a whole new outlook.
Read MoreSex After Sexual Assault: A Guide for When It’s Tough
Sex after sexual assault can be tough. So here’s a helpful guide to getting all the self-care and pleasure you deserve after surviving sexual assault.
Read MoreHow to Survive the Holidays in a Cross-Class Relationship
It’s your job to do what you can to educate yourself and show up for your partner in ways big and small.
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