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We often talk about how important consent is, but what, exactly, is consent? Here it is – a video from Lex Croucher covering the basics of what it means to consent to sexual activity. Rape, sexual assault, and coercion are far too common among all types of people. So spread the word, and let’s raise awareness of this clear understanding of consent. (Content Warning: Rape)

Is it “just for fun” when we love to hate on women in the media like Kim Kardashian? What does that say about us? What we need to know about our role in a dangerous kind of sexism.

There’s been a lot of criticism in feminist and kink communities over the “Fifty Shades of Grey” series – first as novels, and now as movies. And the biggest problem is that what’s being depicted here isn’t really BDSM – it’s intimate partner violence, from stalking behavior to ignoring safe words. Watch this video to learn more about the controversy.

Have gender stereotypes led you to have sex when you didn’t want to? Your sex life shouldn’t be defined by stereotypes. Understanding how culture influences our choices around sex can empower us to talk about our desires and needs openly and sincerely. This article will help you understand and feel empowered. Learn how myths can impact you — and what to do about it.

It’s important to discuss kink from a feminist perspective because of the harm that misinformation about our desires can cause. This misinformation can lead to feelings of disempowerment in one’s a/sexuality and relationships, and erardicating that should be part of the foundation of any intersectional feminist movement. So let’s bust three common myths about BDSM.

I’ve talked before about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men. Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it. One of the best places to start is to talk about sex. Specifically: male virginity and the shame in not having sex. Let’s talk about the problems with the way we think about male virginity and how to fix them.

Hookup culture. Everybody’s doing it. But maybe let’s take a step back and think about how – and who – this upward trend in casual sex is affecting: Is it healthy? Is it fostering equality? Is it beneficial for all? Or does it continue to uphold patriarchal memes?

When it comes to sexuality and feminism, one of the biggest roadblocks that we face – both in unlearning our own educations and in teaching others – is how social messages conflict with our own authenticity. What are some ways in which we can transform public thought about sexual “norms” and reconcile our feminist beliefs with social norms surrounding sex?

Revenge porn – never heard of it? This new internet craze, specifically focused on women, occurs when a person shares a sexual or nude photo or video with a partner or hookup who later decides to make the private photo public. And in most places, it’s perfectly legal. So what can be done in these types of situations? Let’s look at the options we have.

Many a misguided attempt at flirting or misread signal can result in feeling pressured to have sex when you don’t want to. If it crosses into forceful action, or coercion, then your best course of action may be to call the police. But what about the run-of-the-mill misunderstandings? How do you handle those situations and make your intentions clear?

Cosmo has a lot to say about sex. But what they have to say is based on tired stereotypes, heteronormativity, and traditional gender roles. As such, most of their “advice” is anything but helpful. They aren’t giving women the factual and comprehensive information about sex that they probably need. So instead, remember these rules for having great sex.

A lot of pornography is proudly misogynistic, but it doesn’t have to be like that. There’s no reason a video can’t be sexually explicit and still present women as human beings who have an equal right to sexual desire, pleasure, and satisfaction. There’s no reason that porn can’t present women as sexual collaborators with men rather than as sexual conquests of men.

With rare exceptions, no one who is throwing a party spends the time, energy, and money so that people will get assaulted. Yet there is a clear connection between college party culture and sexual violence. To mitigate the risk, most colleges simply take a punitive approach (with varying levels of alcohol education thrown in) to alcohol on campus. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Virginity, supposedly, is sacred. But I have news for you: It doesn’t have to be. All it takes is a little bit of myth-busting, a little bit of education, and we can turn around the conversation about virginity. So let me help you navigate through the murky waters of these four myths about virginity. Join me. We’re long overdue.

How can I pick what to watch without feeling like I’m condoning all of the sexist hoopla draped all over the majority of videos I might choose? Masturbation isn’t supposed to be this morally fraught, right? If it’s such a hassle, you might say, why not forgo the pornography parade altogether? It’s pretty simple: I like porn. The porn industry, on the other hand, is a whole different beast.

Girls are often raised more conservatively and are socially conditioned to set limitations on sexual activity. And if the movie industry is an extension of our world, you can expect it to be just as sexist and patriarchal. But you don’t have to accept it. When we write our stories and demand to see them portrayed, we redefine what is normal. Redefining normal is easier than you think.

Most sexual education is terrible! Here’s a guide for cisgender girls and women with what you need to know before having sex for the first time.

It’s time that men start having more accountable conversations about healthy, positive sexuality. Here’s a great place to start.

Most articles about being a good lover begin with “How to Please Your Man” directives. Not this one. The heart of being a good lover starts with communication and self-awareness, making sure that you always carry a self-awareness and communication tool-kit. So here are a few more pointers that I’ve developed on how to take a feminist approach to good loving.

Even though you think of your first time as far behind you, the truth is: new partners enter your life. And every time you’re with someone new, you’re having sex for the first time all over again. So, to ensure that you’ll have great sex any first time around, I’ve come up with the following delicious recipe. Spolier alert: All it takes is communication.