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Whispers from the mainstream media, pornography, friends, and locker room walls sell lies, telling us what we want to hear, convincing us of untruths. It’s like a game of Telephone, but what’s at stake is our understanding of ourselves and our relationships. And that’s a dangerous game. So here’s the truth – about penises.

I started watching porn in elementary school and now can’t climax without fantasizing about porn during sex. I feel estranged from my sexuality, like it’s somebody else’s. So I’m trying to reprogram myself — unlearn my socialized porn-inspired sexuality. I want to reclaim my sexual desires and figure out what feels good through honest sensual exploration.

She was terrified after hearing that sex would hurt. But painful sex is not inevitable – and these are some awful results of saying that it is.

“I’m not into Asian dudes.” Is it just a “preference” when so many people fetishize East Asian women and ignore men? Franchesca Ramsey shares what’s really going on.

In a world where sexual violence is still the butt of too many jokes, Liz Miele flawlessly drenches humor in feminism and wrings patriarchy down the drain.

Contrary to popular belief, being sexually active does not automatically mean a teen has problems and is in need of help. With the appropriate education and resource, sexual connection can be healthy for teenagers. But treating sexually active teens as delinquents and stigmatizing them can create the very problems many claim to be trying to avoid.

With inaccurate media representations and the cultural stigma, there are a lot of misconceptions about people in the sex industry. We too often fail to see the complexity and diversity in who is engaged in commercial sex, why they’re doing it, and the degree of consent and coercion involved. These myths keep us from seeing this issue for what it really is. So let’s debunk them.

Intersex is one of the often-left out categories when the LGBTQIAP alphabet is abbreviated as LGBT. The QUIAP is often ignored completely or briefly covered, but people who have these identities are marginalized not only in society, but also often within LGBTQIAP spaces themselves! Intersex identities exist. And we need to start recognizing them.

Saying “no” to a request for a sexual activity can often bring up feelings of shame and awkwardness, even with people we’re in ongoing relationships. When you have trouble saying “no” to a simple (platonic) request, how do you say it to someone that you actually really like and want to do something sexual with later? Here are some ways to develop your comfort with saying “no.”

Pornography sucks at depicting realistic sex, including lesbian sex. Yes, it’s supposed to be a fantasy. But the problem with that excuse is that without any factual knowledge to keep you grounded paired with misconceptions already being spread by mainstream media, you can become miseducated and end up believing that’s what they’re probably like. And that has a real effect on queer women.

I want my consent to be fun, freaky, sexy, silly, seductive, creative, captivating! I want it all, and I want it healthy and mutual! What’s wonderful, though, is that it can be ALL of these things and more. Studies have shown that healthy, open communication leads to better sex. And who doesn’t want better sex? Here are some ways asking for and giving consent can be fun and satisfying.

I have three kids — 15, 18, and 20 — and none of them has gotten pregnant, impregnated anyone, or gotten an STD (at least, as far as I know). And they talk to me about lots of things, including sex. Sometimes too much. If you want to achieve the same kind of open dialogue I have with my spawn, here are my eight tips for how to talk to your kids about sex.

The idea that family members don’t want to know about each other’s sex lives is pretty popular – but it’s having some damaging results.

If you got sex tips like this author did, from sources like women’s magazines, you may have absorbed some unhealthy messages. These are much healthier.

Aiming for orgasm can be empowering, right? Not for everyone. So here’s how having a less climax-focused sex life has helped this author.

Bratz, Barbie, Polly Pocket – can you criticize the sexualization of these dolls without sending negative messages to kids about girls’ bodies? These ideas can help.

Is your queer community super sex-positive? That may not always be a good thing – check this out for some important reasons why.

Think it’s just “natural” to separate bathrooms by sex? This info on the sexism behind it will make you think again – with even more evidence of why trans restroom access matters.

Are school dress codes really about helping create a learning environment? What happened to this author’s daughter will show you why they’re not.

#1: “How do I look?” These thoughts are pretty common during sex – but have you considered how misogyny might be the source? Here’s how to deal.