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Why do so many straight girls think being seen as a lesbian is an insult? Unpacking the driving social forces behind the fear shows how we’ve been taught to cater to the male gaze. Here’s how to break the cycle, de-condition yourself from patriarchal beliefs about femininity, and eradicate lesbophobia and queerphobia among women. As long as you’re happy in your own skin, rock on.

As a gay feminist, I’ve had to tell many the straight boy, “Those jokes make me feel uncomfortable. Please stop.” The percussive nature of gay rape jokes can certainly get a laugh, but they also speak to some of our societal attitudes regarding rape and queer sexuality. Here are some answers to the question, “Why do people think gay rape jokes are okay?”

If you’re not going to support marginalized folks, then we can’t be friends, let alone date. The personal is political.

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Two genders don’t cover all the ways of existing. So if gender doesn’t mean what we’re taught it means, what does that say about gender-based sexualities? This author shares their discoveries on gender and sexuality.

People often assume the black community is alright with casual homophobia, including black people ourselves. When people make a disparaging comment about gay people that’s so “normal” that no one checks them on it but then claim to be supportive of LGBTQ people, it can be hard to tell who’s supportive or not. So let’s not make it so hard to tell by standing up to normalized casual homophobia.

If American people are truly worried about terrorism and the safety of their country and people, then we need to shift our focus onto white terrorists, as they increasingly seem to be the real threat.

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So you know the basics of how male privilege shows up – but do you know these subtler examples that are harder to identify? Addressing these can make a big difference beyond standing up to blatant sexism.

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It’s a long word, but once you get this breakdown, you’ll recognize the invisible ways this shows up in your life.

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Did you notice these things in mainstream media coverage of the Orlando shooting? Here’s what to do to when the media aren’t doing justice to communities in crisis.

I’ve talked before about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men. Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it. One of the best places to start is to talk about sex. Specifically: male virginity and the shame in not having sex. Let’s talk about the problems with the way we think about male virginity and how to fix them.

Want to create true diversity? The first step is knowing it’s going to come through hard work, not a certificate or a one-time event. We need true diversity, which is very different from its gross cousin “diversity.” Read this article to learn the difference, and get concrete strategies for reforming the systemic problems in the culture around you.

Transmisogyny is a word that many people don’t know about or understand. But we must stand up to bias against trans women – and this shows why and how.

Feeling like you missed the memo on all the “new” terms about transgender identities? This simple guide can help you catch up and learn what gender really means.

Have you noticed the double standard society applies to men who use sex toys? Cristen Conger’s shutting down the stereotypes, and breaking down what this stigma says about modern masculinity.

Nursing is very much a gender defined industry and one that has historically been dominated by women. And the work force certainly reflects that. I have had to explain why I work as a nurse because people often think that’s not what “real men” do. We need to work to break down this stereotype and value nursing work and nurses of all genders.

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These experts say that if we want to end sexual violence, we’ve got to start with better sex education. How else do you think sex ed could be improved?

Due to patriarchy, our society does not want to acknowledge the frequency and impact of sexual violence directed at boys and men. Because of the misogynist socialization of masculinity, boys are taught to embrace and celebrate their abuse. This leads to years of silent trauma for too many men. Let’s debunk some of these harmful stereotypes and inaccurate myths.

Male allies are extremely important and valuable to the feminist movement! They use their positions of privilege to further the cause in ways that women can’t, and for that we’re grateful. That said, there are a few trends in male feminist behavior that could definitely stand to change. Watch Melissa A. Fabello give a few tongue-in-cheek reminders to male feminists.

There is no one way to do TJ — it looks different because communities are different, geography is different, violence is different

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Society tells boys it’s not okay to explore gender fluidity – but what if you don’t fit the “norm” of masculinity?