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Bisexual folks have been made the butt of so many jokes, have had their identities excluded from queer communities, and have been accused of perpetuating transphobia and the gender binary. But the castigation of bi identities from queer and gender non-conforming movements reinforces a prejudice that harms people across the gender and sexuality spectrum.

“I don’t need feminism because I’m not a victim!” Ever believed one of these myths about feminism? Let’s debunk these misconceptions.

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If you’re a white cis gay man, you know what it’s like to be marginalized. But you still have the most societal power in the LGBTQIA+ community, so here’s how you can use it to lift up the less privileged members of the community.

One of the most everyday challenging parts of coming out as transgender is the resistance people have to changing the pronouns they use. Sure, some slip-ups are understandable at first. But when people actively refuse to use your pronouns, then that’s a whole other story. Here are ten things that this refusal actually signifies to the trans person.

All men have been hurt by the traditional gender system. You may have accepted these realities as just part of being a guy. But feminists say that’s not right and men are more than that.

What do we really mean by “boys will be boys”? We need to stop what this expectation of masculinity is doing to men and boys.

There is a war against women, and men and boys are trained everyday to be the soldiers. Misogynist violence isn’t the biological imperative of men. Misogyny is beaten into boys and woven into the fabric of “successful masculinity”. It’s time for men in the millions to declare that we will no longer act as the soldiers in the war against women.

Some detrimental cultural ideals run so deep that no one even questions whether they might operate as support beams of status quo oppression. Let’s take the word “bitch” for example. As an exercise in identifying some potentially hibernating connotations that can perpetuate harmful gender stereotypes, here are a few common uses of the word “bitch” and their problematic subtexts.

As a hairy South Asian girl, this author was ridiculed and was made to remove his facial and body hair from a young age. And even after he came out as a trans man and was using he/him pronouns, it took him two years to let his facial hair grow. Why? Find out with this compelling story of overcoming the Western beauty and gender standards that impact us all.

Trans, gender non-conforming, and non-binary people have not been centered in the LGBTQIA+ movement. The LGBTQIA+ movement that we witness in television, print media, and in the law is predominantly a white, gay, and masculine movement. However, when one looks behind the scenes, we witness the emotional, physical, and spiritual labor of femmes, people of…

If you grew up in the United States, it is almost inevitable that you’ve been subject to a few standard aphorisms. These include things like: “Anyone can make it here if they try hard enough,” “Nothing worth having comes easy,” “Hard work pays off,” “Winners never quit, and quitters never win,” and “Success is no…

What’s white male fragility? Take a look at our president-elect and you’ll have a good idea. Here’s what we’re up against.

Before you jump in with “Women do it, too!” or “It’s no big deal,” check out this info on how male entitlement relates to much bigger issues. We see #2 around here a lot.

Here’s a lesson for any cause: If we don’t get to the root of the issue, all we’re doing is pulling some individuals to safety while losing others. In combatting sexual violence, we must work to help survivors heal, seek justice, and find the new normal in their life, but that cannot be our only work. We must prevent sexual violence before it happens. But how do we do that? What does it look like?

Trans men, like all people, need to know how to have fulfilling, safe, healthy sex to feel whole and good about ourselves. We deserve it (and don’t let anyone tell you differently). But most out trans boys, trans men, and trans masculine people I know receive inadequate, if not wholly non-existent, sex talks. So here are seven key places to start.

Many of us learn that attraction is innate – but do you know how desirability politics can create some oppressive beauty standards? Here’s why we have to recognize this influence in our lives.

Some people think its funny when boys joke about rape. They argue that people who speak out against those jokes, and the culture that encourages and allows them, are humorless. But those boys eventually turn into teenagers and men, some of whom DO commit actual sexual violence that predominately, but not exclusively, target women. This must stop now!

When someone wants to tear apart my writing, they often bring up my presumed gender to do so. My presumed femaleness is never mentioned with respect. They say, “Stop being so easily offended, b*tch.” Femaleness is used to discredit me in a way that maleness is not. When I’m presumed male, my maleness never comes up at all. Because maleness is our societal default setting, it’s never mentioned.

“It was not uncommon to hear ‘There is no worse fate than to be fat and gay.’” Cristen Conger is examining some of the top theories on body image on gay men. Do any of them relate to your experience?

A lot of folks don’t think twice about this info, but it’s important for us to know. How do social ideas about sex and gender affect you?