If you’re newly single, you shouldn’t have to feel embarrassed about how you heal – and that includes if you heal in a sexual way or if you choose not to. You might get a lot of advice and judgments. But here’s all the post-breakup bedroom advice you need: a comic to remind you that you know what’s best and healthiest for you, no matter what anyone else says.

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So you’ve figured out that you’re polyamorous. Awesome! But you’re also currently in a monogamous relationship. Uh-oh. Entering into a polyamorous relationship from a previously monogamous one can take work – but not only is it not impossible. It also can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships! Check out this comic to learn how to talk to your partner about your polyamory.

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(Trigger Warning: Rape and rape culture) Do you believe reporting rape is the best way to fight rape culture? A lot of people do, and it’s understandable to think that reporting rape would lead to more rape convictions and prevention. But the truth is, it’s not that simple. To tackle rape culture, we have to challenge the dangerous idea that survivors have a responsibility to report and support the choices of survivors.

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Too often, conversations around what healthy relationships look like completely ignore relationships that fall outside of the heterosexual, monogamous framework that our society so desperately wants us to cling to. But there are all sorts of ways to have relationships – including within asexuality, polyamory, and kink – and they all can be healthy and satisfying.

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If you feel like sex is “kind of like dessert – a good thing when it happens, but not something you would actively seek out” because you need a deep emotional connection in order to experience sexual desire, it’s possible that you could be demisexual. Check out this author’s journey from confusion to asexuality to coming out as demisexual.

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Recently, California passed the “Yes Means Yes” law, which dictates that “an affirmative, unambiguous and conscious decision” must be reached by everyone involved to engage in sexual activity. This was a huge step in the fight against rape culture! What does this decision mean in terms of our society’s view of sex and consent? Check out this video to find out!

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I’m not going to tell you that labels are for soup cans, although I understand that sentiment. But the secret that no one is telling you is this: This is who you are, and your experience is valid – with or without a label affixed. But for everyone who’s got a hold on identifying their feelings, but needs help figuring out a label, let’s talk about it.

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You’ve seen the signs: “Pregnant? Scared? Alone? We Can Help.” Have you ever responded to one? Thousands of women have. Usually promising free services like pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, and “judgment-free” counseling, these centers reach out to women in potentially vulnerable positions, claiming to offer hope and help. But what are they really like?

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Jenna Marbles posted a video expressing her opinions about women who she referred to as “sluts.” In a response to this, popular vlogger Hayley Hoover explains how the video could negatively affect Jenna’s audience of primarily young women. Watch Hayley explain how setting up a dichotomy between “sluts” and “regular girls” leads to rape, and the internalization of blame on the part of rape victims.

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Erin McKelle argues that part of the reason why people are so bad at getting consent is because they don’t know what consent looks like. So what does consent look like, and how does it work? Well, for one thing, let’s talk about the importance of enthusiasm when it comes to consent in that it shows actual interest in sex, rather than complacency.

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The “gray area” we have come to know as an inevitable part of sex is a product of our culture’s unhealthy approach to sex. But this murky confusion does not have to and should not exist. We need to talk openly about the “gray area” myth and how it plays out in order to recognize instances in which consent is being assumed where it does not exist and in order to have truly consensual sexual experiences.

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Certain memories of my father stick out on my mind. I remember how he joked that he liked women who looked cheap. I remember I rolled my eyes and laughed with him, I didn’t find it funny at all. Because what did it mean for me, a girl just past puberty, hoping to be wanted by the world? What would I have to do to get love and attention? Who would I have to be?

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Sexuality isn’t a choice. So it may seem confusing to some when people say that they feel that their sexuality is fluid. But being sexually fluid doesn’t mean a person is confused. For a person to know and accept their sexuality as fluid, they must be self-aware. So let’s learn a little more about sexual fluidity.

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While most of us see sexual violence as horrific, too often the primary type we see as “real” is stranger rape. This makes it harder to listen to survivors who know their perpetrators, which is the majority of the time. In this video, psychologist Dr. Burrowes explains why we need to broaden our understanding of sexual violence in order to acknowledge it every time it happens.

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